what's on your mind, right now?

jnimhaoileoin

hedonist said:

Jenny, you don't need validation from others.

To paraphrase the Beatles, it's within and without you.

Plus, sometimes you just need to give everything a laugh at the absurdity of it all.

Oh I know, easier said than done though! Sure who doesn't want friends and for people to like them? It's all well and good saying the main thing is that you like yourself but it's quite hard to do so when you're constantly wondering why nobody else seems to think you're worth knowing or spending time with. No man is an island and all that haha

HughFreakingDillon

jnimhaoileoin said:

Pap said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Well that was suitably depressing. Scott and I have much in common ha

I just wanted to show you how fake everything on Facebook is.

I know, I did understand that aspect of it but it also highlighted to me how, like Scott, I am guilty of wanting people to validate my existence on facebook, like my comments and photos etc. It's bloody pathetic, I know that and yet it feels like something you can't control? Hence I now think it's better for me not to interact on facebook at all because then I can't fall into the same old trap again.

I have been guilty of this for sure. I think there are certain types of personalities that shouldn't be on social media. mine included. I post something I think is funny, if it doesn't get any likes or reactions or comments I get kind of down. it really is stupid. but that's the state of society now. instant gratification in all facets. but then I have deleted my account before, and then I feel like I'm "missing something", like I wasn't invited to the party. it really seems silly, but it is human nature. it's empty communication. we are social beings, and we spend so much time on social media, but it doesn't give us the real face to face communication that we desire. get out into the real world and engage. social media is fake. I can't watch the video above at work, but I know for a FACT that 99% of facebook users use it like people wear makeup: hiding the blemishes, accentuating the good features to the point of it being unnatural. nowadays I see right through that stuff. there's one couple in particular that I'm friends with, that if you only knew them through facebook, you'd think their life is paradise day in and day out. it is just so transparent and dumb.

on national mental health day, I posted about my own struggles; all real, no editing, no filter. you wouldn't believe the reaction from people I never knew had the same struggles. some on the post, some in private messages. but the message to me was clear: we are all the same. we all struggle. no one is exempt from sadness, depression (clinical or situational), loneliness, etc, no matter what our online presence presents to the world.

jnimhaoileoin

HughFreakingDillon said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Pap said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Well that was suitably depressing. Scott and I have much in common ha

I just wanted to show you how fake everything on Facebook is.

I know, I did understand that aspect of it but it also highlighted to me how, like Scott, I am guilty of wanting people to validate my existence on facebook, like my comments and photos etc. It's bloody pathetic, I know that and yet it feels like something you can't control? Hence I now think it's better for me not to interact on facebook at all because then I can't fall into the same old trap again.

I have been guilty of this for sure. I think there are certain types of personalities that shouldn't be on social media. mine included. I post something I think is funny, if it doesn't get any likes or reactions or comments I get kind of down. it really is stupid. but that's the state of society now. instant gratification in all facets. but then I have deleted my account before, and then I feel like I'm "missing something", like I wasn't invited to the party. it really seems silly, but it is human nature. it's empty communication. we are social beings, and we spend so much time on social media, but it doesn't give us the real face to face communication that we desire. get out into the real world and engage. social media is fake. I can't watch the video above at work, but I know for a FACT that 99% of facebook users use it like people wear makeup: hiding the blemishes, accentuating the good features to the point of it being unnatural. nowadays I see right through that stuff. there's one couple in particular that I'm friends with, that if you only knew them through facebook, you'd think their life is paradise day in and day out. it is just so transparent and dumb.

on national mental health day, I posted about my own struggles; all real, no editing, no filter. you wouldn't believe the reaction from people I never knew had the same struggles. some on the post, some in private messages. but the message to me was clear: we are all the same. we all struggle. no one is exempt from sadness, depression (clinical or situational), loneliness, etc, no matter what our online presence presents to the world.

Thanks for sharing. You're right I know, nobody's life is perfect, even though it's tempting to think that sometimes. I'm frequently guilty of feeling envious of people I know, perceiving their lives to be so much better than my own. It's actually the trait I despise most in myself, that tendency towards envy and jealousy. Countless times I have asked myself what it achieves? Being envious of others won't change anything about my own life, it will simply make me feel crap. You can't change your looks, your family or your personality. You are who you are. The best example I can give is my former badminton partner. She is tall, pretty, everyone loves her, she has a great family and they're really close. She has a long-term boyfriend and they're about to buy a house together, oh and she has passed me out in badminton so that she's now sought after as a partner and has left me behind. I envy her all this and yet this is such wasted emotion. I can never be as pretty or as popular as her, I can't have her family So on and so forth. I know this, I understand this, and yet......

You can see how I frustrate myself! It's like a constant battle against my own thoughts and feelings, I could write a book on being my own worst enemy. How is it that you can essentially conspire against yourself, is it something wrong in the hardwiring of the brain?? I'm sure the psychology of it is quite interesting, good thing we don't have a culture of therapy here or they'd be making a fortune out of me

HughFreakingDillon

jnimhaoileoin said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Pap said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Well that was suitably depressing. Scott and I have much in common ha

I just wanted to show you how fake everything on Facebook is.

I know, I did understand that aspect of it but it also highlighted to me how, like Scott, I am guilty of wanting people to validate my existence on facebook, like my comments and photos etc. It's bloody pathetic, I know that and yet it feels like something you can't control? Hence I now think it's better for me not to interact on facebook at all because then I can't fall into the same old trap again.

I have been guilty of this for sure. I think there are certain types of personalities that shouldn't be on social media. mine included. I post something I think is funny, if it doesn't get any likes or reactions or comments I get kind of down. it really is stupid. but that's the state of society now. instant gratification in all facets. but then I have deleted my account before, and then I feel like I'm "missing something", like I wasn't invited to the party. it really seems silly, but it is human nature. it's empty communication. we are social beings, and we spend so much time on social media, but it doesn't give us the real face to face communication that we desire. get out into the real world and engage. social media is fake. I can't watch the video above at work, but I know for a FACT that 99% of facebook users use it like people wear makeup: hiding the blemishes, accentuating the good features to the point of it being unnatural. nowadays I see right through that stuff. there's one couple in particular that I'm friends with, that if you only knew them through facebook, you'd think their life is paradise day in and day out. it is just so transparent and dumb.

on national mental health day, I posted about my own struggles; all real, no editing, no filter. you wouldn't believe the reaction from people I never knew had the same struggles. some on the post, some in private messages. but the message to me was clear: we are all the same. we all struggle. no one is exempt from sadness, depression (clinical or situational), loneliness, etc, no matter what our online presence presents to the world.

Thanks for sharing. You're right I know, nobody's life is perfect, even though it's tempting to think that sometimes. I'm frequently guilty of feeling envious of people I know, perceiving their lives to be so much better than my own. It's actually the trait I despise most in myself, that tendency towards envy and jealousy. Countless times I have asked myself what it achieves? Being envious of others won't change anything about my own life, it will simply make me feel crap. You can't change your looks, your family or your personality. You are who you are. The best example I can give is my former badminton partner. She is tall, pretty, everyone loves her, she has a great family and they're really close. She has a long-term boyfriend and they're about to buy a house together, oh and she has passed me out in badminton so that she's now sought after as a partner and has left me behind. I envy her all this and yet this is such wasted emotion. I can never be as pretty or as popular as her, I can't have her family So on and so forth. I know this, I understand this, and yet......

You can see how I frustrate myself! It's like a constant battle against my own thoughts and feelings, I could write a book on being my own worst enemy. How is it that you can essentially conspire against yourself, is it something wrong in the hardwiring of the brain?? I'm sure the psychology of it is quite interesting, good thing we don't have a culture of therapy here or they'd be making a fortune out of me

your good looking badminton friend has her own struggles. believe me. her life isn't perfect, no matter if it seems that way. the people who LOOK as if they have it all often are the most troubled.

a good self help book or meditation or yoga class would do you wonders. or just simply making an effort to go for a walk every day. hell, those two things would do ME wonders.

if you wish to talk further about this, pm me. I think I've taken up enough of this thread with my ramblings. LOL

jnimhaoileoin

HughFreakingDillon said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Pap said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Well that was suitably depressing. Scott and I have much in common ha

I just wanted to show you how fake everything on Facebook is.

I know, I did understand that aspect of it but it also highlighted to me how, like Scott, I am guilty of wanting people to validate my existence on facebook, like my comments and photos etc. It's bloody pathetic, I know that and yet it feels like something you can't control? Hence I now think it's better for me not to interact on facebook at all because then I can't fall into the same old trap again.

I have been guilty of this for sure. I think there are certain types of personalities that shouldn't be on social media. mine included. I post something I think is funny, if it doesn't get any likes or reactions or comments I get kind of down. it really is stupid. but that's the state of society now. instant gratification in all facets. but then I have deleted my account before, and then I feel like I'm "missing something", like I wasn't invited to the party. it really seems silly, but it is human nature. it's empty communication. we are social beings, and we spend so much time on social media, but it doesn't give us the real face to face communication that we desire. get out into the real world and engage. social media is fake. I can't watch the video above at work, but I know for a FACT that 99% of facebook users use it like people wear makeup: hiding the blemishes, accentuating the good features to the point of it being unnatural. nowadays I see right through that stuff. there's one couple in particular that I'm friends with, that if you only knew them through facebook, you'd think their life is paradise day in and day out. it is just so transparent and dumb.

on national mental health day, I posted about my own struggles; all real, no editing, no filter. you wouldn't believe the reaction from people I never knew had the same struggles. some on the post, some in private messages. but the message to me was clear: we are all the same. we all struggle. no one is exempt from sadness, depression (clinical or situational), loneliness, etc, no matter what our online presence presents to the world.

Thanks for sharing. You're right I know, nobody's life is perfect, even though it's tempting to think that sometimes. I'm frequently guilty of feeling envious of people I know, perceiving their lives to be so much better than my own. It's actually the trait I despise most in myself, that tendency towards envy and jealousy. Countless times I have asked myself what it achieves? Being envious of others won't change anything about my own life, it will simply make me feel crap. You can't change your looks, your family or your personality. You are who you are. The best example I can give is my former badminton partner. She is tall, pretty, everyone loves her, she has a great family and they're really close. She has a long-term boyfriend and they're about to buy a house together, oh and she has passed me out in badminton so that she's now sought after as a partner and has left me behind. I envy her all this and yet this is such wasted emotion. I can never be as pretty or as popular as her, I can't have her family So on and so forth. I know this, I understand this, and yet......

You can see how I frustrate myself! It's like a constant battle against my own thoughts and feelings, I could write a book on being my own worst enemy. How is it that you can essentially conspire against yourself, is it something wrong in the hardwiring of the brain?? I'm sure the psychology of it is quite interesting, good thing we don't have a culture of therapy here or they'd be making a fortune out of me

your good looking badminton friend has her own struggles. believe me. her life isn't perfect, no matter if it seems that way. the people who LOOK as if they have it all often are the most troubled.

a good self help book or meditation or yoga class would do you wonders. or just simply making an effort to go for a walk every day. hell, those two things would do ME wonders.

if you wish to talk further about this, pm me. I think I've taken up enough of this thread with my ramblings. LOL

Haha, you're too kind, we both know it's my boring ramblings

Exercise is indeed my refuge, on that note I'm going to shut up and go spend an hour on my exercise bike reading a good book! Thanks again for listening

SD48277

Jenny, for what it's worth: I'm envious that you live in Dublin. It is such a beautiful city. And if you need a break, the rest of Europe is easily accessible.

jnimhaoileoin

SD48277 said:

Jenny, for what it's worth: I'm envious that you live in Dublin. It is such a beautiful city. And if you need a break, the rest of Europe is easily accessible.

Oh I do love my home, I know I have many things to be thankful for By the way, if you ever need a break, we have a few spare rooms

JWPearl

I'd love a break...
I will have a break when I get home though.....lol
Good thing we can never be bought...

SD48277

jnimhaoileoin said:

SD48277 said:

Jenny, for what it's worth: I'm envious that you live in Dublin. It is such a beautiful city. And if you need a break, the rest of Europe is easily accessible.

Oh I do love my home, I know I have many things to be thankful for By the way, if you ever need a break, we have a few spare rooms

Thank you! That is a very generous offer.

JWPearl

Luke 9;23
Galatians 3;13
Matthew 27;46
Hebrews 10;(12),13

deadendp

HughFreakingDillon said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

HughFreakingDillon said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Pap said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Well that was suitably depressing. Scott and I have much in common ha

I just wanted to show you how fake everything on Facebook is.

I know, I did understand that aspect of it but it also highlighted to me how, like Scott, I am guilty of wanting people to validate my existence on facebook, like my comments and photos etc. It's bloody pathetic, I know that and yet it feels like something you can't control? Hence I now think it's better for me not to interact on facebook at all because then I can't fall into the same old trap again.

I have been guilty of this for sure. I think there are certain types of personalities that shouldn't be on social media. mine included. I post something I think is funny, if it doesn't get any likes or reactions or comments I get kind of down. it really is stupid. but that's the state of society now. instant gratification in all facets. but then I have deleted my account before, and then I feel like I'm "missing something", like I wasn't invited to the party. it really seems silly, but it is human nature. it's empty communication. we are social beings, and we spend so much time on social media, but it doesn't give us the real face to face communication that we desire. get out into the real world and engage. social media is fake. I can't watch the video above at work, but I know for a FACT that 99% of facebook users use it like people wear makeup: hiding the blemishes, accentuating the good features to the point of it being unnatural. nowadays I see right through that stuff. there's one couple in particular that I'm friends with, that if you only knew them through facebook, you'd think their life is paradise day in and day out. it is just so transparent and dumb.

on national mental health day, I posted about my own struggles; all real, no editing, no filter. you wouldn't believe the reaction from people I never knew had the same struggles. some on the post, some in private messages. but the message to me was clear: we are all the same. we all struggle. no one is exempt from sadness, depression (clinical or situational), loneliness, etc, no matter what our online presence presents to the world.

Thanks for sharing. You're right I know, nobody's life is perfect, even though it's tempting to think that sometimes. I'm frequently guilty of feeling envious of people I know, perceiving their lives to be so much better than my own. It's actually the trait I despise most in myself, that tendency towards envy and jealousy. Countless times I have asked myself what it achieves? Being envious of others won't change anything about my own life, it will simply make me feel crap. You can't change your looks, your family or your personality. You are who you are. The best example I can give is my former badminton partner. She is tall, pretty, everyone loves her, she has a great family and they're really close. She has a long-term boyfriend and they're about to buy a house together, oh and she has passed me out in badminton so that she's now sought after as a partner and has left me behind. I envy her all this and yet this is such wasted emotion. I can never be as pretty or as popular as her, I can't have her family So on and so forth. I know this, I understand this, and yet......

You can see how I frustrate myself! It's like a constant battle against my own thoughts and feelings, I could write a book on being my own worst enemy. How is it that you can essentially conspire against yourself, is it something wrong in the hardwiring of the brain?? I'm sure the psychology of it is quite interesting, good thing we don't have a culture of therapy here or they'd be making a fortune out of me

your good looking badminton friend has her own struggles. believe me. her life isn't perfect, no matter if it seems that way. the people who LOOK as if they have it all often are the most troubled.

a good self help book or meditation or yoga class would do you wonders. or just simply making an effort to go for a walk every day. hell, those two things would do ME wonders.

if you wish to talk further about this, pm me. I think I've taken up enough of this thread with my ramblings. LOL

HFD, It is nice to have your perspective. I appreciate reading your honesty.

Longueuil

When I will die, there will be no speech, just music and photos of me laughing.

JWPearl

Mind you own business

g under p

Today is National Tell The Truth Day....imagine a world where EVERYONE told the the truth. Also it's world chocolate day......ok I'll pick some Kit Kat and Snickers bars.

Peace

jnimhaoileoin

g under p said:

Today is National Tell The Truth Day....imagine a world where EVERYONE told the the truth. Also it's world chocolate day......ok I'll pick some Kit Kat and Snickers bars.

Peace

We can't handle the truth

JWPearl

jnimhaoileoin said:

g under p said:

Today is National Tell The Truth Day....imagine a world where EVERYONE told the the truth. Also it's world chocolate day......ok I'll pick some Kit Kat and Snickers bars.

Peace

We can't handle the truth

Speak for yourself lol

That's why I'm not worried bc I know the truth...

hedonist

jnimhaoileoin said:

g under p said:

Today is National Tell The Truth Day....imagine a world where EVERYONE told the the truth. Also it's world chocolate day......ok I'll pick some Kit Kat and Snickers bars.

Peace

We can't handle the truth

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhAS1qiuu1Q

FrankieG

I love when weeks fly by because you get to do work activities outside/in the bays instead of in the cube farm

JWPearl

FrankieG said:

I love when weeks fly by because you get to do work activities outside/in the bays instead of in the cube farm

May I ask what is your job I can't make it out

hedonist

People who talk about helping the environment and then littering.