Worse feeling than missing a concert?
musicismylife78
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You all know the feeling. Whether its because a friend bailed on you, or you dont have the cash for it, or because of work or school, but you miss out on seeing that great concert, by your favorite band, or a band you really enjoy.
Dont you hate that feeling? Its a sickening feeling. Pit of your stomach feeling. Then to ruminate about what could have been...
For me its even worse as music is essential to me, as my username attests. My life's meaningless without it. So missing shows like these, or any shows are devastating to me.
My latest one is tomorrow I will miss William Fitzsimmons. I missed him in Portland because I was working graveyard shifts. Then tomorrow he plays literally in my apartment lobby. And guess what...I am working until midnight! Yippie! I get to miss seeing him again. Miss seeing a musician whose music and albums I find stunning and powerful.
Dont you hate that feeling? Its a sickening feeling. Pit of your stomach feeling. Then to ruminate about what could have been...
For me its even worse as music is essential to me, as my username attests. My life's meaningless without it. So missing shows like these, or any shows are devastating to me.
My latest one is tomorrow I will miss William Fitzsimmons. I missed him in Portland because I was working graveyard shifts. Then tomorrow he plays literally in my apartment lobby. And guess what...I am working until midnight! Yippie! I get to miss seeing him again. Miss seeing a musician whose music and albums I find stunning and powerful.
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I've had to miss a few shows (the tix for those were free though).
To answer the original question in the thread, Yes, there are way worse things in life than missing concerts. Not trying to be a jack ass, just saying.
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You all wouldnt be upset or whatnot if PJ was playing in your area and you couldnt afford tickets? Or had to work instead?
Yes its just music but its more than that.
The point of my post isnt really, why you missed out on a show, its more, just the feelings involved. No one here has ever looked forward to seeing a band live, and for whatever reason, when the show rolled around, you couldnt attend? And you all wouldnt mind that happening? You wouldnt feel disappointed or upset?
I missed Cheap Trick twice (Once due to a flash flood in Ft Worth and the fairgrounds were flooded so bad, no way they could hold a show). The 2nd time my friend had to be at work a 4am (He works for radio stations as an engineer and soundboard guy (sometimes).
We were backstage for Black Crowes in Ft worth once and had to miss their set cause they were going on at Midnight and my friend had a 6am broadcast the next morning.
So yeah, I get what you're saying, it is dissapointing. (would have loved to see the crowes,especially since their tix are usually high dollar) but I couldn't.
Unfortunatley, due to economic downfall, I've had to be real selective on choosing shows this year.
I have called in sick to go to shows before, maybe you can pull one of those for your show.
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Sure it's a bummer, but it's not the end of the world. I love The Hold Steady, but I missed 3 straight shows by them. Once I was exhausted by work, another time I had an exam, and the other time it was 30 below zero in Chicago and I wasn't fucking going outside. I missed TV on the Radio due to exams. I wish I could've gone, but shit happens. They'll be back around again sometime.
I didn't buy PJ tickets to night two in Chicago because they were way too expensive, and now I may not be back in time for night one because I'll be returning from vacation that night. Is it a bummer? Sure. But an Alaskan vacation with my gf is far more meaningful than rock concert.
The only one that really bugs me is U2. I've been a huge fan but never get to see them live. I may end up flying to Carolina to see them and Muse play together because I can't make it back to Chicago for the Soldier Field show I have tickets to.
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I guess its all your preference. For some people shows are just shows. They are just background things, just like music is to many people. These are the same people who talk during songs, or are on their phones or whatnot. I guess thats a decision. And then I think there are also people who go to shows, and listen to music, and for whom the music is more than mere background noise. It speaks to them, or about them. It inspires. It soothes. it comforts. For me, I have always been in the latter group. I seem to connect with music, whether its the music itself, or the lyrics or whatever. It helps me, in gaining perspective, or merely getting through a tough day. I think for some folks the idea that music is the soundtrack to their life, or that an album is lifechanging or whatnot, maybe is just talk. But again, for others I think its a very real feeling. I know this because I feel this way. And I know, as their are 6 billion people in the world, I cant possibly be the only person who feels this way.
For me the passion is music. For others, people could get pissed and disappointed about not getting tickets to their college football teams games, or not getting to go to a party, or whatever. That really has never interested me. I dont feel connected to sports, or parties. What I do feel connected to, is when music seems to help me out, help make the day better. And when I cant go see a show, I take it personal
Nope, the world isn't the black and white one you want it to be. I don't talk during shows, and I never even take a phone. When I'm there, my attention is solely on the music. I don't know why I ever thought I'd not a non-judgmental/condescending response from you.
You're not. A lot of music speaks to me as well and is more than background noise to me. It has inspired and comforted me throughout my life and continues to do so. But that doesn't mean my life is over if I can't make it to a given show. On the scale of problems and injustices I could face, not getting to see a band I dig is not very high. If that's the only disappointment I have, I am a truly lucky and blessed person.
This isn't about those who aren't devastated by missing a show being poser fans or shallow music fans. It's about having some perspective. You of all people, who constantly rants about the horrors of war and oppression, should know that there are far worse things in life than missing a concert.
So i have been imagining people talking on phones and talking during sets of shows? Unless you live in Eugene, I dont think you have any thing to add to that aspect of it. I see people on phones and talking during sets all the time. You can disagree maybe on whether thats good or bad, or a cause worth fighting, but to dispute that it happens is ridiculous. I never said you did anything. Unless you think everyone who uses the friends, "for some people", is talking about you, I dont know what your problem is. I never said soulsinging did this or that. I said "for some people". Are you really that jaded. I guess I was expecting to much to think a thread that had nothing to do with politics and an honest one about my feelings could get a response from you that was in any way coherent or fair or human.
And it really is black and white, friend. People talk on phones and talk during sets. I dont think there is much middle ground, buddy. Either they are or they arent.
As I said, for many people, read that as literally many people, this isnt directed at you soulsinging (I have to be clear because obviously anytime people use that phrase your vain ego thinks its about you), they would be devastated if their favorite sports team lost, or they couldnt get season tickets to name your sport and sports team, or they couldnt buy a fancy car. To me personally thats meaningless. I dont care about cars, or sports. What I do care about is music. Which is why i am talking about it
But, i was able to convince the guy at the door to let us in... being General Admission, we promised to go up to the balcony and sit in the aft section of the theater. i gave him 20 bucks... mostly out of the embarrassment of being such a tool and showing up a day late.
Hail, Hail!!!
The worst is when you're stoked to see a band, then they cancel on the day of the show and get replaced. That happened to me. I bought tickets to Metallica because AIC opened then AIC cancelled due to Layne's constant drug abuse. Unfortunately they were replaced by Candlebox and I couldn't get my money back since they were the opening band.
Now he's dead. That's worse than missing a concert.
No, you haven't imagined that. I've seen it plenty and it annoys the shit out of me too. But I got the impression that you were saying that people are either die hard music lovers that will be devastated by missing a show, or they are casual fans that don't care and talk on the phone during it. And that's way too black and white. You can be a die hard music lover and not be crushed to miss a concert because in the grand scheme of things that's not such a bad problem to have. Similarly, just because someone's not heartbroken to miss a concert doesn't mean that if they'd gone, they'd have spent the whole time on their phone. If that's not what you were saying, then I'm sorry to have misinterpreted. It seemed that way at the time though, because you said it was my choice and then went on to describe the cell phone people like that was the choice I'd made. I must have misread it.
Personally, I'd be all for banning cell phones at shows, and cameras as well. I've been to too many shows where I ended up behind someone that never looked at the stage because they were too busy looking through their camera lens trying to get the perfect recording. I don't know how you can truly experience a show that way.
I would say the same thing to those people. If that is the biggest problem in your life... missing a concert or a football game or not buying a luxury car, then you are a very lucky person. Sure it's disappointing, but that's the kind of disappointment we should all feel grateful to have.
But the missed concert that always makes my heart sink when I think about it is U2 in tiny Providence, Rhode Island, Rocktober 30 and 31, 2001. It was the time in my life when my fanatacism for the band was at its peak. I had heard all of their albums. I'd read about their history, knew many songs by heart. PJ has ALWAYS remained my favourite band for sentimental and emotional purposes. Artistically, I held U2 in higher respect.
The Providence venue that U2 played only held 13,000 fans. The band was known for playing giant sports arenas of 75,000+. I have no desire to see any band in such an impersonal mass. But 13,000! I'd been to shows there, every seat was close. I always felt that I was in the same room as the performers. I tried to buy Ticketmaster tix, but was shut out. I knew that if I did buy a ticket, I would not have the money to pay my full rent. So I tried to "get over it."
A week before the show, my sister told me that a colleague at work had invited her. Sister said she was sorry that she didn't feel comfortable suggesting me for the co-worker's second ticket. I wasn't bothered by that, I knew my sister was not a huge U2 fan and that the colleague would find another date to bring along. When the show was a few days away, I decided that even though I had no money, I would drive to the venue on the day of the show. I wanted to hang out with the fans and soak up the love. Seeing how badly I wanted to attend, my mother offered to pay for a face-value scalped ticket. Mother's husband had just lost his job, and she was only getting work two days a week. I could NOT take money from her.
When Oct. 30 came, I realised that if I allowed myself near the show, I would spend my rent money to get in. I reached down deep and stayed home... Both nights.... Some days later, my sister and I were chatting on the phone. She was relaying some inside info about the show her colleague attended. I mulled it over, and the next day was suddenly struck with the horrible fact that my sister knew about the show because she was there!!! I had completely misinterpreted her story of the co-worker's extra ticket. When mother had offered to pay, she already knew that sister was going. If sister had simply admitted it, I WOULD HAVE GONE AS WELL! She could have picked me up on the way, sparing me the $10 to park. And I was further horrified to learn that she wasted at least $20 buying me a Tee shirt! I could have put that $20 toward my ticket! (Which cost about $60-something.) She knew that funding was my only prohibitive factor.
At the height of their success, U2 played a pair of shows at an intimate venue in a microscopic state. It was seven weeks after September 11. I lived four miles away. Larry Mullen's birthday was celebrated onstage. According to my sister, "Loads" of face value tickets were available on the day. I got a tee shirt.
its the high during the show or shows and the couple days after then
I'm Down its so damn sad to have it over
I betcha I could get addicted if allowed too
my worst missed concert happened on january 31st, 2009. the band was metallica. i had even joined the fan club to ensure that i got great tickets. and i did. i had gotten general admission. my aunt had seen them that tour in houston and took the day off of work and waited on line four hours before the doors open so that she could get rail. i was going to try and do the same. it was 2 in the afternoon, two hours before my friend and i were going to leave for the show. now, my friend is not a huge metallica fan, and was actually the third person i asked to go with me. but he was a moderate fan, knew the hits and all, and was pretty excited to go. then he calls me at 2 and tells me that he won't be able to go. i panicked. i tried calling everyone i knew. i even offered to pay for the full price of their $100 ticket. i got nothing. again, because i was 17 my mom did not let me go to a "heavy metal concert like that" alone. i was devastated. i had bought tickets back in august 2008 to go see one of my favorite bands. i just felt like i had wasted so much time being excited for nothing.
but hey, now i've got tickets to go see them at msg in november.
some may say that it's just music, but those people obviously have never been in a similar instance. it's more than just music. it's the anticipation to go see something that means so much to you and the ability of being with hundreds and thousands of other people who share the similar likes as you. \
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That being said, missing a mortgage payment or one of my 10 year old daughters school or athletic functions would be worse than missing a concert at this point, although I am going to ACL and I bought tickets for both nights of Seattle, but I'm not 100% sure if I am going to that yet or not. I do remember going to every Houston Rockets game in the 1993-94 playoffs up until the NBA Finals, I went on Grateful Dead Tour and missed all of the NBA Finals, but the Rockets beat the Knicks in 7 games and I saw it at The Las Vegas Hilton and it was awesome, oh to be 24 years old again! I would trade all of my tomorrows for a single yesterday!
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waters announced the first shows as a solo artist in New Jersey byrne arena
they we marketed as the only shows with clapton on guitar
I bought tickets
two weeks later they announced the pros and cons tour
including my hometown hartford
so I bought tickets to hartford and I still have the unused tickets for NJ
but now, I dont buy tickets if I cant go, and if there is an emergency, such for MSG 2 last year, I give the tickets away and dont sweat it
its just a rock show after all, which, in the grand scheme is still just a luxury
Right on, but there's nothing like the healing power of a show or a memory from a show.