Anyone know Fr Canadian w NYR jersey Vedder #9? *UPDATE 3/6*

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  • pj.uw.laura
    pj.uw.laura Posts: 553
    I agree with igotid88- you should definitely have someone with you. While it's nice that he's seemingly sincere, you can't be too careful.

    Hope you get your bottle back... better late than never!
  • josevolution
    josevolution Posts: 32,108
    edvedder913 wrote:
    I just wanted to give everyone an update. I was contacted by the guy who took the bottle of wine. He seems to be sincerely sorry. He clearly was drinking a lot that day and feels horrible about what he did. I have accepted his apology and we are talking it out. He wants to drive to NY to return the bottle to me in person. I appreciate everyone's support SO much. But it is also important to me that no one acts out on him if they see him in the future. 2 wrongs do not make a right. He did something terrible to a fellow fan, but has recognized it and apologized and would like to apologize to the entire Pearl Jam community . I would like to put this behind me and move forward with forgiveness. He would like to as well. Thanks :)

    I edited my original post as well. Peace.

    Let me & Adam escort you on the night of the exchange :lol::lol: we are sure to put a scare into him :lol::lol: but really if you need anything let me know and i'm really happy that it seems to be working it's self out like you deserve it :) ..
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  • BraceYourSelf
    BraceYourSelf Posts: 814
    Wow! Good he is doing that. Like people said bring someone with you.

    and for side news. Who ever had the bet that she would get the bottle back BEFORE the Philly Bootlegs came out...please claim your prize.
  • CJMST3K
    CJMST3K Posts: 9,722
    Good you are getting an apology. Did he randomly go out of his way to seek you out, or did it take all your work and finding him to get him to apologize?
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  • Red Lukin
    Red Lukin Canada Posts: 2,994
    edited March 2010
    What about the assault?
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  • TravisTheSky
    TravisTheSky Posts: 615
    Rape Me. Rape me again.

    Great message, OP!
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  • PRL1JAM
    PRL1JAM Posts: 787
    I am sure he is really sorry...sorry not for what he did, but sorry he got caught (identified)

    bring someone with you, I wouldn't trust him for shit
  • URthekey
    URthekey Posts: 1,925
    I don't think anything good is going to come out of you meeting up with this guy, or if he even has the balls to show.

    Tell him to pack your bottle really well. Ship it overnight to your local post office, and PM you the tracking info.

    Case closed.
  • Ms. Wes C.addle
    Ms. Wes C.addle Posts: 2,559
    Who the he'll cares anymore?!?
    My friend and i delt with him before the show and immediately became aware of his antics... So, the fact that you are subjecting yourself to anything more of him or the situation, besides proper punishment for him, makes me really wonder about the op.
  • CROJAM95
    CROJAM95 NEW YORK Posts: 11,189
    Only sorry because future shows might be uncomfortable for him...... Alcohol is a shitty excuse

    boo hoo I have a drinking problem

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  • JOEJOEJOE
    JOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,842
    I'd ask him for a financial settlement in addition to the bottle.
  • JaneNY
    JaneNY Posts: 4,438
    beautifullife wrote:
    I am sure he is really sorry...sorry not for what he did, but sorry he got caught (identified)

    bring someone with you, I wouldn't trust him for shit

    I pretty much agree with this. Have him mail it somewhere (do NOT give him your home address), or at least get HIS home address. He may be sorry, but part of this is the fact that this was not a one time occurrence. How do we know he wouldn't try something with someone else in the future? He's just trying to extricate himself from the reality that he's persona non grata around here now IMO.
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  • Get_Right
    Get_Right Posts: 14,211
    josevolution wrote:
    Let me & Adam escort you on the night of the exchange :lol::lol: we are sure to put a scare into him :lol::lol: but really if you need anything let me know and i'm really happy that it seems to be working it's self out like you deserve it :) ..
    Word.
    I will bust out my ninja turtle moves! So easy a caveman could do it! :lol:

    Seriously, C, have him ship it. No reason for there to be a meeting. If it must happen, make sure its at a public place and that you have someone with you. Good luck.
  • joe2468
    joe2468 Posts: 3,049
    ill be honest ... i dont get it...........how can you forgive ANYONE after doing what he did to you......not for nothing but its kinda like "battered wife syndrome" ...... the wife gets beat up for years and NEVER PRESSES CHARGES ...and still sleeps in the same bed .... and there is something wrong if you still want that bottle and willing to meet him to get it.... Its an empty bottle with HORRIBLE MEMORIES


    im sorry i just dont get it ...........................and i kinda dont want to


    i guess im "happy" your getting your bottle back ..?..???????
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  • neilybabes86
    neilybabes86 Posts: 16,057
    meet him with a baseball bat
    i post on the board of a band that doesn't exsist anymore .......i need my head examined.......
  • michelleelise
    michelleelise Posts: 346
    But didn't he previously assault, threaten, or steal from other 10c women (sorry, don't remember the exact details, but he at least cornered another woman in the ladies room in a threatening way)

    If the OP wants to forgive him in exchange for the bottle, that's her choice. But everyone else should still feel free to shun him (or whatever ) the next time they seem him at a concert. Tigers don't change their stripes and you've got to be pretty naive to believe that they do.
  • PJINFLA
    PJINFLA Posts: 848
    How will you know if he even gives you the original bottle back? Isn't it possible he could go buy
    a bottle of the same wine and give you that bottle? I mean he is a Canadian Rangers fan after all!
    That should tell you something right there. ha ha
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  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    edited March 2010
    I dont plan to meet him because I just do not think it is a good idea.

    You cant press charges for what he did according to the Philly PD. I wasnt touched in any "inappropriate" places and I was not injured. Either was the other girl. According to authorities that is what seems to matter. So at this point, there is nothing I can do. I did what I thought was best, and that was to let others know so this does not happen to them. I accepted his apology and if he wants to give me the bottle back to make himself feel better, I will accept it (via mail). I will never know if it is the real bottle, and what he did cannot be reversed. It doesn't mean what I though he did was right. I certainly wouldn't compare it to a battered wife. I have no relationship with this person, nor do I intend to. But I also dont think violence solves anything and 2 wrongs don't make a right.
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  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    beautifullife wrote:
    I am sure he is really sorry...sorry not for what he did, but sorry he got caught (identified)

    bring someone with you, I wouldn't trust him for shit

    Can't say I disagree. I just hope he never does this again. That is what is most important to me. If that is accomplished, bottle or no bottle, I am content.
  • edvedder913
    edvedder913 Posts: 1,810
    Get_Right wrote:
    josevolution wrote:
    Let me & Adam escort you on the night of the exchange :lol::lol: we are sure to put a scare into him :lol::lol: but really if you need anything let me know and i'm really happy that it seems to be working it's self out like you deserve it :) ..
    Word.
    I will bust out my ninja turtle moves! So easy a caveman could do it! :lol:

    Seriously, C, have him ship it. No reason for there to be a meeting. If it must happen, make sure its at a public place and that you have someone with you. Good luck.

    I deleted the line in my post about him wanting to deliver it to me in person because people read into it (should I be shocked?!?!? lol). I do not intend to meet him in person. No worries. I don't care about the damned bottle anymore. Its not the point here. I just hope it was a lesson learned and he treats people with respect. And I dont want to be responsible for him catching a beating. I just wanted everyone to be aware and hoped he would never do such a thing again. Hopefully that was accomplished here.

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