How the hell do you get out of the friend zone?

rhcpjam1029

this is a more of a question for girls to answer...but how can guys get out of the friend zone?

i don't even know how i manage to get there in the first place. i just like being really nice. girls always tell me that i'm "too nice." then i look at their jackass boyfriends that treat them like such garbage and i can't even imagine compelling myself to act like that.

i don't understand! it's like i'm doing good things for the wrong reason.

please help. thanks.

heidihi

You have to not start out as a friend in the first place. If your interested show your interest from the outset. That said I married my best friend but when we became friends he had no interest in me. :?

blenderman69

i'm not a girl, i'm a dude. but i can answer your question.your shit out of luck...move on,she'll never be more than a friend.girls know within the first thirty seconds if she'll ever sleep with you. sorry dude,she's just not that into you. am i right ladies?

Claireack

I worked with my hubby for 3 months before we got together, so I do think we were friends first, cheap wine helped us get it together.

Thats not much help really, sorry.

fuck

lots of alcohol and possibly weed

mca47

Damn near impossible to get out of the "friend zone". It's possible, but it ain't easy!

PJGARDEN

blenderman69 wrote:

i'm not a girl, i'm a dude. but i can answer your question.your shit out of luck...move on,she'll never be more than a friend.girls know within the first thirty seconds if she'll ever sleep with you. sorry dude,she's just not that into you. am i right ladies?

I disagree. The longer I know a guy, the more attracted, or unattracted depending on the guy, he becomes to me. Attraction can and does build over time.

Does this girl know how you feel about her? How long have you been in the "friend zone." There is a good chance she has no clue how you feel. Guys always claim to be clueless about this stuff, but girls are too. Tell her how you feel and gauge her reaction.

justam

This is so easy, contrary to what people say.

Just be brave and kiss her when the opportunity arises. She'll let you know at that point whether she's interested or not.

The longer you go without attempting anything, the more she'll think you're not interested in her that way.

JordyWordy

justam wrote:

This is so easy, contrary to what people say.

Just be brave and kiss her when the opportunity arises. She'll let you know at that point whether she's interested or not.

The longer you go without attempting anything, the more she'll think you're not interested in her that way.

this is the answer. make a move. otherwise nothing will happen. its not gona sort itself out magically, you have to do something. its worth it if you like this girl.

rhcpjam1029

justam wrote:

This is so easy, contrary to what people say.

Just be brave and kiss her when the opportunity arises. She'll let you know at that point whether she's interested or not.

The longer you go without attempting anything, the more she'll think you're not interested in her that way.

but i mean will that destroy my relationship with her as a friend if she rejects me?

i'm only 18 and i don't drink or whatever but it seems that everyone who has a girlfriend got her that way because of a drunk hook-up. love these days is just all unacquainted. i hate it.

i just want some woopie without making all these sacrifices.

blenderman69

rhcpjam1029 wrote:

justam wrote:

This is so easy, contrary to what people say.

Just be brave and kiss her when the opportunity arises. She'll let you know at that point whether she's interested or not.

The longer you go without attempting anything, the more she'll think you're not interested in her that way.

but i mean will that destroy my relationship with her as a friend if she rejects me?

i'm only 18 and i don't drink or whatever but it seems that everyone who has a girlfriend got her that way because of a drunk hook-up. love these days is just all unacquainted. i hate it.

i just want some woopie without making all these sacrifices.

then you need chinese massage with happy ending!LOL!

justam

rhcpjam1029 wrote:

justam wrote:

This is so easy, contrary to what people say.

Just be brave and kiss her when the opportunity arises. She'll let you know at that point whether she's interested or not.

The longer you go without attempting anything, the more she'll think you're not interested in her that way.

but i mean will that destroy my relationship with her as a friend if she rejects me?

i'm only 18 and i don't drink or whatever but it seems that everyone who has a girlfriend got her that way because of a drunk hook-up. love these days is just all unacquainted. i hate it.

i just want some woopie without making all these sacrifices.

I'll tell you an adult secret that I learned the hard way.

You will ALWAYS want her to be more than your friend so being afraid to jeopardize the friendship is really just being afraid that you'll find out she doesn't want you. BUT.

And, listen to this, this is the important part. You'll get more hurt if you go on being her friend for a long time because you'll just grow to love her more and more and then you'll have to face the rejection later.

Think about this...it's better to get it out of the way earlier rather than after investing months or years into her.

If you get rejected, it'll hurt later MORE.

Whizbang

justam wrote:

rhcpjam1029 wrote:

but i mean will that destroy my relationship with her as a friend if she rejects me?

i'm only 18 and i don't drink or whatever but it seems that everyone who has a girlfriend got her that way because of a drunk hook-up. love these days is just all unacquainted. i hate it.

i just want some woopie without making all these sacrifices.

I'll tell you an adult secret that I learned the hard way.

You will ALWAYS want her to be more than your friend so being afraid to jeopardize the friendship is really just being afraid that you'll find out she doesn't want you. BUT.

And, listen to this, this is the important part. You'll get more hurt if you go on being her friend for a long time because you'll just grow to love her more and more and then you'll have to face the rejection later.

Think about this...it's better to get it out of the way earlier rather than after investing months or years into her.

If you get rejected, it'll hurt later MORE.

take heed to these words, mi amigo.

someone said it earlier that women/girls make a decision about whether you're sexually attractive or not very quickly....and they're right. If they're not interested sexually at the start, they'll play the friend card. She could grow attracted to you but if you know you want more,lay it on the table now. If you don't, it does equal more hurt later.

LikeAnOpeningBandForTheSun

in short: cut your losses with whoever youre friends with now and get over it cuz it aint happening. then next time be as direct as possible early and dont settle for friendship.

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PJGARDEN wrote:

blenderman69 wrote:

i'm not a girl, i'm a dude. but i can answer your question.your shit out of luck...move on,she'll never be more than a friend.girls know within the first thirty seconds if she'll ever sleep with you. sorry dude,she's just not that into you. am i right ladies?

I disagree. The longer I know a guy, the more attracted, or unattracted depending on the guy, he becomes to me. Attraction can and does build over time.

Does this girl know how you feel about her? How long have you been in the "friend zone." There is a good chance she has no clue how you feel. Guys always claim to be clueless about this stuff, but girls are too. Tell her how you feel and gauge her reaction.

I completely agree with this. The only guys I've ever truly fallen in love with have been my friends first. I have no (serious) interest in guys I hardly know or guys who want to be with me but wouldn't want to be my friend.

Instead of just laying it out there though, I would suggest flirting with her. Let her know how you feel in a less direct way and gauge her response. That way you'll open the door for her to start thinking of you in that way.

rhcpjam1029 wrote:

but i mean will that destroy my relationship with her as a friend if she rejects me?

That's up to you. If you're a big baby about it and can't handle rejection or won't take no for an answer or don't want to be friends with her unless she wants to get with you, then THAT'S what will destroy your relationship - not the mere fact that you're attracted to her and you let her know. It's all about how you handle it.

rhcpjam1029 wrote:

i just want some woopie without making all these sacrifices.

I'm not entirely sure what you mean by this. But if you mean that all you really want is to fuck her and you're not really interested in friendship, then pull your head out of your ass and leave the poor girl alone. Go find a prostitute; don't disrespect your friend.

Hammerdonkey

When you have a moment alone with a woman and you feel a certain vibe, just whip your dick out. Everything else will take care of itself. The last thing men need are women friends we can't bang. We all know that. When you get married, go ahead and try to keep some close female friends. I dare you. I hope you liked your penis. It'll be chopped off. Wives don't tolerate close female friends with their husbands. So, long story short, if you can hit the pootie, serve that tang like a butler in Beverly Hills. If she wants to be friends, you need to hang with more whores.

Whores are fun people.

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Hammerdonkey wrote:

When you have a moment alone with a woman and you feel a certain vibe, just whip your dick out.

Joel??? Is that you??? I didn't know you liked Pearl Jam!

PRL1JAM

Hammerdonkey wrote:

When you have a moment alone with a woman and you feel a certain vibe, just whip your dick out. Everything else will take care of itself. The last thing men need are women friends we can't bang. We all know that. When you get married, go ahead and try to keep some close female friends. I dare you. I hope you liked your penis. It'll be chopped off. Wives don't tolerate close female friends with their husbands. So, long story short, if you can hit the pootie, serve that tang like a butler in Beverly Hills. If she wants to be friends, you need to hang with more whores.

Whores are fun people.

WTF?!

good stuff!!!

:thumbup:

Back_Pedal

OffHeGoes29

Sorry to say it, but your on a long road of getting fucked over. Have fun being you, and when chicks get tired of the d-bags, you'll meet someone when you're in your 30s.

That will be 5 dollars.

missisles

i been friends with my partner for over 10 years
we dated 10 years ago
stayed mated
and then got back together about 18 months ago

so it is possible to do
their was alot of booze involved to begin with