who else is caring for their parents as the adult now?

decides2dream

luvisatower wrote:

thank you all for for your thoughts.
and as many of you have said, even though she never was what anyone would call a "good mom" she still is my mother and like it or not, i'm charged with caring for her now. i dont think i would be capable of putting her out into the street unless she were to strike one of my children. and that hasnt happened.

i do feel that finding her some assisted care living arrangements are in the best interest of myself and my family.
it's just a matter of how and where.
She is only 58 and even though she is on SS disability, she doesnt qualify for senior citizen assistance for a few more years.
There are a few places i've contacted and for the most part, i'm looking at at least 2 years of her still being here with me due to her age and also the waiting lists and other beaurocratic bs that has to be dealt with.

my kids know their grandma is sick and on heavy medication and i tell them not to take anything she says to them to heart as her mental condition has deteriorated. they understand this even though it isnt easy and it does affect them sometimes.

i've also told her she must go get some counseling and have found her a counselor who specializes in chronically ill patients. maybe this'll help, maybe it wont, but at least it's something.

i do have PoA for her and this makes it at least easy to make the appointments, make her go, etc but it's on her to benefit from it.

i do appreciate all the support our little "community" has given.
it's times like this that make me glad i'm a part of the best fan-base in the world


hugs to all
and good luck to all of us in the "raising our parents" boat.
peace,
~luv~

i'm so glad you are finding some answers...some solutions....for the here and now, and down the road. wish you the very best, and your mother is a VERY fortunate woman. i hope she does realize that. all the best.....hearts & thoughts and all that warm, fuzzy stuff.......:)