Have the moderators retired?

cincybearcat

_outlaw wrote:

know1 wrote:

Then I guess we shouldn't even speak or write.

Telling someone what should be common sense - ie that you should know the costs before you have the child - is not slamming them.

Telling someone something that, as you phrase it, is common sense depends on the assumption that the person you're speaking to doesn't know common sense and is condescending. does that really have to be explained?

I'd be careful going down the "condescending" road here...as the people complaining in this thread have been pretty consistantly condescending in their posts.

fuck

cincybearcat wrote:

_outlaw wrote:

know1 wrote:

Then I guess we shouldn't even speak or write.

Telling someone what should be common sense - ie that you should know the costs before you have the child - is not slamming them.

Telling someone something that, as you phrase it, is common sense depends on the assumption that the person you're speaking to doesn't know common sense and is condescending. does that really have to be explained?

I'd be careful going down the "condescending" road here...as the people complaining in this thread have been pretty consistantly condescending in their posts.

what do the people in this thread being condescending have to do with what I said? know1 is pretending as if "telling someone what should be common sense" is fine... I disagreed. I never claimed anything else.

cincybearcat

_outlaw wrote:

cincybearcat wrote:

_outlaw wrote:

Telling someone something that, as you phrase it, is common sense depends on the assumption that the person you're speaking to doesn't know common sense and is condescending. does that really have to be explained?

I'd be careful going down the "condescending" road here...as the people complaining in this thread have been pretty consistantly condescending in their posts.

what do the people in this thread being condescending have to do with what I said? know1 is pretending as if "telling someone what should be common sense" is fine... I disagreed. I never claimed anything else.

You disagreed because it "is condescending", no?

Byrnzie

know1 wrote:

Telling someone what should be common sense - ie that you should know the costs before you have the child - is not slamming them.

I imagine it would be convenient for some people if everything in life resembled a balance sheet. Fortunately though, it doesn't.

TriumphantAngel

cincybearcat wrote:

Everytime I see this thread title I read it as "Are the Mods retarded?"... not sure why, but I can't stop.

here, these will help you to see better.



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yes, i know. i'm awesome.

carry on.

catefrances

he still stands wrote:

I did know the costs. I knew it would be ridiculously expensive and would take me a long time to pay off. It was a simple example of how health care costs have inflated to ridiculous levels to showcase my opinion that reform of some sort is needed....

you bought your child on credit??? i got mine for free.

know1

Byrnzie wrote:

know1 wrote:

Telling someone what should be common sense - ie that you should know the costs before you have the child - is not slamming them.

I imagine it would be convenient for some people if everything in life resembled a balance sheet. Fortunately though, it doesn't.

That isn't my point and the statement doesn't even have to be about the cost of raising a child.

All I'm saying is there's a big difference between directly insulting someone: i.e. "You are an idiot"

and making a statement about doing something one way or another. The statement could have been: "It's good to look both ways before crossing the street" to someone who was nearly hit by a car.

Is the latter statement insulting to the person nearly hit by the car? If so, then they are just looking to be insulted when really the other person is just disagreeing with them on an opinion about life.

I happen to think that it's wise to know the costs and consequences of your actions. If I make that statement to someone and they disagree, it is not a personal insult like directly calling them a derogatory name.

sheesh...it's no wonder society is so antagonistic these days. People just want to be offended and disagreeable.

Byrnzie

know1 wrote:

Byrnzie wrote:

know1 wrote:

Telling someone what should be common sense - ie that you should know the costs before you have the child - is not slamming them.

I imagine it would be convenient for some people if everything in life resembled a balance sheet. Fortunately though, it doesn't.

That isn't my point and the statement doesn't even have to be about the cost of raising a child.

All I'm saying is there's a big difference between directly insulting someone: i.e. "You are an idiot"

and making a statement about doing something one way or another. The statement could have been: "It's good to look both ways before crossing the street" to someone who was nearly hit by a car.

Is the latter statement insulting to the person nearly hit by the car? If so, then they are just looking to be insulted when really the other person is just disagreeing with them on an opinion about life.

I happen to think that it's wise to know the costs and consequences of your actions. If I make that statement to someone and they disagree, it is not a personal insult like directly calling them a derogatory name.

sheesh...it's no wonder society is so antagonistic these days. People just want to be offended and disagreeable.

This was the statement in question: "if you didn't realize how much having a kid is, then you shouldn't have had one."

There's ways to word things, and ways not to word things. The lack of respect shown in the above statement just goes hand-in-hand with the rest of the crap I listed in the O.P.

TriumphantAngel

cut and paste, cut and paste, cut and paste. where's Kat and what have you done with her?

release her.

have you any idea what's it like to be a fem-bot living in a man-bot's man-puter?