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  • FrankieG
    FrankieG Abingdon MD Posts: 9,100
    HughFreakingDillon said:

    FrankieG said:

    samjam said:

    You guys are great (and much cheaper than therapy)! Thanks for the wisdom in my confusing, adolescent hour. I also have to stop comparing myself to others because I think that's making me even more crazy. (But seriously, how do so many people I know (seemingly) have their shit together?!)

    I debate this question alot too, and all I keep coming back to is "they make it up as they go along".


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    Looking for advice on how to deal with a team lead who is slowly starting to be more and more micromanaging me? Can I just come out and ask her to stop? That's what I want to do... but the things I have read online say to prove that her micromanaging is pointless which will eventually lead her to stop. Anyone have experience with this?
    yes. my last boss was the worst I'd ever had. when he first started, he treated us all as if we were geniuses "hello Paul, I need your expertise" was his go-to line. then he started telling us to submit times we scheduled our lunch hour. for 8 years my boss above him was loose, "take lunch when you want" type of thing.

    my response: "when I'm hungry"

    he asked me again about a week later. I said "I gave you my response; when I'm hungry". he wanted me/us to go for lunch at a pre-determined set time every single day. I said "so if I'm in the middle of something at that particular moment, you want me to drop everything because it's lunch time? this isn't a construction site or an assembly line".

    eventually when he didn't give me a raise because of "personality conflict", i told him what a horrible boss he was. i told him that the people in this department have been there for years, some decades, and we don't need someone coming in and micromanaging every little minute of our day. your job is to make sure our jobs get done. and they do. our department pretty much runs itself. so don't fuck with it. all you are doing is pissing everyone off. some even went to HR looking into the possibility of early retirement!

    he quit not longer after that.

    micromanagers are insecure people who are afraid they don't have handle on things. they are poor leaders.

    I don't know your corporate culture. or how people view you. People know I'm outspoken and if something pisses me off, I will let them know. I think I get a little bit of a pass becuase of that. My dad was shocked when I told him I told my boss that he sucked. that would have gotten him fired back in the day.

    maybe pull her aside, privately, and tell her, calmly, that you are feeling as if she isn't confident you can do your job, and ask if there is any reason for that and what you can do to alleviate her stress about it. make it sound as if YOU want to improve.

    if she's a reasonable professional, that will open her eyes to the fact she's been a moron, and she'll explain she's just stressed about the project and she's sorry. if she's just a power hungry and/or insecure bitch, there's really not much you can do. just any time she gives you a directive, say "yeah, already on it, thanks".

    Thanks! Yeah, if it gets out of hand in the next 2 weeks I'm gonna say somehting to her. I'm pretty sure it will... She isn't my direct supervisor, so she deosn't handle my timecards, etc; only projects deadlines, which I guess its better that way. My supervisor is really cool and flexible, atleast I can fall back to him if I have any problems.
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    2010: 5/20 NY, 5/21 NY ... 2011: 6/21 EV NY, 9/3 WI, 9/4 WI ... 2012: 9/2 PA, 9/22 GA ... 2013: 10/18 NY, 10/19 NY, 10/21 PA, 10/22 PA, 10/27 MD
    2015: 9/23 NY, 9/26 NY ... 2016: 4/28 PA, 4/29 PA, 5/1 NY, 5/2 NY, 6/11 TN, 8/7 MA, 11/4 TOTD PA, 11/5 TOTD PA ... 2018: 8/10 WA
    2022: 9/14 NJ ... 2024: 5/28 WA, 9/7 PA, 9/9 PA ---- http://imgur.com/a/nk0s7
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    Pap said:

    new Violent Femmes' song:

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PowkNYuXQwo

    Thank you! I LOVE the Femmes!
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    Do you really want to know what's on my mo d at this very moment??? Cause I was kinda thinking that I love Jalapeños, but my poor butt wishes I didn't....
  • frozenwithsalt
    frozenwithsalt Texas Posts: 765
    edited March 2015
    Ugh...long hair, berry lipgloss and a windy day. I look like I've been whipped in the face a few times.
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  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    I think I'm the only person that doesn't care about 'march madness'...
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • samjam
    samjam New York Posts: 9,283
    It's a good day to listen to some old voicemails from my dad
    "Sometimes you find yourself having to put all your faith in no faith."
    ~not a dude~
    2010: MSGx2
    2012: Made In America
    2013: Pittsburgh, Brooklynx2, Hartford, Baltimore
    2014: Leeds, Milton Keynes, Detroit
    2015: Global Citizen Festival
    2016: Phillyx2, MSGx2, Fenwayx2
    2018: Barcelona, Wrigleyx2
  • 23scidoo
    23scidoo Thessaloniki,Greece Posts: 19,969
    i have to take a bath..
    Athens 2006. Dusseldorf 2007. Berlin 2009. Venice 2010. Amsterdam 1 2012. Amsterdam 1+2 2014. Buenos Aires 2015.
    Prague Krakow Berlin 2018. Berlin 2022
    EV, Taormina 1+2 2017.

    I wish i was the souvenir you kept your house key on..
  • samjam
    samjam New York Posts: 9,283
    Whenever I start to miss NYC or DC, I curb that by looking up rent prices. Suddenly not as sad anymore lol!
    "Sometimes you find yourself having to put all your faith in no faith."
    ~not a dude~
    2010: MSGx2
    2012: Made In America
    2013: Pittsburgh, Brooklynx2, Hartford, Baltimore
    2014: Leeds, Milton Keynes, Detroit
    2015: Global Citizen Festival
    2016: Phillyx2, MSGx2, Fenwayx2
    2018: Barcelona, Wrigleyx2
  • FrankieG
    FrankieG Abingdon MD Posts: 9,100
    If you have 2 prostetic legs, could you buy new ones to make yourself taller? :how_interesting:
    2003: 7/14 NJ ... 2006: 6/1 NJ, 6/3 NJ ... 2007: 8/5 IL ... 2008: 6/24 NY, 6/25 NY, 8/7 EV NJ ... 2009: 10/27 PA, 10/28 PA, 10/30 PA, 10/31 PA
    2010: 5/20 NY, 5/21 NY ... 2011: 6/21 EV NY, 9/3 WI, 9/4 WI ... 2012: 9/2 PA, 9/22 GA ... 2013: 10/18 NY, 10/19 NY, 10/21 PA, 10/22 PA, 10/27 MD
    2015: 9/23 NY, 9/26 NY ... 2016: 4/28 PA, 4/29 PA, 5/1 NY, 5/2 NY, 6/11 TN, 8/7 MA, 11/4 TOTD PA, 11/5 TOTD PA ... 2018: 8/10 WA
    2022: 9/14 NJ ... 2024: 5/28 WA, 9/7 PA, 9/9 PA ---- http://imgur.com/a/nk0s7
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,673
    FrankieG said:

    If you have 2 prostetic legs, could you buy new ones to make yourself taller? :how_interesting:

    That's what I'd do! Looks fun, and just imagine all the stuff you could reach. :tongue:

    image
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  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    how great life can be.
    By The Time They Figure Out What Went Wrong, We'll Be Sitting On A Beach, Earning Twenty Percent.




  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    Of course the internet decides to start working 30 minutes before the tech is supposed to show up...bet he's glad he has some free time now.
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • mfc2006
    mfc2006 HTOWN Posts: 37,491
    it's almost time to go home!!!
    I LOVE MUSIC.
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  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    mfc2006 said:

    it's almost time to go home!!!

    MATTY-MATT!!!
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    Sunday August 23:
    Slipknot
    Lamb of God
    3 Days Grace
    Bullet for My Valentine
    Theory of a Deadman
    Motionless in White
    Crobot
    Ayron Jones and the Way

    hmmmm...I only know 5 of the bands...
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless
  • PJSiren
    PJSiren Salem, OR Posts: 5,863
    why does my head itch??? Is my pony too tight? lol
    Music is my Religion and Pearl Jam, my Savior!
    Tattooed Dissident!
  • frozenwithsalt
    frozenwithsalt Texas Posts: 765
    edited March 2015
    PJSiren said:

    why does my head itch??? Is my pony too tight? lol


    Letting your hair down after too long in a tight pony, braid or bun is not fun. It's like each follicle is screaming.
  • PJSiren
    PJSiren Salem, OR Posts: 5,863
    frozenwithsalt said:

    PJSiren said:

    why does my head itch??? Is my pony too tight? lol


    Letting your hair down after too long in a tight pony, braid or bun is not fun. It's like each follicle is screaming.
    yup...and I can't let it down until I get home and I still won't be home for an hour and a half...oh it will feel amazing to let my hair down though...
    Music is my Religion and Pearl Jam, my Savior!
    Tattooed Dissident!
  • whispering hands
    whispering hands Under your skin Posts: 13,527
    RKCNDY said:

    Sunday August 23:
    Slipknot
    Lamb of God
    3 Days Grace
    Bullet for My Valentine
    Theory of a Deadman
    Motionless in White
    Crobot
    Ayron Jones and the Way

    hmmmm...I only know 5 of the bands...

    What does it say for me, that I know of all but one??
  • RKCNDY
    RKCNDY Posts: 31,013
    whispering hands said:

    RKCNDY said:

    Sunday August 23:
    Slipknot
    Lamb of God
    3 Days Grace
    Bullet for My Valentine
    Theory of a Deadman
    Motionless in White
    Crobot
    Ayron Jones and the Way

    hmmmm...I only know 5 of the bands...

    What does it say for me, that I know of all but one??
    That you might want to go to that show?
    The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.

    - Christopher McCandless

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