I truly believe the 30's are the best years. many others I have said this too believe it also. You'll see...hang in there!
We'll I'm only a year and a half into them, but so far I disagree...a lot of people told me this, actually. They said I'd like have money and a career and feel stable...so far I've learned that the older you get, the more debt you accumulate!
I didn't realize how good my 30's were until I was in my 40's. It was in my 30's I got a college degree, got through with the toughest part of raising my kids, paid off most of my mortgage, truly learned about myself and learned to like me. It did put me in debt, but now I am in a position to take care of it all.
I spent many years planning my future and working towards goals. I now know I am in my future. For me there's a huge difference.
that's crazy, I don't really have the same quarter-life crisis thing going on, but I feel more like I'm in my 20s now than I felt when I was in my 20s. I think the difference is, I learned not to care about stuff. I have absolutely no money, due to a graduate degree that actually sent me backwards nine years in my career, I'm actually taking money from my parents for the first time ever, the extent of my assets are my bikes and my ipod, I haven't really dated since my 20s, the only guys I've hooked up with in the past two years are in their 20s, I'm completely disorganized, I drink too much, all of my friends are acting very much like they're in their 30s lately, so most of what I do for fun is going to rock shows with some 25 year-old boys, I haven't really been on vacation in seven years, and my goal in life right now is to move in with roommates for the first time in ten years so I don't starve to death...at one point this summer, while I was looking at a horrible apartment currently inhabited by frat boys to live in with two other people I don't really know, all I could think was, "I have literally done everything backwards."
But I feel like I'm not dead or in jail, so that's a start. But I do worry what is going to happen when I'm 80 but still in my 20s. But then again, there's really nothing I can do about it, so worrying about it isn't going to help. The only thing I really regret is waiting until my late 20s to go to grad school. I should have just made a decision and gone earlier, it would have been much better for my career AND my finances. But I am where I am.
I know how you feel. Once I turned 26 (I turn 28 next month) I became incredibly depressed, thinking, "that's it...I didn't make anything of myself by age 25; it's all over". I know that's kind of ridiculous, but I guess I had set my standards way too high.
I just got laid off two days ago, and am right back to depression. I really liked my last job. It was repetitive, but it paid well and it had hours I liked and was in a location that I liked. I thought it would last at least a couple more years. It's amazing how everything can be ripped out from under you in one day. There are no guarantees in life. Now I'm trying to figure out if there's anything that I really want to do with my life. I have hobbies that I enjoy, but they're not going to pay my rent. I guess I have to give up my childhood dreams of being an actor/writer/rock star/famous whatever and learn to balance my life with my livelihood.
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I agree w/ the 1/4 life crisis comments. I too had it pretty bad when I was around 24-26.
The key thing to realize is that only one person can get you out of your stalled life: you. Don't bite of more than you can chew: but slowly pick at bits and pieces of life that you can turn around and make better.
If you don't like your job, take a course and find out if there's something out there you are passionate about. If you find you are constantly bored: pick up a new hobby (or 2 or 3). I truly think hobbies are what make life passionate, especially if your job falls flat (John Lennon was right: life is what happens when you are busy making plans.). Have you always been interested in a subject (travel, astronomy, war)? Buy some books and delve right in. The only way I was able to get out of my funk was to pick myself up and force myself to notice when I was bored, or depressed, or just generally feeling down and out. Whatever in life makes you happy: focus on that. IMO there's no other way to be.
I think more research needs to be done on the 1/4 life crisis phenomenon. It is really debilitating for a lot of people.
Very well said.
Turning 50 Monday, crisis :shock: . Just bought my 1st house & moved in last month, my wife has been stressed out also. Hopefully things get better soon, need to take a few deep breathes.
"Life is what YOU make it" words to live by
So, What you Giving ?........ (Thanks Speedy, Alesek, & Arq+friends)
What You Giving
I suggest you step out on your Porch.
Run away my son. See it all. Oh, See the World!
I've moved across the country a few times and that's a good way to change a lot--jobs, friends, climate, and the local culture.
We've lived in California, Washington, Texas, NY, and now Florida. It's interesting because in every area the culture is a bit different even though it's all the United States.
My opinion musicismylife78, is that you are kind of a drama queen and a little narcissistic.. You are not special - it is called life. Get on with yours. Stop whining about it and just do it and be a responsible contributor to your society.
Quarter life crisis does exist. I remember it well. You just gotta get through it. If you are unhappy with your life, do some soul-searching, run some numbers and figure out what you can do, if its possible, etc. You still have plenty of time to complete a brand new career of study in college.
Like I said in the other thread. This day and age, you need to try to have a plan. Jumping into freefall will only compound any problems you have. You shouldnt leave your job unless you have something lined up.
I think i am going to open a new subject tittled: "change Madrid ideas-consultancy over how to get a job or work in Madrid" with someone who lives in Australia-USA or Uk instead.
I've always wanted to become billingual and I feel that if I dont do it now that i am 32, when I am going to do it?
What do you think about this new toppic? Do you think that will be someone interested?
"Any life is made up of a single moment, the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is." JLB.
I've moved across the country a few times and that's a good way to change a lot--jobs, friends, climate, and the local culture.
We've lived in California, Washington, Texas, NY, and now Florida. It's interesting because in every area the culture is a bit different even though it's all the United States.
"Any life is made up of a single moment, the moment in which a man finds out, once and for all, who he is." JLB.
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that's crazy, I don't really have the same quarter-life crisis thing going on, but I feel more like I'm in my 20s now than I felt when I was in my 20s. I think the difference is, I learned not to care about stuff. I have absolutely no money, due to a graduate degree that actually sent me backwards nine years in my career, I'm actually taking money from my parents for the first time ever, the extent of my assets are my bikes and my ipod, I haven't really dated since my 20s, the only guys I've hooked up with in the past two years are in their 20s, I'm completely disorganized, I drink too much, all of my friends are acting very much like they're in their 30s lately, so most of what I do for fun is going to rock shows with some 25 year-old boys, I haven't really been on vacation in seven years, and my goal in life right now is to move in with roommates for the first time in ten years so I don't starve to death...at one point this summer, while I was looking at a horrible apartment currently inhabited by frat boys to live in with two other people I don't really know, all I could think was, "I have literally done everything backwards."
But I feel like I'm not dead or in jail, so that's a start. But I do worry what is going to happen when I'm 80 but still in my 20s. But then again, there's really nothing I can do about it, so worrying about it isn't going to help. The only thing I really regret is waiting until my late 20s to go to grad school. I should have just made a decision and gone earlier, it would have been much better for my career AND my finances. But I am where I am.
I just got laid off two days ago, and am right back to depression. I really liked my last job. It was repetitive, but it paid well and it had hours I liked and was in a location that I liked. I thought it would last at least a couple more years. It's amazing how everything can be ripped out from under you in one day. There are no guarantees in life. Now I'm trying to figure out if there's anything that I really want to do with my life. I have hobbies that I enjoy, but they're not going to pay my rent. I guess I have to give up my childhood dreams of being an actor/writer/rock star/famous whatever and learn to balance my life with my livelihood.
Turning 50 Monday, crisis :shock: . Just bought my 1st house & moved in last month, my wife has been stressed out also. Hopefully things get better soon, need to take a few deep breathes.
"Life is what YOU make it" words to live by
What You Giving
I suggest you step out on your Porch.
Run away my son. See it all. Oh, See the World!
We've lived in California, Washington, Texas, NY, and now Florida. It's interesting because in every area the culture is a bit different even though it's all the United States.
Like I said in the other thread. This day and age, you need to try to have a plan. Jumping into freefall will only compound any problems you have. You shouldnt leave your job unless you have something lined up.
I've always wanted to become billingual and I feel that if I dont do it now that i am 32, when I am going to do it?
What do you think about this new toppic? Do you think that will be someone interested?
Many thanks.