what's on your mind, right now?

HughFreakingDillon

frozenwithsalt said:

This Cinderella backlash is a bunch of bs. If one movie can influence a little girl that a boy is all she needs then something else is wrong with how she is being raised.

I had a woman tell my 9 year old that 'she doesn't need a boy to hold a door open' when he did so for her and her daughter. WTF.

As with every thing in life extremist are a bunch of assholes.

the story is quite dated, and every feminist parent's nightmare, but you are correct. my daughters both love cinderella, but we also teach them that it's fantasy, and that they don't need a spouse of any kind to "rescue" them.

they prefer monster high now anyway. LOL

northerndragon

frozenwithsalt said:

This Cinderella backlash is a bunch of bs. If one movie can influence a little girl that a boy is all she needs then something else is wrong with how she is being raised.

I had a woman tell my 9 year old that 'she doesn't need a boy to hold a door open' when he did so for her and her daughter. WTF.

As with every thing in life extremist are a bunch of assholes.

This part is aggravating it's not about a 'boy' holding the door for anyone it's about one human being, being nice to another human being. Your son did a nice thing and she was just a snatch. Women who can't realize that feminism isn't about doing it all your self and downing on men are not feminists and they give those of us who actually are a very bad rap.

samjam

Can't thank you guys enough. Life has its peaks and valleys, and its a valley for me right now. Just gonna have to keep winging it to the next peak

samjam

samjam said:

Wow wow wow wow.

Out of the blue, I Facebook messaged a pretty famous (lead singer has an item on display at the RNRHOF) old NYC punk band, who had a member my late father was friends with. 20 minutes later, I GET AN ANSWER from this guy saying he remembered my dad, and he's now reaching out to mutual friends for more stories and such. Just wow.

Update!! The lead singer gave me the name of the guitar player, who also knew my dad and he just sent me a lovely e-mail with even more memories of my dad! I'm so amazed and happy.

RKCNDY

samjam said:

samjam said:

Wow wow wow wow.

Out of the blue, I Facebook messaged a pretty famous (lead singer has an item on display at the RNRHOF) old NYC punk band, who had a member my late father was friends with. 20 minutes later, I GET AN ANSWER from this guy saying he remembered my dad, and he's now reaching out to mutual friends for more stories and such. Just wow.

Update!! The lead singer gave me the name of the guitar player, who also knew my dad and he just sent me a lovely e-mail with even more memories of my dad! I'm so amazed and happy.

this is so wonderful to hear sam!

FrankieG...I read an article that said when someone micromanages you, they are actually threatened by your competency...sort of challenging you in a way. Probably best to ask them directly, what type of goals they want reached, or what outcomes they expect from you. Like when they say,"work on this report" ask them, "when do you need it by, what information do you need in it? etc, etc" they may eventually get the hint. Though sometimes some bosses just get off on telling people what to do.

...and I fucking hold the door open for anybody, man or woman. It's common courtesy, and being respectful. Or I at least ask, "can I get the door for you?" It's fucking rude to let a door slam in another person's face.

ldent42

frozenwithsalt said:

Time Warner Cable - bunch of @*%$#%&()

Did they raise your bill too?!?! My bill just went up $30/month out of no where, for no reason, with no change to my service.

PJSiren

French fries...

whispering hands

I had to go to PetCo to get more Kitty Caps.. And two weird things happened.. First, a puppy just ran up to me howling and crying as if terrified.. His owner was frantically calling and looking for him.. So as i quieted the adorable little Belgian Shepard pup, I called out that I had the puppy in the cat section with me. The guy showed up, and the puppy sat at my feet until the guy picked him up. He put the puppy in his basket, and turned to leave, thanking me, and the puppy jumped out of the basket and back to me. Then, as I was leaving, I opened my car door, and this gigantic German Shepard jumped in my car!! Just jumped in and sat in my passenger seat! Her owner was as shocked as I was!! And I reached in to get her out, and she just licked my face and head frantically! Weird day!!

oftenreading

whispering hands said:

I had to go to PetCo to get more Kitty Caps.. And two weird things happened.. First, a puppy just ran up to me howling and crying as if terrified.. His owner was frantically calling and looking for him.. So as i quieted the adorable little Belgian Shepard pup, I called out that I had the puppy in the cat section with me. The guy showed up, and the puppy sat at my feet until the guy picked him up. He put the puppy in his basket, and turned to leave, thanking me, and the puppy jumped out of the basket and back to me. Then, as I was leaving, I opened my car door, and this gigantic German Shepard jumped in my car!! Just jumped in and sat in my passenger seat! Her owner was as shocked as I was!! And I reached in to get her out, and she just licked my face and head frantically! Weird day!!

Animal magnetism, obviously.

frozenwithsalt

ldent42 said:

frozenwithsalt said:

Time Warner Cable - bunch of @*%$#%&()

Did they raise your bill too?!?! My bill just went up $30/month out of no where, for no reason, with no change to my service.

No but they are charging me for a service they didn't provide. I had cancelled cable then added back on about 2 months ago and even after the cable guy came and 'flipped the switch' outside the cable never worked. So after about 3 services calls I gave up and said to stop he cable and I would be in to drop off boxes.

Well fast forward a month and the cable boxes were still in my car so I finally made it to drop them off and was told since I had the boxes they were still going to charge me price for the cable. I told them I haven't EVER had cable. They said since it took a month and THEIR systems say the cable was on they were going to charge me. Their decisions stands. Refused to let me speak with anyone else.

I'm not a physical person usually but I wanted to slap the itch.

frozenwithsalt

samjam said:

Can't thank you guys enough. Life has its peaks and valleys, and its a valley for me right now. Just gonna have to keep winging it to the next peak

I hope things get better. I have had my own stormy days too, but I am finally starting to see some blue sky.

ldent42

frozenwithsalt said:

ldent42 said:

frozenwithsalt said:

Time Warner Cable - bunch of @*%$#%&()

Did they raise your bill too?!?! My bill just went up $30/month out of no where, for no reason, with no change to my service.

No but they are charging me for a service they didn't provide. I had cancelled cable then added back on about 2 months ago and even after the cable guy came and 'flipped the switch' outside the cable never worked. So after about 3 services calls I gave up and said to stop he cable and I would be in to drop off boxes.

Well fast forward a month and the cable boxes were still in my car so I finally made it to drop them off and was told since I had the boxes they were still going to charge me price for the cable. I told them I haven't EVER had cable. They said since it took a month and THEIR systems say the cable was on they were going to charge me. Their decisions stands. Refused to let me speak with anyone else.

I'm not a physical person usually but I wanted to slap the itch.

Oh yea they do that. Even if you cancel the service they still charge you by the day until you turn in the boxes. They're evil.

Pap

oftenreading said:

whispering hands said:

I had to go to PetCo to get more Kitty Caps.. And two weird things happened.. First, a puppy just ran up to me howling and crying as if terrified.. His owner was frantically calling and looking for him.. So as i quieted the adorable little Belgian Shepard pup, I called out that I had the puppy in the cat section with me. The guy showed up, and the puppy sat at my feet until the guy picked him up. He put the puppy in his basket, and turned to leave, thanking me, and the puppy jumped out of the basket and back to me. Then, as I was leaving, I opened my car door, and this gigantic German Shepard jumped in my car!! Just jumped in and sat in my passenger seat! Her owner was as shocked as I was!! And I reached in to get her out, and she just licked my face and head frantically! Weird day!!

Animal magnetism, obviously.

Animal lover...

FrankieG

RKCNDY said:

samjam said:

samjam said:

Wow wow wow wow.

Out of the blue, I Facebook messaged a pretty famous (lead singer has an item on display at the RNRHOF) old NYC punk band, who had a member my late father was friends with. 20 minutes later, I GET AN ANSWER from this guy saying he remembered my dad, and he's now reaching out to mutual friends for more stories and such. Just wow.

Update!! The lead singer gave me the name of the guitar player, who also knew my dad and he just sent me a lovely e-mail with even more memories of my dad! I'm so amazed and happy.

this is so wonderful to hear sam!

FrankieG...I read an article that said when someone micromanages you, they are actually threatened by your competency...sort of challenging you in a way. Probably best to ask them directly, what type of goals they want reached, or what outcomes they expect from you. Like when they say,"work on this report" ask them, "when do you need it by, what information do you need in it? etc, etc" they may eventually get the hint. Though sometimes some bosses just get off on telling people what to do.

...and I fucking hold the door open for anybody, man or woman. It's common courtesy, and being respectful. Or I at least ask, "can I get the door for you?" It's fucking rude to let a door slam in another person's face.

Yes, awesome news Sam!

I can see that may be the case, but my team lead has 22 more years experience than I do.. It seems that the micromanaging started around the time we got a 5th team member (I was #4). I think she is feeling the pressure to stay on top of everyone's projects because she is ultimately responsible, but the only way she knows how is to constantly hover, ask for updates, and rate everyone against each other. Maybe I'm just need to relax a little, give her what she wants, and see how it plays out? But then I don't want to set a precendent that can't be taken back... ha

RKCNDY

FrankieG said:

I can see that may be the case, but my team lead has 22 more years experience than I do.. It seems that the micromanaging started around the time we got a 5th team member (I was #4). I think she is feeling the pressure to stay on top of everyone's projects because she is ultimately responsible, but the only way she knows how is to constantly hover, ask for updates, and rate everyone against each other. Maybe I'm just need to relax a little, give her what she wants, and see how it plays out? But then I don't want to set a precendent that can't be taken back... ha

or if she has a boss, her boss may be riding her ass for getting stuff done. Relax a little, do what she wants, and see how it goes from there.
I don't think rating employees against each other isn't really fair, unless everybody has the same responsibilities.
I'm glad at my new job, everybody wants to be up front and honest, go directly to each other if you have any issues.

jnimhaoileoin

Jesus things like this actually happen??? :(

Pregnant woman stabbed and baby taken from her womb after answering internet ad http://jrnl.ie/2000351 via TheJournal.ie

23scidoo

when i get my salary????????????

samjam

Taking my boyfriend's mom to see Neil Diamond tomorrow night-- wish me luck!! Thinking I may need a few beverages to get through this one! But really just glad to have gotten her free tickets to see one of her favorites. I'll gladly take one for the team for that!

whispering hands

samjam said:

Taking my boyfriend's mom to see Neil Diamond tomorrow night-- wish me luck!! Thinking I may need a few beverages to get through this one! But really just glad to have gotten her free tickets to see one of her favorites. I'll gladly take one for the team for that!

Niel Diamond isn't that bad in Concert. As a matter of fact, it was a lot of fun! Everyone sang along.. And to watch little old ladies swoon us funny and cute! Anyhow, have fun.

whispering hands

Lmao! I'm telling you, auto correct has given up on me! Neil, not Niel.