How do you guys deal with stressful situations?

SPEEDY MCCREADY

musicismylife78 wrote:

did any of you actually read my posts? It seemed like you all skimmed it at best. yes music is important to me, hence my name, and I take music over work anyday, but, I never said I was wanting out of this job because of the PJ shows.

I read your posts....

I also read where you said....

"I sort of plan on giving my two weeks in a few days to allow me to go to the shows in Seattle"

SPEEDY MCCREADY

Here is a little advice......

When you give your 2 weeks notice.....

Be prepared for the boss to give you the "2 minute" notice....


In other words the conversation will probably go like this....

" I am giving you my 2 weeks notice".

He will respond with....

"Ok, why dont you take 2 minutes to clear out your desk, leave now, and I will put your last paycheck in the mail".

Dissidentman

SPEEDY, have you had such a conversation?

mfc2006

no matter how stressful your job is, i would suggest that you stick it out until you find something else. sure, you have $ saved...but it sounds like you plan on spending some at the shows in Seattle. after that, what's left? can you cut your "show budget" to compensate for the loss of income? if not, then stay put and start looking for a new gig. once you have something solid lined up, then put in your 2 weeks notice. the job search sucks out there. i've been looking for awhile now since i was laid off. it is NOT easy out there. be thankful that you have a job that pays the bills at all. if it were me, i'd suck it up and start looking...then make the change. good luck.

know1

polaris_x wrote:

my two cents ...

1. what you feel at your job is what most people feel - most people either concede that is their lot in life or do as some others and try to get themselves out ... point being is that you are by no means in any kind of minority in your feelings.

2. it takes real courage to stand by your convictions and accept the consequences of your decision - if quitting is what you want to do and you are prepared to deal with the results ... then all the power to you ... some people are conservative and will have a fall back plan (move back home; borrow money; etc) if things go pear shape ... some are less conservative and wing things ... really - this is where personal growth and understanding of oneself comes in handy ... are you the type of person who makes rash decisions and then regrets it later? ... understanding yoruself helps in making your decisions ..

3. stress is all relative - one person's stress would be nothing to another ... so, my advice to you in dealing with the stress is to first identify what it is exactly that is stressing you out (is it the job or is it the decision of quitting or something else?) ... only then can you make steps to trying to see if you can change the situation so you don't feel it as much ...

4. lastly - you are in your 20's ... YOU WILL make mistakes and screw up - that is what life is all about ... the only person you have to answer to is yourself ... do good by you and the person you want to be and follow in the footsteps of no one ...

Great post. I agree on all counts. I'm of the opinion that close to 100% of all stress is self-imposed and can be avoided by changing your own internal reactions to situations.

Horos

I've been looking in the same area for two months. I have 3+ years management experience and still can find nothing comparable to the crappy job I'm tired of. I agree with Speedy's 2 minute notice I know that is how I would be treated. If you do quit PM me with your workplace maybe I could move on to there.

81

never quit a job unless you have a job lined up

don't tell co workers you are thinking about leaving. rumors can make your life miserable.

job > PJ shows.

you can always listen to the boots of the shows

Ms. Haiku

It sounds like the stress is self-induced - enjoy the fact that you truly have endless possibilities ahead of you, and great concerts in the works . . .

Also, send out those resumes. Get the juices flowing think Pearl Jam and then think New Job think Pearl Jam and then think New Job. Do it Do it Do it! Good luck (I suggest that a new job be considered a higher priority than Pearl Jam so spend more time looking at job sites than coming here.) However, a Pearl Jam concert IS something to LOOK FOWARD TO! No one on this board will contest that statement, eh?

If you want a new job get those groovy tunes on, and start searching the web. As others on this thread have responded - the job market is not a pretty sight. However, what is inspriring is that people have found jobs! I've been looking at want ads, but I haven't quit my job. It's stagnant over here, and I think I'm worth more.

Good luck with the job search, and have fun at PJ concerts!