Different sex best friends can happen but rare.. lets be honest, most relationships with the opposite sex are based on sex. If your partner woke up the same sex as you one day, I'm sure your "love" for eachother would fizzle quite quickly.. Same sexes relate to one another easier, and thus get along better for reasons other than sex.
I have many really good (ok they're not 'best' but it's damn close) male friends with whom there has never been and will never be anything sexual.
A lot of my male friends have girlfriends/wives and most don't have a problem with it. A few haven't been so accepting, have assumed there's more to it and scuppered the friendship. It's sad but it has happened.
As I do too.. but we're talking about BEST FRIENDS.. do you hang out with these people every week for years??? Share everything? Call/text them contantly? Trust to tell them everything??? Do anything for??
If you are talking about "best friends" you can't disagree with me.
90% of relationships are based on sex.. the ones that really work and last, are based on best friendship and sex.
When I say "based on sex" I mean based on sex.. you aren't going to just go gay to get married. There's a reason they are the opposite sex.
Different sex best friends can happen but rare.. lets be honest, most relationships with the opposite sex are based on sex. If your partner woke up the same sex as you one day, I'm sure your "love" for eachother would fizzle quite quickly.. Same sexes relate to one another easier, and thus get along better for reasons other than sex.
I have many really good (ok they're not 'best' but it's damn close) male friends with whom there has never been and will never be anything sexual.
A lot of my male friends have girlfriends/wives and most don't have a problem with it. A few haven't been so accepting, have assumed there's more to it and scuppered the friendship. It's sad but it has happened.
As I do too.. we're talking about BEST FRIENDS.. do you hang out with these people every week for years??? Share everything? Call/text them contantly? Trust to tell them everything??? Do anything for??
Unless you are talking about "best friends" you can't disagree with me.
90% of relationships are based on sex.. the ones that really work and last, are based on best friendship and sex.
When I say "based on sex" I mean based on sex.. you aren't going to go gay to get married. There's a reason they are the opposite sex.
Two of my male friends I lived with. One was my ex and we lived together after we seperated. The other was one of a couple who were getting married.
I saw both of these men and 'hung out with them' everyday. I shared everything with them. I got drunk with them, ate with them, laughed with them and cried with them.
Another two friends of mine who used to be my absolute best friends were my right arm for easily a few years. One used to pick me up from work, we'd have dinner together, get showered and go out. we'd then wake up the next morning at his or my house and laugh about the night before. Sometimes if there was limited space at a house party we would share the same bed without any pressure at all. We shared everything.
The other lived a couple of streets away from my old house. Again, we shared everything. I told him everything and more often than not i'd spend my evenings round his on the xbox. I considered living with him when I moved and needed somewhere to live.
These two friendships only went from being 'best friends' to normal friends due to women who entered their lives and got jealous.
In all of these cases there was no sex, no pressure and no attraction. I went from being in a relationship and being single with all of these friends and no moves were ever made and there was easily opportunity enough.
Everyone is different, not everyone bases everything on sex. I just happen to get on with men.
Been to this many PJ shows: Reading 2006 London 2007 Manchester & London 2009 Dublin, Belfast, London, Nijmegen & Berlin 2010 Manchester 1 & Manchester 2 2012...
... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.
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If you are talking about "best friends" you can't disagree with me.
90% of relationships are based on sex.. the ones that really work and last, are based on best friendship and sex.
When I say "based on sex" I mean based on sex.. you aren't going to just go gay to get married. There's a reason they are the opposite sex.
Two of my male friends I lived with. One was my ex and we lived together after we seperated. The other was one of a couple who were getting married.
I saw both of these men and 'hung out with them' everyday. I shared everything with them. I got drunk with them, ate with them, laughed with them and cried with them.
Another two friends of mine who used to be my absolute best friends were my right arm for easily a few years. One used to pick me up from work, we'd have dinner together, get showered and go out. we'd then wake up the next morning at his or my house and laugh about the night before. Sometimes if there was limited space at a house party we would share the same bed without any pressure at all. We shared everything.
The other lived a couple of streets away from my old house. Again, we shared everything. I told him everything and more often than not i'd spend my evenings round his on the xbox. I considered living with him when I moved and needed somewhere to live.
These two friendships only went from being 'best friends' to normal friends due to women who entered their lives and got jealous.
In all of these cases there was no sex, no pressure and no attraction. I went from being in a relationship and being single with all of these friends and no moves were ever made and there was easily opportunity enough.
Everyone is different, not everyone bases everything on sex. I just happen to get on with men.
... and I still think Drive-By Truckers are better.