Perfect Partner Icing on the Cake

Ms. Haiku

A person may not be perfect, but as a partner a person could be perfect [yes/no?]. I was listening to PJ last night, and I realized the following in a boyfriend would definitely add to his attractiveness. Of course these are not the most important attributes I wish for like is he loving, caring, blah blah blah, but they definitely are the icing on the cake:

1. Must love Pearl Jam
2. Have a dog or be like me and wish he had a dog


And you? What is/has been the icing on the cake?

soulsinging

I more so have a list of things I avoid in a mate.

But icing on the cake for me... nice legs and a healthy sense of experimental perversion.

decides2dream

Ms. Haiku wrote:

A person may not be perfect, but as a partner a person could be perfect [yes/no?]. I was listening to PJ last night, and I realized the following in a boyfriend would definitely add to his attractiveness. Of course these are not the most important attributes I wish for like is he loving, caring, blah blah blah, but they definitely are the icing on the cake:

1. Must love Pearl Jam
2. Have a dog or be like me and wish he had a dog


And you? What is/has been the icing on the cake?

the part i bolded made me laugh.

tis the 'blah, blah, blah' parts that are actually the meat of a relationship. :P as to your Q, i personally do not find a love of pj a necessity, at all - tho a love of music, yes (and yes....cannot be music i abhor). granted, mr. dream IS a fan, turned me onto the band in fact, tho i am far more the passionate fan than he nowadays. that said, the most important thing to me is having RESPECT for each others passions and interests. i also need someone who truly trusts me, allows me a LOT of freedom and yet, that we are still close and spend a good deal of our time together. MUST LOVE DOGS, well, that's simply a given. must also be open to new experiences, travel, music, film, food and wine!....just have that joie de vivre....(i think that's how it's spelled, anyhow :oops: ) and as per usual, i rambled....mea culpa.....

if i *must* define some icing ....

1. be a great cook!
2. be a sexy-ass, talented bass player.

both, definitely icing....didn't know i *had* to have it, until i got it.


cool question ms. haiku!


" healthy sense of experimental perversion"

nice!
:twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

Dissidentman

soulsinging wrote:

I more so have a list of things I avoid in a mate.

But icing on the cake for me... nice legs and a healthy sense of experimental perversion.

Females only? if not - i fit the bill...

Claireack

I'm not sure really, do wish my husband would put his stuff away and not leave WD40 and engine lubricant in the kitchen. Not really keen on men in suits or shiny shoes - that would be a no no.

Gosh I'll have to think about this ....

Heatherj43

Same sense of humor.
Similar sex drive.

stargirl69

Gotta have lots of laughter
Gotta have an obsessive love of music
Gotta have trust

..... Gotta have a healthy sense of experimental perversion ............. but the icing smeared over him. :P


Ooh I got all that .... he must be perfect

decides2dream

Heatherj43 wrote:

Same sense of humor.
Similar sex drive.

sweet bejeebus YES!
is that really 'icing' tho...or damn near necessity?! :shock:


more people need to answer this question, i am lovin' all the answers thus far...tho i would have to say as of now dissidentman takes the cake so to speak......;)

stargirl69

Claireack wrote:

I'm not sure really, do wish my husband would put his stuff away and not leave WD40 and engine lubricant in the kitchen. Not really keen on men in suits or shiny shoes - that would be a no no.

Gosh I'll have to think about this ....

:oops: .... put it in the bedroom ...... I agree men in suits is a complete turn off for me and shiny shoes especially those trendy wing tipped long toed things that are in just now ..... :?

Lizardjam

decides2dream wrote:

Heatherj43 wrote:

Same sense of humor.
Similar sex drive.

sweet bejeebus YES!
is that really 'icing' tho...or damn near necessity?! :shock:


more people need to answer this question, i am lovin' all the answers thus far...tho i would have to say as of now dissidentman takes the cake so to speak......;)

I'm going to go with necessity.

I always thought I would want someone with a love of Pearl Jam but I'm with someone now that had a cursory knowledge of Pearl Jam and is always open to listening to it. Even bought me the new album. He is a KEEPER!!!

Dissidentman

decides2dream wrote:

Heatherj43 wrote:

Same sense of humor.
Similar sex drive.

sweet bejeebus YES!
is that really 'icing' tho...or damn near necessity?! :shock:


more people need to answer this question, i am lovin' all the answers thus far...tho i would have to say as of now dissidentman takes the cake so to speak......;)

Please make it chocolate cake!

decides2dream

Dissidentman wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

Heatherj43 wrote:

Same sense of humor.
Similar sex drive.

sweet bejeebus YES!
is that really 'icing' tho...or damn near necessity?! :shock:


more people need to answer this question, i am lovin' all the answers thus far...tho i would have to say as of now dissidentman takes the cake so to speak......;)

Please make it chocolate cake!

done.
i like the way you think...;)

Lizardjam wrote:

I'm going to go with necessity.

I always thought I would want someone with a love of Pearl Jam but I'm with someone now that had a cursory knowledge of Pearl Jam and is always open to listening to it. Even bought me the new album. He is a KEEPER!!!

exactly!
to me, 'icing on the cake'....are those features you didn't even know you wanted/needed, the things above and beyond the 'necessities' for a happy relationship, things that just make a good thing even better..... :shock: !

Ms. Haiku

Yep, icing on the cake attributes are the dessert, and not the entre; the apple pie, and not the pizza pie; the espresso, and not the spaghetti. . .

Black Diamond

1. Plays goalie with the kids and let's me sleep in on Sundays (She gets Saturdays)
2. Let's me set the temp in our bedroom (a big deal! as I need a morgue setting to sleep)

Brain of J.Lo

I love how absolutely VERBAL my husband is. I am a big talker, too, so it's awesome to be with someone who is always up for conversation. We've known each other about 7 years now, and we still haven't run out of things to talk about yet! Even his inconsequential emails and texts are really long. I love it.

I guess this would qualify, because it wasn't something I had ever specifically pinpointed as a quality I desired. I knew it would be important to always have a lot to talk about, but I never thought about how important it would be to be with someone who is willing and able to match me in this way.

decides2dream

Brain of J.Lo wrote:

I love how absolutely VERBAL my husband is. I am a big talker, too, so it's awesome to be with someone who is always up for conversation. We've known each other about 7 years now, and we still haven't run out of things to talk about yet! Even his inconsequential emails and texts are really long. I love it.

I guess this would qualify, because it wasn't something I had ever specifically pinpointed as a quality I desired. I knew it would be important to always have a lot to talk about, but I never thought about how important it would be to be with someone who is willing and able to match me in this way.

that is total icing, and needless to say....i would LOVE that icing..... hahahahahaha. that is not mr. dream, but i guess...there does need to be some quiet as well.

Black Diamond wrote:

Let's me set the temp in our bedroom (a big deal! as I need a morgue setting to sleep)

priceless!
and i agree....

Lizard

The icing?
being rich?

decides2dream

Lizard wrote:

The icing?
being rich?

nice gig if you land it.


i've got to 'settle' for being rich....in love.

soulsinging

Dissidentman wrote:

soulsinging wrote:

I more so have a list of things I avoid in a mate.

But icing on the cake for me... nice legs and a healthy sense of experimental perversion.

Females only? if not - i fit the bill...

Guess I should have made that clearer I'm sure that would be easy enough to find if I was in the market for men, but a little harder to come by in a woman!

No love for guys in suits around here eh? I guess it's different strokes for different folks... I mainly went to law school because the girl I was with at the time said guys in power suits were hot

Brain of J.Lo

soulsinging wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

soulsinging wrote:

I more so have a list of things I avoid in a mate.

But icing on the cake for me... nice legs and a healthy sense of experimental perversion.

Females only? if not - i fit the bill...

Guess I should have made that clearer I'm sure that would be easy enough to find if I was in the market for men, but a little harder to come by in a woman!

No love for guys in suits around here eh? I guess it's different strokes for different folks... I mainly went to law school because the girl I was with at the time said guys in power suits were hot

Suits are good! I don't often get to see my husband in one. Actually, the only time I've seen him in one was on our wedding day. But he looked great!

decides2dream

soulsinging wrote:

Dissidentman wrote:

soulsinging wrote:

I more so have a list of things I avoid in a mate.

But icing on the cake for me... nice legs and a healthy sense of experimental perversion.

Females only? if not - i fit the bill...

Guess I should have made that clearer I'm sure that would be easy enough to find if I was in the market for men, but a little harder to come by in a woman!

No love for guys in suits around here eh? I guess it's different strokes for different folks... I mainly went to law school because the girl I was with at the time said guys in power suits were hot

personally, i love a man who can rock a suit ANd rock a leather jacket/jeans. it's a very sexy thing that one man can pull both off. and hey, as to what you 'have' to wear to work, whether a cop or a lawyer, we all wear 'uniforms'.....so i could not give a shit about that. but sure, on your own time....more comfortable with a guy in jeans and leather, but the occasional suit is nice. hell, i got hubby to buy a corduroy blazer for the first time for 'casual wear'...with jeans, he's usually FAR more casual/sporty in his attire, and yes....he looks hot in it and i like it. but you bet, i still love him in his leather jacket too. so sure, some of us like....both. :geek: