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  • pandora
    pandora Posts: 21,855
    same gender
  • stargirl69
    stargirl69 Posts: 6,387
    One of each .... they are husband and wife .... known them both 24 years :lol: :?
    “There should be a place where only the things you want to happen, happen”
  • katellis
    katellis Posts: 535
    different gender.

    though i really do consider my boyfriend to be my best friend .. since that's not allowed .. my second best friend is also a male.
  • Brisk.
    Brisk. Posts: 11,581
    Same gender.
  • fife
    fife Posts: 3,327
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    fife wrote:
    bring on the couch but my best friend is my ex-girlfriend.

    One of mine is my ex-boyfriend... the other is his girlfriend! :D

    fine you can take the couch first :D
  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    one of each....
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    fife wrote:
    bring on the couch but my best friend is my ex-girlfriend.


    nothing wrong with that. I am now great friends with my ex husband.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • LikeAnOcean
    LikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    Same gender.. Actually I have two best friends. One has been so for 21 years and the other about 15 years.. we all still hangout together at least once a week.. I am very fortunate also seeing we that also have a circle of friends who still hang out probably at least once or twice a month. I have a buddy I've known for almost 25 years (since the first grade) I still hang out with frequently..

    I also have a few female friends. We don't hang out as often, but have kept in contact for up to 10 years or so..

    Different sex best friends can happen but rare.. lets be honest, most relationships with the opposite sex are based on sex. If your partner woke up the same sex as you one day, I'm sure your "love" for eachother would fizzle quite quickly.. Same sexes relate to one another easier, and thus get along better for reasons other than sex.
  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    fife wrote:
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    fife wrote:
    bring on the couch but my best friend is my ex-girlfriend.

    One of mine is my ex-boyfriend... the other is his girlfriend! :D

    fine you can take the couch first :D

    Ah that's nothing...

    His girlfriend is the lady he was seeing while he was still with me :lol:

    Most people can't fathom the relationship that we all (me, my boyf, my ex, his girlf) have, but it's wonderful. We all get on so well and help each other out all the time. They're such a generous loving couple and have been a massive support in our lives... I wouldn't change anything about our friendships or how we got to this point :)
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    Different sex best friends can happen but rare.. lets be honest, most relationships with the opposite sex are based on sex. If your partner woke up the same sex as you one day, I'm sure your "love" for eachother would fizzle quite quickly.. Same sexes relate to one another easier, and thus get along better for reasons other than sex.

    I disagree.

    I have many really good (ok they're not 'best' but it's damn close) male friends with whom there has never been and will never be anything sexual.
    A lot of my male friends have girlfriends/wives and most don't have a problem with it. A few haven't been so accepting, have assumed there's more to it and scuppered the friendship. It's sad but it has happened.
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
  • LikeAnOcean
    LikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    Different sex best friends can happen but rare.. lets be honest, most relationships with the opposite sex are based on sex. If your partner woke up the same sex as you one day, I'm sure your "love" for eachother would fizzle quite quickly.. Same sexes relate to one another easier, and thus get along better for reasons other than sex.

    I have many really good (ok they're not 'best' but it's damn close) male friends with whom there has never been and will never be anything sexual.
    A lot of my male friends have girlfriends/wives and most don't have a problem with it. A few haven't been so accepting, have assumed there's more to it and scuppered the friendship. It's sad but it has happened.
    As I do too.. but we're talking about BEST FRIENDS.. do you hang out with these people every week for years??? Share everything? Call/text them contantly? Trust to tell them everything??? Do anything for??

    If you are talking about "best friends" you can't disagree with me.


    90% of relationships are based on sex.. the ones that really work and last, are based on best friendship and sex.

    When I say "based on sex" I mean based on sex.. you aren't going to just go gay to get married. There's a reason they are the opposite sex.
  • Sian-of-the-dead
    Sian-of-the-dead Posts: 8,963
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    Sian-of-the-dead wrote:
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    Different sex best friends can happen but rare.. lets be honest, most relationships with the opposite sex are based on sex. If your partner woke up the same sex as you one day, I'm sure your "love" for eachother would fizzle quite quickly.. Same sexes relate to one another easier, and thus get along better for reasons other than sex.

    I have many really good (ok they're not 'best' but it's damn close) male friends with whom there has never been and will never be anything sexual.
    A lot of my male friends have girlfriends/wives and most don't have a problem with it. A few haven't been so accepting, have assumed there's more to it and scuppered the friendship. It's sad but it has happened.
    As I do too.. we're talking about BEST FRIENDS.. do you hang out with these people every week for years??? Share everything? Call/text them contantly? Trust to tell them everything??? Do anything for??

    Unless you are talking about "best friends" you can't disagree with me.


    90% of relationships are based on sex.. the ones that really work and last, are based on best friendship and sex.

    When I say "based on sex" I mean based on sex.. you aren't going to go gay to get married. There's a reason they are the opposite sex.

    Two of my male friends I lived with. One was my ex and we lived together after we seperated. The other was one of a couple who were getting married.
    I saw both of these men and 'hung out with them' everyday. I shared everything with them. I got drunk with them, ate with them, laughed with them and cried with them.

    Another two friends of mine who used to be my absolute best friends were my right arm for easily a few years. One used to pick me up from work, we'd have dinner together, get showered and go out. we'd then wake up the next morning at his or my house and laugh about the night before. Sometimes if there was limited space at a house party we would share the same bed without any pressure at all. We shared everything.
    The other lived a couple of streets away from my old house. Again, we shared everything. I told him everything and more often than not i'd spend my evenings round his on the xbox. I considered living with him when I moved and needed somewhere to live.
    These two friendships only went from being 'best friends' to normal friends due to women who entered their lives and got jealous.

    In all of these cases there was no sex, no pressure and no attraction. I went from being in a relationship and being single with all of these friends and no moves were ever made and there was easily opportunity enough.

    Everyone is different, not everyone bases everything on sex. I just happen to get on with men.
    Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...

    ... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.

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