I chose Pearl Jam over my friend's wedding

RobbieC2008

I am getting married New Years Eve and am praying that Pearl Jam doesn't do a New Years Eve show @ MSG...there would been some serious negotiations to have the wedding switched to the garden ( I do have several amazing hookups including myself @ the garden)....BTW, My Morning Jacket @ MSG last NYE was probably the greatest NYE of my life, I wasn't that into them, until that show which put me over the top, now they are one of my faves....please no MSG on NYE this year Pj..although we are honeymooning in Jamaica from Jan 2-10th if you guys want to play a show there that would work

ogre1213

j-bug wrote:

:shock:

when do you plan to sleep?

if youre talking to me... i dont know, im taking off of work the 30th so maybe when im hung over ill sleep in late on the 30th... its gonna be awesome!!

marcos

It cost your friend less money or they were probably able to invite someone else in your place that they wanted. They were either happy or didn't notice you were not there. Though you may have missed dancing to Firehouse's I've Finally Found The Love of a Lifetime, which is always fun.

81

should have told her to schedule her wedding for sat august 22nd. duh

CantKeepmedown

Keep on Jammin wrote:

CantKeepmedown wrote:

I got no issues with that.

2003, my buddy calls from Florida on Wednesday saying he has an extra HOB ticket. Just have to get to Florida, and everything else is taken care of. A good friend of mine (both bride and groom) were getting married on that same Saturday.

I didn't hesitate. I booked airfare for Florida and made the arrangements. I called my friends and explained the situation to them. Best part, they were quite understanding. They knew how big a fan I was, and I told them how it was a small club show, blah, blah, blah. They gave me their blessing.

If you're not life long, absolute best friends, I don't see what the issue is. If it's a big wedding, it's not like they'll miss you. They'll be concentrating on other things, not "man, I can't believe so and so didn't show up"

If it were me, and the roles were reversed, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.

Are they still speaking with you? I wouldn't.

We're still very good friends, yes. Thanks for asking.

And you know what? Not once, ever, have they said, "I can't believe you skipped our wedding to go to Florida for a Pearl Jam concert"

pjfan_lem

I missed one of my good friend's weddings back in 2003 to go see PJ for the first time in Toronto. I regret nothing! To make up for it I helped decorate the hall and church and went to the rehersal instead.

Karma also kinda kicked me in the ass that day too (quite literally accutally) as while waiting in line to pick up my 10C tickets, i slipped on a step and sprained both knees and both ankles, but as it was Eddie and the boys, I refused to seek out medical attention, suffered through the pain, enjoyed what is still the BEST concert I've ever seen, and then spent weeks after recovering on the couch

My friend still loves me and doesn't hold it against me at all.

blueeyedevil

Would anybody in Pearl Jam choose to see you over going to a wedding that THEY were invited to? Answer that, and you'll know where YOUR loyalty should be as well. Hope you don't lose a friend over going to a show. Just remember that if you are ever in a bad situation in life, your friends and family will be the ones who help you get back on your feet. Pearl Jam cares about their fans, but it's not like they will be there to lend you money, listen to your troubles, or call you to see how you are doing.

Pearl Jam won't notice if you don't attend a concert, but your friend will notice that you didn't make the wedding.

Just sayin'.

Indifference71

ogre1213 wrote:

i got sooo lucky

one of my closest friends whom i knew forever is getting married october 29. I definitely couldnt ditch the wedding to goto a PJ show, but its great cuz im going to all 4 philly shows oct 27,28 , 30, 31 but in between all that on the 29th ill be getting ripped and singing and dancing at a joyous celebration for a great friend.... its gonna be a crazy week!

Now that is going to be an awesome week.

Brain Of Jeremy

cropduster82 wrote:

Long story short, my friend is getting married in Chicago next month. I live in Boston so this would have meant flying there to attend. I had all intentions of going until they announced the Chicago shows for August. I bought tickets and airfare etc for this weekend to attend the show. At this point I hadn't gotten an invite, I was only told what day it would be. I never commited to go, either, just kind of said I will do my best. The invite came 2 weeks after the tix were bought. I called and said I had to be in class that weekend for a first aid course. (Not really a lie, just the first aid course is a few weeks after.) So I kind of feel bad but told her I would make a special trip to see her and give her her gift in person. Can you guess which weekend I chose? I will be seeing her and her fiance this weekend and enjoying a killer show at the same time. For me it is a win win situation. I'm sure there are some of you who would have done the same thing, no?

I think as long as you didn't RSVP and then back out it isn't that bad. You make you own decisions and live with them, nobody else dose.

IMO, I think the parents that were (or still are) ditching there kids on Halloween for the show are much worse people then you

covered in bliss

My daughter and I are skipping my cousin's wedding for the San Diego PJ show.

Blueeyeddevil's comment was excellent but if it's not a good friend or close family, I dont have a problem with it. I'm not at all close to this cousin and I'm not speaking to my sis and mom right now so going to the wedding would be drama-filled and a complete waste of time and money. My cousin only invited me because she 'had' to.. I'm 'family'. Gag.

I don't think your friend is going to think "I wish cropduster was here' on her wedding day. You make it seem like you're not close. Don't worry about it.

Keep on Jammin

CantKeepmedown wrote:

Keep on Jammin wrote:

CantKeepmedown wrote:

I got no issues with that.

2003, my buddy calls from Florida on Wednesday saying he has an extra HOB ticket. Just have to get to Florida, and everything else is taken care of. A good friend of mine (both bride and groom) were getting married on that same Saturday.

I didn't hesitate. I booked airfare for Florida and made the arrangements. I called my friends and explained the situation to them. Best part, they were quite understanding. They knew how big a fan I was, and I told them how it was a small club show, blah, blah, blah. They gave me their blessing.

If you're not life long, absolute best friends, I don't see what the issue is. If it's a big wedding, it's not like they'll miss you. They'll be concentrating on other things, not "man, I can't believe so and so didn't show up"

If it were me, and the roles were reversed, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.

Are they still speaking with you? I wouldn't.

We're still very good friends, yes. Thanks for asking.

And you know what? Not once, ever, have they said, "I can't believe you skipped our wedding to go to Florida for a Pearl Jam concert"

Now that's an understanding friend.

Backspacer_Backer

i would skip my mother's funeral for a PJ show, but that's just me.

youngster

Brain Of Jeremy wrote:

cropduster82 wrote:

Long story short, my friend is getting married in Chicago next month. I live in Boston so this would have meant flying there to attend. I had all intentions of going until they announced the Chicago shows for August. I bought tickets and airfare etc for this weekend to attend the show. At this point I hadn't gotten an invite, I was only told what day it would be. I never commited to go, either, just kind of said I will do my best. The invite came 2 weeks after the tix were bought. I called and said I had to be in class that weekend for a first aid course. (Not really a lie, just the first aid course is a few weeks after.) So I kind of feel bad but told her I would make a special trip to see her and give her her gift in person. Can you guess which weekend I chose? I will be seeing her and her fiance this weekend and enjoying a killer show at the same time. For me it is a win win situation. I'm sure there are some of you who would have done the same thing, no?

I think as long as you didn't RSVP and then back out it isn't that bad. You make you own decisions and live with them, nobody else dose.

IMO, I think the parents that were (or still are) ditching there kids on Halloween for the show are much worse people then you

Thanks. That's a good point about the Halloween shows. And for the record, she knows I'm going to the PJ show. She's watching my son while my wife and I go to the show. She can't wait to meet him. The last time I saw her I didn't have kids.

Vedder_Girl77

I'd skip the wedding to attend the Pearl Jam concert!!! Weddings are a waste of time and money. Every friend's wedding I go to...they end up getting divorced a year or two later. Fuck the weddings...Enjoy the concert!

flyinwhole313

You are good. No worries. If it was your brother or sister, ok, but Pearl Jam is a priority.

Get_Right

It just means you need to double the wedding gift

but seriously, it would depend on how close a friend
it is 100% certain that Pearl jam will play again, and there is 0% chance that wedding will happen again
more than 10 years of friendship, I probably would have chose the wedding

Tuolumne Mama

I laughed at this header because I planned my wedding around a Dead show Sept '90 at Radio City. The ceremony was noon in CT, reception 1 to 5, and all on our way to the show by 6:30. Still have my shirt, which the Dead gave us and front row seat stubs. A very good time was had by all.

halszka123

cropduster82 wrote:

Long story short, my friend is getting married in Chicago next month. I live in Boston so this would have meant flying there to attend. I had all intentions of going until they announced the Chicago shows for August. I bought tickets and airfare etc for this weekend to attend the show. At this point I hadn't gotten an invite, I was only told what day it would be. I never commited to go, either, just kind of said I will do my best. The invite came 2 weeks after the tix were bought. I called and said I had to be in class that weekend for a first aid course. (Not really a lie, just the first aid course is a few weeks after.) So I kind of feel bad but told her I would make a special trip to see her and give her her gift in person. Can you guess which weekend I chose? I will be seeing her and her fiance this weekend and enjoying a killer show at the same time. For me it is a win win situation. I'm sure there are some of you who would have done the same thing, no?

So I say - I chose PJ show over my best friend's wedding also. Though she is getting married today, and the show I attended was last weekend, but I had to choose which weekend I won't go to work. And - today and tomoorow I will work...

Wilds

Absolutely did the right thing... except for the lie......


You NEVER really have to go to a long distance wedding, unless you are in the wedding party, or it's close family.

I wouldn't feel bad at all.

I'm 35, so I've flown back home to around 10 weddings in the past 7 years. It is expensive and no one really cares if you are there unless it is, like I said, close family or in the wedding party.

Hook up a sweet gift, and all is well.

benjs

Keep on Jammin wrote:

CantKeepmedown wrote:

Keep on Jammin wrote:

Are they still speaking with you? I wouldn't.

We're still very good friends, yes. Thanks for asking.

And you know what? Not once, ever, have they said, "I can't believe you skipped our wedding to go to Florida for a Pearl Jam concert"

Now that's an understanding friend.

I think a true friend of any of us die-hards would probably be very understanding of the fact that, well, it's just part of our lives. And if a friend ever did get mad at me for it - I would simply offer to take them to a Pearl Jam show, and hopefully they'd understand after seeing them.