I chose Pearl Jam over my friend's wedding

youngster

Long story short, my friend is getting married in Chicago next month. I live in Boston so this would have meant flying there to attend. I had all intentions of going until they announced the Chicago shows for August. I bought tickets and airfare etc for this weekend to attend the show. At this point I hadn't gotten an invite, I was only told what day it would be. I never commited to go, either, just kind of said I will do my best. The invite came 2 weeks after the tix were bought. I called and said I had to be in class that weekend for a first aid course. (Not really a lie, just the first aid course is a few weeks after.) So I kind of feel bad but told her I would make a special trip to see her and give her her gift in person. Can you guess which weekend I chose? I will be seeing her and her fiance this weekend and enjoying a killer show at the same time. For me it is a win win situation. I'm sure there are some of you who would have done the same thing, no?

cannotstaylong

No.

1STmammal2wearPants

you terrible human being.

PJFAN_seattle

If it was a more casual friend yes, if it was my best friend no way hosay

on2legs

Just walk away in shame and never come back.

voodoopug

I can't condone that action. I'd be upset and this would threaten my friendship if a buddy of mine intentionally did this.

youngster

PJ_kidd_9-21-22 wrote:

If it was a more casual friend yes, if it was my best friend no way.

It is a casual friend. She lives halfway across the country and I haven't seen her since 2006. We talk on the phone from time to time which is why I am not having regrets about it.

mvw

I think you made a wise choice.

PJFAN_seattle

cropduster82 wrote:

PJ_kidd_9-21-22 wrote:

If it was a more casual friend yes, if it was my best friend no way.

It is a casual friend. She lives halfway across the country and I haven't seen her since 2006. We talk on the phone from time to time which is why I am not having regrets about it.

Eh yah then definately don't feel bad. It's not like you've been best friends since you were five years old. I woulda done the same thing

tsarax

I wouldn't worry about it. Eddie did the same thing himself when PJ came to Hamilton, ON in 2005.

bruce

You people are way too tough onthe OP. Would I skip a casual friend's wedding? He'll yes. Would I skip a close friend's wedding? Maybe. The guys are making making music and touring less often. Unless your friend who is getting married doesn't have any other friends, I'd say go to a show.

CantKeepmedown

I got no issues with that.

2003, my buddy calls from Florida on Wednesday saying he has an extra HOB ticket. Just have to get to Florida, and everything else is taken care of. A good friend of mine (both bride and groom) were getting married on that same Saturday.

I didn't hesitate. I booked airfare for Florida and made the arrangements. I called my friends and explained the situation to them. Best part, they were quite understanding. They knew how big a fan I was, and I told them how it was a small club show, blah, blah, blah. They gave me their blessing.

If you're not life long, absolute best friends, I don't see what the issue is. If it's a big wedding, it's not like they'll miss you. They'll be concentrating on other things, not "man, I can't believe so and so didn't show up"

If it were me, and the roles were reversed, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.

A satellite forever orbiting

good choice. weddings are lame, self-indulgent and wasteful. they'll probably get divorced in a few years anyway.

mydogmookieblaylock

its your friends fault - im not sure how but if you can find a way to blame your friend you should. That always works

ogre1213

i got sooo lucky

one of my closest friends whom i knew forever is getting married october 29. I definitely couldnt ditch the wedding to goto a PJ show, but its great cuz im going to all 4 philly shows oct 27,28 , 30, 31 but in between all that on the 29th ill be getting ripped and singing and dancing at a joyous celebration for a great friend.... its gonna be a crazy week!

asgoodased

I went to a PJ concert instead of the "rehersal dinner" (i went to the actual rehersal) for a wedding I was in. I still hear about it from time to time.

j-bug

:shock:

when do you plan to sleep?

Jeanwah

It's time to re-evaluate your life priorities if you choose a concert over a friend's wedding.

I'd be hurt, to say the least.

The Champ

Jeanwah wrote:

It's time to re-evaluate your life priorities if you choose a concert over a friend's wedding.

I'd be hurt, to say the least.

It's just an acquaintance basically..Don't worry about it, Kenny..rock out with your balls out and enjoy the show ..

Keep on Jammin

CantKeepmedown wrote:

I got no issues with that.

2003, my buddy calls from Florida on Wednesday saying he has an extra HOB ticket. Just have to get to Florida, and everything else is taken care of. A good friend of mine (both bride and groom) were getting married on that same Saturday.

I didn't hesitate. I booked airfare for Florida and made the arrangements. I called my friends and explained the situation to them. Best part, they were quite understanding. They knew how big a fan I was, and I told them how it was a small club show, blah, blah, blah. They gave me their blessing.

If you're not life long, absolute best friends, I don't see what the issue is. If it's a big wedding, it's not like they'll miss you. They'll be concentrating on other things, not "man, I can't believe so and so didn't show up"

If it were me, and the roles were reversed, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all.

Are they still speaking with you? I wouldn't.

12345AGNST1

Im a dick head, I missed my SISTERS wedding for an INCUBUS concert. Not even Pearl Jam.....

But it was a crappy wedding, she got married at the local police dept or whatever it was and had her "reception" at olive garden. She really didnt give a shit about her wedding she just wanted to be married.