what's on your mind, right now?

HughFreakingDillon

PJ_Soul said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

JWPearl said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

I really could do with a date for my brother's wedding...of course the fact that I have never had a date in my life does present something of a challenge...

have you ever thought of rsvp or something and make sure you take a couple with you or something

what do you mean by rsvp? Wedding invites usually only a plus 1. I only have one male friend and he doesn't want to come.

The problem with this wedding is that I won't know anyone there other than my dad, his wife and my younger half-brothers and half-sister, who really I barely know at all. I'm also likely to be an object of a degree of interest, as my dad's illegitimate eldest daughter with another woman haha

Ask your one male friend to suck it up and go with you even if he doesn't want to, because you need him to do you this favour?

or, go alone! it might seem weird at first, but if anyone asks why you are alone, say "I didn't want to babysit anybody tonight; I just wanted to be free". stay for dinner and the speeches, if you find yourself bored and lonely, leave. you are not obligated to stay past the speeches, and definitley not for the garter belt ridiculousness of parading all the single souls up in front of everyone, if people still do that.

Annafalk

If I was you I'd go alone, because then its easier to meet someone, I really hope you'll have a good time Jnimhaoileoin !!!

PJ_Soul

HughFreakingDillon said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

hedonist said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

So someone messaged me on facebook as I've been off it for a while. Was nice that someone thought of me but now I regret being honest in my reply as there's been a deafening silence since! Is it any wonder that when someone asks 'how are you', we all just reply 'oh fine grand'? People don't really want to know the honest answer and to have to deal with it. Lesson learned....

Sometimes some are more comfortable with niceties vs genuineness.

Never regret being honest, Jenny. The lack of response is on them, not you. Plus there may be more to their silence than their silence.

Thanks Hedo. It kinda cheered me up to get the message and then she managed to bring me down again by ignoring my reply. My experience of taking a break from Facebook has really just shown me how false online friends usually are. You tell yourself it's great you have all these people to talk to but really they're only there when it suits them and when you're good craic, not when you actually need them

this happens to me a lot. I stopped lying. I would usually just say the expected "pretty good, how are you?", but when my anxiety/depression hit a peak last summer, it was actually exhausting to keep the lie going. it chipped away at me. I knew who was really asking the question based on if they had follow up questions the next day, the next week, the next month. The others, I don't blame them, just like the conversation starter. some people, as hedo said, aren't comfortable with seeing into your closet. they just want to comment on the furniture.

Yeah, I am just always honest. I actually can't stand empty niceties and pointless small talk. How boring! I want substance and honesty and reality.

jnimhaoileoin

Thanks guys, on the slim chance that I might meet someone, maybe I will go to the wedding alone

I wish I could be honest about how I feel and tell someone when I'm struggling but really, nobody wants to know. Sad but true, that's life! For that reason, I will always be there for anyone who needs to talk

PJ_Soul

I'm just thinking about how little traffic there is on these boards when most of you aren't at work.

JWPearl

Think I will get married with the dawn and the garden with family nice to join up that way so close.....
Should be superb and whatever bad happens I'm sure we can met justice and take care of it...
For the boss too is our friend and we can find things out easily...
Benefits of seats...

23scidoo

My mind is grey..

electronblue

how much I would like to see the a/c repair guy pull up in the driveway with the right a/c parts..
also, how cute my two little dogs look flattened out on the floor in front of the fan

HughFreakingDillon

PJ_Soul said:

I'm just thinking about how little traffic there is on these boards when most of you aren't at work.

this is so true. you might notice I come here 9-5, Monday to Friday. LOL.

HughFreakingDillon

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thanks guys, on the slim chance that I might meet someone, maybe I will go to the wedding alone

I wish I could be honest about how I feel and tell someone when I'm struggling but really, nobody wants to know. Sad but true, that's life! For that reason, I will always be there for anyone who needs to talk

just one time, one day, say "ah, not the best". you'd be surprised how many people might actually act concerned and ask a follow up. or may share a story of their own.

HughFreakingDillon

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thanks guys, on the slim chance that I might meet someone, maybe I will go to the wedding alone

I wish I could be honest about how I feel and tell someone when I'm struggling but really, nobody wants to know. Sad but true, that's life! For that reason, I will always be there for anyone who needs to talk

stupid double post.

jnimhaoileoin

HughFreakingDillon said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Thanks guys, on the slim chance that I might meet someone, maybe I will go to the wedding alone

I wish I could be honest about how I feel and tell someone when I'm struggling but really, nobody wants to know. Sad but true, that's life! For that reason, I will always be there for anyone who needs to talk

just one time, one day, say "ah, not the best". you'd be surprised how many people might actually act concerned and ask a follow up. or may share a story of their own.

You're right, I would be surprised I could never do it face to face and that's pretty much the only way anyone ever talks to me now, when I venture out into the big bad world. Usually I just wait for the gloom to pass and put up with feeling miserable. Eventually you wake up one day and feel a bit better, then gradually rejoin society! Sure I'm still hanging out here, that's something

Ms. Haiku

Summer is here! The humidity this morning . . . oh, my! Where is the ocean, and where is the car to take me to it?

FinsburyParkCarrots

I've marked about a billion exam papers today. I think a nice cold beer is on my mind.

Pap

jnimhaoileoin said:

Facebook

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QxVZYiJKl1Y

Pap

23scidoo said:

My mind is grey..

The mind is grey like the city... Are you turning into a Ghost?

jnimhaoileoin

Pap said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Facebook

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QxVZYiJKl1Y

Well that was suitably depressing. Scott and I have much in common ha

Pap

jnimhaoileoin said:

Well that was suitably depressing. Scott and I have much in common ha

I just wanted to show you how fake everything on Facebook is.

jnimhaoileoin

Pap said:

jnimhaoileoin said:

Well that was suitably depressing. Scott and I have much in common ha

I just wanted to show you how fake everything on Facebook is.

I know, I did understand that aspect of it but it also highlighted to me how, like Scott, I am guilty of wanting people to validate my existence on facebook, like my comments and photos etc. It's bloody pathetic, I know that and yet it feels like something you can't control? Hence I now think it's better for me not to interact on facebook at all because then I can't fall into the same old trap again.

hedonist

Jenny, you don't need validation from others.

To paraphrase the Beatles, it's within and without you.

Plus, sometimes you just need to give everything a laugh at the absurdity of it all.