I need some sound advice please

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  • dawng
    dawng Posts: 644
    I'm sorry to hear of your loss. There is a lot of good advice above...but you really should talk to your doctor.

    My older brother was shot & killed by his roomate over twenty years ago. I still cry when I think of the way his life ended.

    In my experience, the things that helped most was a mix of talking to family/friends, MUSIC - there were times when I would just drive for hours listening to music...not wanting to think just drive & listen. Books are a good escape - try Fantasy or Sci Fi - something so far from this world that you get a break from the numbness. And as someone said above - keep putting one foot in front of the other.

    -dawn
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  • dirtyfrank2005
    dirtyfrank2005 Posts: 192
    I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through. Considering you found your brother, you really need to go to counseling. Talking to others and not bottling up emotions has helped me in the past. Remember him the way he was when he was alive and try to focus on happy memories. Its only been a week. Give it some time.

    Love to you and your family,
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  • Writingjunkie
    Writingjunkie Posts: 178
    Deepest Sympathies NFM...

    Loss like that is never easy, but I think a lot of the advice given by the other board members is spot on. Focus on the good times, be near friends and family, seek some counseling if you feel like it could do any good.

    Truly sorry to hear about your loss,

    -WJ
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  • Laf9124
    Laf9124 Posts: 342
    Truly sorry for your loss. I lost my best friend, who was like a brother to me, in 2006. Think of the good times, the happy memories, and try to push forward. If you ever need anything--even to vent, shoot me a private message. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
  • not for me?
    not for me? Posts: 501
    Thank you everyone so much for everything you have said. When I originally posted it was about 4 AM and I was feeling especially terrible. I felt that you people could offer some insight and advice, and it was better than I expected. And I have been talking with my family and friends, and it is helping. I grabbed my Nebraska-Bruce Springsteen disc today and drove for a couple of listens, which really helped. Most of you wrote some beautiful and and inspiring things, and I am truly thankful.

    Nathan
    Nathan

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