My dad died

bigbadbill

I'm so sorry for your loss. Before I even looked at your thread, I was posting about my loss this year. My father also died earlier in February (2/21). 7 months and some change later, I still mourn for my father. Stay strong.

stargirl69

It breaks my heart to hear of everyones stories of their own loses in life .... but also gives me hope and understanding that there will be better days ahead again.
I send much love and compassion to the entire Pearl Jam community and feel proud to be part of it.

Thank you to everyone for your kindness and p.m's ..... the quote I attached to my thread is from a wonderful book called The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran .... I am not religious but have loved this book for many years when faced with times of trouble and needs of hope.
I plan to read the passage at my dads funeral on Wednesday,if I can hold it together but wanted to share it here.

Love to you all

Morag xxooxx

decides2dream

oh my.....losing a parent is one of THE most difficult things to occur in life. it is heart-breaking. i am so sorry for your sudden loss of your beloved father.

i lost my father over 17 years ago, and a day does not pass that i don't think of him/miss him. it gets 'easier'....but you always feel that absence. i miss you already, i miss you always...

and when you're ready, i find man of the hour breaks your heart and gives you comfort at the same time.



hearts & thoughts....much love
dream

eMMI

I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss. :(

warm thoughts and strenght to you and your family!

the wolf

I am very sorry.

There are no words, so I wont really even try.

Stay strong, and cry when you need to.


From what you have posted in this thread about your father, he sounds like a great man.


again, I'm so very sorry.


-steve

YourDirtisMyfood

stargirl69 wrote:

It breaks my heart to hear of everyones stories of their own loses in life .... but also gives me hope and understanding that there will be better days ahead again.
I send much love and compassion to the entire Pearl Jam community and feel proud to be part of it.

Thank you to everyone for your kindness and p.m's ..... the quote I attached to my thread is from a wonderful book called The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran .... I am not religious but have loved this book for many years when faced with times of trouble and needs of hope.
I plan to read the passage at my dads funeral on Wednesday,if I can hold it together but wanted to share it here.

Love to you all

Morag xxooxx

I have a friend from college who recently lost a grandmother, and they've started a charity in her name where they'll do a walk in her memory to keep her memory alive. I thought that was a very nice thing to do for her and is helping their family cope in a truly positive way with their loss. When my grandmother passed, I did a collage of pictures of her for the wake and going through the photos and laughing at the memories made me feel better. There are different things to do that will make you reflect positively on the time that you had with your dad.

Who Princess

Morag,

My heart goes out to you and your family in your loss. I will keep you all in my thoughts.

I'm glad you shared your grief with friends here because I'm one who truly believes that grief shared is grief divided. Only you can take your grief journey but at least you don't have to go there alone. I'm also glad you have happy memories of your last visit with your dad. Keep in mind that he will always be with you. Focus on whatever it will take to get you through the next few days. After that, concentrate on taking care of yourself. The world around you will return to "normal" which is sometimes comforting, sometimes not.

Like you, I lost my dad unexpectedly, 2 years ago this October. What also struck a chord with me was that I'd gone to see him on a Saturday and we'd talked and laughed as we always did. A few days later he collapsed from a ruptured aneurysm and never regained consciousness. He and I were very close and I miss him every day. I think it's hardest when I think of something that I want to call him up and tell him or talk to him about. But I also feel his presence in how he influenced me and how much I'm like him. For those things, I'm glad.

I would encourage everyone, as you did, to treasure your family. Hold them close. Let them know how you feel. They can be gone in an instant.

Morag, for now, try to rest when you can. If you can read from The Prophet at your dad's funeral that would be wonderful. But if you feel too stressed, ask someone else to read it. Your dad is proud of you no matter what. It sounds like he had a great life.

Take care of yourself,
Carolyn

Ms. Haiku

I'm very sorry to hear about your dad. My thoughts are with you and your family.

stargirl69

I seem to recognize your face.
Haunting familiar, yet I can't seem to place it.
Cannot find the candle of thought to light your name.
Lifetimes are catching up with me.
All these changes taking place.

I have added these lyrics as my dad was 79 and had Altzheimers for the last ten years of his life although he was otherwise physically healthy.There were good days when he seemed to recognise me but most days he would look at me and seem to be drinking me in as though he recognised me but could not quite place me.

For Christmas last year I made him a photo album of his life,marriage,children and grandchildren.When I visited we would look at the photos and he would laugh,wink and have a giggle at the photo's he remembered.Altzheimers is a strange condition ... dad could recognise photo's of his own parents who died many years ago but couldn't recognise a photo my mum taken a few days before.
My dad was an old school man,strong and big hearted who did all he could to provide for his family.I thought he was invincible.
In the end his heart was just tired and needed to rest.
Take care of you and your kin ... they are your shelter in the rain,your laughter in the sun and the wind in your hair.
Thank you to everyone for their continued kindness. xxooxx

Lizard

So sorry for your loss..................

pjhawks

hope you are doing well. For me the worst part was the days when you go back to normal routine. When you are around family you handle it better together, but those first few days going back to school and work when my parents passed away were the worst because you are then on your own with it, with your own thoughts. My only advice is when the sadness creeps in, as it definitely will, think of the good things with your dad. Happy moments and such - and fully treasure the rest of your family and your close friends. it's times like these when you realize how much being a good brother, sister or friend can really mean to someone. just a kind word, or caring word here or there can really make a difference to people. my father passed away when i was 20 and ever since then I've tried to make a point of being there for friends in the weeks after someone passes, not just the first few days.

chiquimonkey

i am so sorry. my condolences to you and your family.

dcfaithful

It's cliche, but time does help heal all wounds...

You're in my thoughts, and I'll dedicate tonights PJ show in Salt Lake City to you and your dad's honor.

Steve Dunne

don't know you well on here, but so sorry for your loss...

for you...to smile, cry, and remember...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63A__INJecI

PearlOfAGirl

So truly sorry about the loss of your dad.. :( my thoughts and prayers are with you & your family...

stargirl69

Steve Dunne wrote:

don't know you well on here, but so sorry for your loss...

for you...to smile, cry, and remember...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=63A__INJecI

No worries Steve .... some of us shine with a smaller light around here .... thank you so much for the link my dad would have loved that .... it made me smile ... amazing

Morag xx

mr.pink

I'm so sorry for you. Love is forever.

PJPixie

I'm so sorry.

Peace.

ZiggyStar

Sorry to hear such sad news, Stargirl!

PJaddicted

I'm so sorry....no words can take that kind of pain away. The only thing I can share is that the initial immense pain will get less over a long period of time. You will never get over his loss so don't even try to, as others will urge you to do. There is no time table for grief, each of us processes it differently. You will always miss him. Hugs and good vibes to you. ox