I'm sorry to hear this. I know for a while you very happy with that relationship and I'm sorry to hear you got hurt. There's plenty more good guys out there and I'm sure you'll overcome this and end up with a wonderful gentleman. I know if I hadn't been married for the last 22 years I'd be on my way over the pass to offer you some comfort. Hopefully this message will make you feel better. Just keep your head up and the right guy will find you.
i confess to being the 'married man' some years back, although i did not lead (and i did not lie about a future) her on as he seems to have done with you.
nonetheless -
sorry for your heartbreak..
i've had my share.
you'll be ok.
"here's the reason that i'm so free...
my lovin' baby is through with me"
olderman.....off-topic but just have to comment:
excellent blind faith lyric in your sig!
i can *hear* steve winwood singing it just reading it. LOVE them. i love every band winwood and clapton have been in, together or seperately.
I'm sorry to hear this. I know for a while you very happy with that relationship and I'm sorry to hear you got hurt. There's plenty more good guys out there and I'm sure you'll overcome this and end up with a wonderful gentleman. I know if I hadn't been married for the last 22 years I'd be on my way over the pass to offer you some comfort. Hopefully this message will make you feel better. Just keep your head up and the right guy will find you.
Take care, Mike.
Awe, Thanks Mike..last night as soon as I got off of work, I went to a friends house to avoid being alone and having to drive by his house, he lives just down the street from me, I drank a few beers and got totally wasted since I hadn't eaten in 2 days. Just what I was trying to do so I could just get home and pass out. I was actually able to sleep last night. Still sick to the stomach today, and still telling the head to let it go. I feel this may take longer than 3 weeks to forget..
I knew all the rules, but the rules did not know me...GUARANTEED!
oh wait now that I look at it, that's Mikey in the picture with you isn't it?
i need glasses BIG TIME.
yahamita was dating Mike????? Even though it didn't work out, that's awesome!
If I had known then what I know now...
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I'm sorry to hear this. I know for a while you very happy with that relationship and I'm sorry to hear you got hurt. There's plenty more good guys out there and I'm sure you'll overcome this and end up with a wonderful gentleman. I know if I hadn't been married for the last 22 years I'd be on my way over the pass to offer you some comfort. Hopefully this message will make you feel better. Just keep your head up and the right guy will find you.
Take care, Mike.
Awe, Thanks Mike..last night as soon as I got off of work, I went to a friends house to avoid being alone and having to drive by his house, he lives just down the street from me, I drank a few beers and got totally wasted since I hadn't eaten in 2 days. Just what I was trying to do so I could just get home and pass out. I was actually able to sleep last night. Still sick to the stomach today, and still telling the head to let it go. I feel this may take longer than 3 weeks to forget..
I hope you didn't drive back home... a dui or a dead body is not going to improve your mood.
dating a younger man would be the icing on the cake??? What cake? A man with daughter that is about to get divorced is a man that is being punished. And he tried to send you to your room....Fuck him, move on, have beer and play LUKIN loud as all hell.
"It's so nice to hear that in other parts of the world, the stress- borne from envy- that one finds for themselves is the animosity they develop towards a person selling a box of records. How fortunate!" ~ Thirty Bills Unpaid
oh wait now that I look at it, that's Mikey in the picture with you isn't it?
i need glasses BIG TIME.
yahamita was dating Mike????? Even though it didn't work out, that's awesome!
HAHAHAHAH!!!!!! A BIG thank you for the laugh out loud! Finally something to smile about.and I'll take a hit of whatever you have in that bong.
Bad thing is.....now I'm worried about both you AND Mike . Shit!!!
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Hate to pee in your cheerios, but I actually left my cunt of a wife when I ran into the love of my life, and now we are happy, in love, & engaged. So, sometimes it pays to chase a married guy...
You get fucked in the end! Been dating this guy for 2 1/2 years, he has NOT been with his wife during this time, just waiting stupidly for his divorce to be final. We've been looking at homes together, making grand plans all week, have an awesome life together, all of a sudden, the divorce is final yesterday, and he turns around and dumps me! Blames me for all his loses. the house, full time being around his daughter, his finances are crap and all the things he wasn't expecting showed up on his divorce papers. He should have hired a lawyer instead of allowing his ex to make all the decisisions, but basically he feels he got screwed, and it's all my fault..WTF is up with that nonsense? We both knew what kind of obsticles we would be facing during all of this..I am just numb...I should have known better, I know...but I let my heart lead the way instead of my brain!
Is that him in your profile pic? He looks like a bad apple that one. I never would have trusted him myself.
Edit: I really should read through threads before posting in them. :oops:
Hate to pee in your cheerios, but I actually left my cunt of a wife when I ran into the love of my life, and now we are happy, in love, & engaged. So, sometimes it pays to chase a married guy...
grrrrr.
"I'm not present, I'm a drug that makes you dream"
Hate to pee in your cheerios, but I actually left my cunt of a wife when I ran into the love of my life, and now we are happy, in love, & engaged. So, sometimes it pays to chase a married guy...
I'm happy it worked out for you, I was hoping the same for myself.
I knew all the rules, but the rules did not know me...GUARANTEED!
I really appreciate all the feedback. Its part of the healing process for me..I'm still in shock, but trying to mentally talk my head into tuning it all out and shutting the fuck up, while my gut is still in knots, I can't eat or sleep, and the heart is racing, but am trying deperately to get a grip. It's been less than 24 hours..I hear it takes 3 weeks to break a bad habit..
Yeah, no shame in reeling when it's that fresh. Hopefully that 3 week mark will do it for you. I'm 3 years out from my ex leaving me for a guy she met on vacation and I'm still not over the damage.
I'm about 7 years out from a girl leaving me that I still think about all the time. I guess it doesn't hurt as bad...but still hurts.
The only people we should try to get even with...
...are those who've helped us.
Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
aw, Lisa! Obviously he is NOT good enough for you...you are such a kind person he does not deserve to be in your presense! You know I am always available to chat and our home is always open to you. Kids & frogs might get your mind off things! Love you - dawn
I really appreciate all the feedback. Its part of the healing process for me..I'm still in shock, but trying to mentally talk my head into tuning it all out and shutting the fuck up, while my gut is still in knots, I can't eat or sleep, and the heart is racing, but am trying deperately to get a grip. It's been less than 24 hours..I hear it takes 3 weeks to break a bad habit..
Yeah, no shame in reeling when it's that fresh. Hopefully that 3 week mark will do it for you. I'm 3 years out from my ex leaving me for a guy she met on vacation and I'm still not over the damage.
I'm about 7 years out from a girl leaving me that I still think about all the time. I guess it doesn't hurt as bad...but still hurts.
Talk about a mixed bag... reassuring that I'm not a total psychopath, not so reassuring in the "I'll get over it eventually" dept
aw, Lisa! Obviously he is NOT good enough for you...you are such a kind person he does not deserve to be in your presense! You know I am always available to chat and our home is always open to you. Kids & frogs might get your mind off things! Love you - dawn
Awe Dawn, you are such a blessing to me, always! Igot caught last night doing the driveby. It was almost 10:00 pm and my gut just wouldn't let it go. As soon as I got passed his house and noticed his truck was there, he was right in front of me crossing the street with his dogs! YIKES!!! Busted...
I knew all the rules, but the rules did not know me...GUARANTEED!
Yeah, no shame in reeling when it's that fresh. Hopefully that 3 week mark will do it for you. I'm 3 years out from my ex leaving me for a guy she met on vacation and I'm still not over the damage.
I'm about 7 years out from a girl leaving me that I still think about all the time. I guess it doesn't hurt as bad...but still hurts.
Talk about a mixed bag... reassuring that I'm not a total psychopath, not so reassuring in the "I'll get over it eventually" dept
honestly, i am amazed by these stories. not so much for people lamenting lost loves per se....but that they are lamenting lost loves WHILE they are in other relationships, even married! :shock: (at least i thought know1, somewhere, said he was maried...mea culpa if i'm mistaken) sure, i've had my previous *loves*.....but none hold a candle to my current life-love. i just can't imagine being in a relationship and my SO actually lamenting some other woman while he is with me. ouch.
then again, while i've had my heart broken, i am happy to say i married, and am still married, to *the* love of my life...and hope to be...forever.......
i too know of a few relationships that began while one was married and/or seperated, hanging on simply b/c of kid issues and what have you...and having happy endings. sure, it does happen. but as said by me and many others, still not the norm. most relationships with married folk end as yahamita's....but first-hand life experience is THE teacher eh?
I'm about 7 years out from a girl leaving me that I still think about all the time. I guess it doesn't hurt as bad...but still hurts.
Talk about a mixed bag... reassuring that I'm not a total psychopath, not so reassuring in the "I'll get over it eventually" dept
honestly, i am amazed by these stories. not so much for people lamenting lost loves per se....but that they are lamenting lost loves WHILE they are in other relationships, even married! :shock: (at least i thought know1, somewhere, said he was maried...mea culpa if i'm mistaken) sure, i've had my previous *loves*.....but none hold a candle to my current life-love. i just can't imagine being in a relationship and my SO actually lamenting some other woman while he is with me. ouch.
then again, while i've had my heart broken,
You have? I was under the impression you'd never been dumped, let alone left for someone else. The fact that you put previous *loves* in quotes indicates to me none of them were particularly meaningful, certainly not to the point where them leaving hurt you terribly (or in your case, clearly none of them meant so much to you that you felt you couldn't leave them behind since you were never dumped). I'd rather be inclined to say you cannot possibly understand what it feels like to be completely discarded by someone you loved very much.
One thing you can count on is not feeling very good about yourself
and later when its over and you are really loved by a wonderful man you pray
what goes around doesn't ever come around for you
and you realize what that pain must have been like for his wife
You have? I was under the impression you'd never been dumped, let alone left for someone else. The fact that you put previous *loves* in quotes indicates to me none of them were particularly meaningful, certainly not to the point where them leaving hurt you terribly (or in your case, clearly none of them meant so much to you that you felt you couldn't leave them behind since you were never dumped). I'd rather be inclined to say you cannot possibly understand what it feels like to be completely discarded by someone you loved very much.[/quote]
Getting dumped is the worst feeling I have had. Especially when you love someone so much, you would do just a bout anything for that person. You sit around and constantly think why, what is it you did wrong, is there anything I can change. Its all you think about. It consumes every minute of your life unless you are sleeping. This is the love of your life, the person you thought you would spend the rest of your life with! The wondering what they are doing right now, if they have taken someone to do or to the places you go together. Its a total mind fuck.
I knew all the rules, but the rules did not know me...GUARANTEED!
You get fucked in the end! Been dating this guy for 2 1/2 years, he has NOT been with his wife during this time, just waiting stupidly for his divorce to be final. We've been looking at homes together, making grand plans all week, have an awesome life together, all of a sudden, the divorce is final yesterday, and he turns around and dumps me! Blames me for all his loses. the house, full time being around his daughter, his finances are crap and all the things he wasn't expecting showed up on his divorce papers. He should have hired a lawyer instead of allowing his ex to make all the decisisions, but basically he feels he got screwed, and it's all my fault..WTF is up with that nonsense? We both knew what kind of obsticles we would be facing during all of this..I am just numb...I should have known better, I know...but I let my heart lead the way instead of my brain!
I'm confused. You say married man but then you say he wasn't with his wife at that time. Do you mean living with or ???? If he wasn't living with her then he wasn't really a married man. If he was still living with/in a relationship with then i would consider it a married man. Plenty of people are legally seperated and date. My divorce didn't take place for over 6 years. We no longer spoke to each other. I definately didn't think of myself as married and neither did he or the people we dated. I would never date a married man meaning someone who was living with his wife but I don't see a problem with dating someone that is no longer living with that person.
I know it hurts now but just keep thinking in six months or so you will have realized how lucky you are to have gotten away from someone that would hold you responsible for all of their problems. He would have continued to do that. There are a lot of great guys in this world. You will run into one when you least expect it.
Talk about a mixed bag... reassuring that I'm not a total psychopath, not so reassuring in the "I'll get over it eventually" dept
honestly, i am amazed by these stories. not so much for people lamenting lost loves per se....but that they are lamenting lost loves WHILE they are in other relationships, even married! :shock: (at least i thought know1, somewhere, said he was maried...mea culpa if i'm mistaken) sure, i've had my previous *loves*.....but none hold a candle to my current life-love. i just can't imagine being in a relationship and my SO actually lamenting some other woman while he is with me. ouch.
then again, while i've had my heart broken,
You have? I was under the impression you'd never been dumped, let alone left for someone else. The fact that you put previous *loves* in quotes indicates to me none of them were particularly meaningful, certainly not to the point where them leaving hurt you terribly (or in your case, clearly none of them meant so much to you that you felt you couldn't leave them behind since you were never dumped). I'd rather be inclined to say you cannot possibly understand what it feels like to be completely discarded by someone you loved very much.
you are correct, i can't. however, thst doesn't mean my heart has never been broken. however, none of that was even my point. i simply was expressing my personal difficulty with imagining being with someone who evidently is still so hung up on someone else. i am sure your GF, and anyone else saying they are still not over someone yet in another relationship, is completely unaware, and i am sure would not feel too *loved* knowing you are still pining for someone else. THAT was all i was focused on.
as far as saying clearly didn't mean very much to me....you simply have no idea. someone can mean a GREAt deal to you, and still not be right for you, and one needs to to recognize that and know when it it is time to move on, painful or not. and of course, there are always those who you have desired and it was not reciprocal. we all have hurts. to me, the point is to learm from them, hold onto whatever *good* was in there and move on, love again. i've had 2 real big loves before my husband, but as i said earlier...none hold a candle to him. if her were to leave me, you bet....it would be devastating. however, i would hope if i ever got involved with anoyone else afterwards, that i would not be lamenting him in the process. that was all. of course, again as stated earlier...i hope that never happens. i absolutely feel for anyone with a broken hear. i was/am simply taken aback by those professing not 'being over' someone...yet involved with others. it's my own feelings. nothing more, nothing less....
yahamita, i first saw your name/posts in the 'columbus fan gone missing' thread on the porch. reading through that thread it is apparent that you are a VERY caring person who will go the extra mile for others. you are one of the 'good ones'. i am sorry to read here you are in such pain. try to focus on all the good that you do. i hope you soon find peace.
yahamita, i first saw your name/posts in the 'columbus fan gone missing' thread on the porch. reading through that thread it is apparent that you are a VERY caring person who will go the extra mile for others. you are one of the 'good ones'. i am sorry to read here you are in such pain. try to focus on all the good that you do. i hope you soon find peace.
This just made me burst into tears...Thank you...
I knew all the rules, but the rules did not know me...GUARANTEED!
(in all fairness tho, this 'married' man was in the process of divorce...so not quite the same thing...tho that said, i still think,overall...best to wait, let them get their rebound over before you enter the picture)
i want to spend the next 4 days with a married man!
of course, that married man would be my husband .....just looking forward to a 4 day weekend!
yahamita - hope you are doing better, more and more, each day!
enjoy your 4th!
Whoa just reading this thread takes me back..I dated a guy that was in a serious relationship, broke up with the girl to be with me. Fast forward 2 years later - he broke up with me and just got married to that gal. Yes it sucks right now..it does. But you will look back on this like I am 2 years later and you will be better off.
There were 2 things that got me through that time, IPOD PJ mix and exercising. I see you live in Bend - get off the computer and go enjoy central Oregon. Go to Lake Billy Chinook, hike Mt. Bachelor, or go to Portland and drink some Micro Brews! You are a PJ gal - you can get through this. Oh and don´t get back with that douche.
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Take care, Mike.
olderman.....off-topic but just have to comment:
excellent blind faith lyric in your sig!
i can *hear* steve winwood singing it just reading it. LOVE them. i love every band winwood and clapton have been in, together or seperately.
yahamita - all the BEST as you deal and recover!
Let's just breathe...
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hahahahahahahaha.....awesome!
this is just how rumors get started...;)
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I hope you didn't drive back home... a dui or a dead body is not going to improve your mood.
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Bad thing is.....now I'm worried about both you AND Mike
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Is that him in your profile pic? He looks like a bad apple that one. I never would have trusted him myself.
Edit: I really should read through threads before posting in them. :oops:
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I'm about 7 years out from a girl leaving me that I still think about all the time. I guess it doesn't hurt as bad...but still hurts.
...are those who've helped us.
Right 'round the corner could be bigger than ourselves.
Talk about a mixed bag... reassuring that I'm not a total psychopath, not so reassuring in the "I'll get over it eventually" dept
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honestly, i am amazed by these stories. not so much for people lamenting lost loves per se....but that they are lamenting lost loves WHILE they are in other relationships, even married! :shock: (at least i thought know1, somewhere, said he was maried...mea culpa if i'm mistaken) sure, i've had my previous *loves*.....but none hold a candle to my current life-love. i just can't imagine being in a relationship and my SO actually lamenting some other woman while he is with me. ouch.
then again, while i've had my heart broken, i am happy to say i married, and am still married, to *the* love of my life...and hope to be...forever.......
i too know of a few relationships that began while one was married and/or seperated, hanging on simply b/c of kid issues and what have you...and having happy endings. sure, it does happen. but as said by me and many others, still not the norm. most relationships with married folk end as yahamita's....but first-hand life experience is THE teacher eh?
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
You have? I was under the impression you'd never been dumped, let alone left for someone else. The fact that you put previous *loves* in quotes indicates to me none of them were particularly meaningful, certainly not to the point where them leaving hurt you terribly (or in your case, clearly none of them meant so much to you that you felt you couldn't leave them behind since you were never dumped). I'd rather be inclined to say you cannot possibly understand what it feels like to be completely discarded by someone you loved very much.
and later when its over and you are really loved by a wonderful man you pray
what goes around doesn't ever come around for you
and you realize what that pain must have been like for his wife
You have? I was under the impression you'd never been dumped, let alone left for someone else. The fact that you put previous *loves* in quotes indicates to me none of them were particularly meaningful, certainly not to the point where them leaving hurt you terribly (or in your case, clearly none of them meant so much to you that you felt you couldn't leave them behind since you were never dumped). I'd rather be inclined to say you cannot possibly understand what it feels like to be completely discarded by someone you loved very much.[/quote]
Getting dumped is the worst feeling I have had. Especially when you love someone so much, you would do just a bout anything for that person. You sit around and constantly think why, what is it you did wrong, is there anything I can change. Its all you think about. It consumes every minute of your life unless you are sleeping. This is the love of your life, the person you thought you would spend the rest of your life with! The wondering what they are doing right now, if they have taken someone to do or to the places you go together. Its a total mind fuck.
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I'm confused. You say married man but then you say he wasn't with his wife at that time. Do you mean living with or ???? If he wasn't living with her then he wasn't really a married man. If he was still living with/in a relationship with then i would consider it a married man. Plenty of people are legally seperated and date. My divorce didn't take place for over 6 years. We no longer spoke to each other. I definately didn't think of myself as married and neither did he or the people we dated. I would never date a married man meaning someone who was living with his wife but I don't see a problem with dating someone that is no longer living with that person.
I know it hurts now but just keep thinking in six months or so you will have realized how lucky you are to have gotten away from someone that would hold you responsible for all of their problems. He would have continued to do that. There are a lot of great guys in this world. You will run into one when you least expect it.
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you are correct, i can't. however, thst doesn't mean my heart has never been broken. however, none of that was even my point. i simply was expressing my personal difficulty with imagining being with someone who evidently is still so hung up on someone else. i am sure your GF, and anyone else saying they are still not over someone yet in another relationship, is completely unaware, and i am sure would not feel too *loved* knowing you are still pining for someone else. THAT was all i was focused on.
as far as saying clearly didn't mean very much to me....you simply have no idea. someone can mean a GREAt deal to you, and still not be right for you, and one needs to to recognize that and know when it it is time to move on, painful or not. and of course, there are always those who you have desired and it was not reciprocal. we all have hurts. to me, the point is to learm from them, hold onto whatever *good* was in there and move on, love again. i've had 2 real big loves before my husband, but as i said earlier...none hold a candle to him. if her were to leave me, you bet....it would be devastating. however, i would hope if i ever got involved with anoyone else afterwards, that i would not be lamenting him in the process. that was all. of course, again as stated earlier...i hope that never happens. i absolutely feel for anyone with a broken hear. i was/am simply taken aback by those professing not 'being over' someone...yet involved with others. it's my own feelings. nothing more, nothing less....
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
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The key word here is "Married".
that made me laugh!
(in all fairness tho, this 'married' man was in the process of divorce...so not quite the same thing...tho that said, i still think,overall...best to wait, let them get their rebound over before you enter the picture)
i want to spend the next 4 days with a married man!
of course, that married man would be my husband
yahamita - hope you are doing better, more and more, each day!
enjoy your 4th!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
There were 2 things that got me through that time, IPOD PJ mix and exercising. I see you live in Bend - get off the computer and go enjoy central Oregon. Go to Lake Billy Chinook, hike Mt. Bachelor, or go to Portland and drink some Micro Brews! You are a PJ gal - you can get through this. Oh and don´t get back with that douche.