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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,911
    HesCalledDyer said:
    At this point in life, I'm not interested.
    Ditto
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • dankind
    dankind Posts: 20,841
    PJ_Soul said:
    HesCalledDyer said:
    At this point in life, I'm not interested.
    Ditto
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  • Lizard
    Lizard So Cal Posts: 12,092
    32 years this past July 20!!!! :o
    Two grown sons that are doing pretty good...The hardest part has been OUTSIDE stuff... our relationship has been pretty easy for the most part.
    WHERE did the time go???


    So I'll just lie down and wait for the dream
    Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me
  • Poncier
    Poncier Posts: 18,032
    19 yrs in June.
    This weekend we rock Portland
  • 2-feign-reluctance
    2-feign-reluctance TigerTown, USA Posts: 23,462
    PJ_Soul said:
    HesCalledDyer said:
    At this point in life, I'm not interested.
    Ditto
    I sense a love connection :heart:
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  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,726
    so many wars started in the name of freedom!!ill keep fighting for it.....so no thanks
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,911
    dimitrispearljam said:
    so many wars started in the name of freedom!!ill keep fighting for it.....so no thanks

    Yes. This image reflects my relationship status (besides the gender, lol).



    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • rgambs
    rgambs Posts: 13,576
    Don't want to get married?  That's groovy, more power to you!

    I do have to say though, a good marriage doesn't really restrict any freedom but the freedom to bone other people.
    Monkey Driven, Call this Living?
  • dankind
    dankind Posts: 20,841
    rgambs said:
    Don't want to get married?  That's groovy, more power to you!

    I do have to say though, a good marriage doesn't really restrict any freedom but the freedom to bone other people.
    And that's only if you have a closed marriage and then your spouse finds out about it.
    I SAW PEARL JAM
  • dimitrispearljam
    dimitrispearljam Posts: 139,726
    PJ_Soul said:
    dimitrispearljam said:
    so many wars started in the name of freedom!!ill keep fighting for it.....so no thanks

    Yes. This image reflects my relationship status (besides the gender, lol).




    that doesnt mean we cant have fun together ;)
    "...Dimitri...He talks to me...'.."The Ghost of Greece..".
    "..That's One Happy Fuckin Ghost.."
    “..That came up on the Pillow Case...This is for the Greek, With Our Apologies.....”
  • bootlegger10
    bootlegger10 Posts: 16,296
    dankind said:
    markymark550 said:
    Will be married 10 years in December. We've been together a little over 14 years. And to think, she thought I was creepy at first because I was stoned out of my mind the first time we met. :lol:
    My wife thought I was creepy when we first met, too. Grad school for creative writing. I had a shaved head, wore a black trench coat and combat boots, and wrote comedic short stories about insane men who masturbated with crushed glass and fed the secretions that resulted from their autoerotic fits to their pets. 

    What a judgmental twat she was back then.


    So we are all just gonna let this post go?   

    That would be an odd SNL sketch. 

  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,911
    edited August 2017
    rgambs said:
    Don't want to get married?  That's groovy, more power to you!

    I do have to say though, a good marriage doesn't really restrict any freedom but the freedom to bone other people.
    I have to disagree, having been in a past marriage (common law), and having observed hundreds, if not thousands, of others. I found that it did generally restrict my freedom, and not because of anything the guy did to restrict it (that is the one thing he NEVER did, nor did any of my past serious significant others - I wouldn't have put up with it). I found that just the nature of being in a marriage - even the best marriage - was restrictive for me. I don't mean in the "I can't because my husband doesn't like it" sense or anything like that, and I definitely don't mean in the "I want to have sex with other people" sense either. I more mean in the sense where two people have to coordinate with each other, cooperate, compromise. You know, the absolute basic necessities of any decent relationship, lol. I didn't have an issue with this while in the relationship, mind you. I'm actually very good at these things when coupled up. But after my marriage ended, I simply decided that I'd had enough of that, and that I'd used up enough patience for one lifetime on him too HAHA, and I reveled in the complete and total freedom of doing everything my own way, on my own schedule, lol. I'm thinking when a marriage ends in total disaster and heartbreak and overwhelming betrayal (followed by harassment), some people are struck by this kind of relative total freedom in a way that those in a happy marriage with hearts and trust basically intact can't fathom. I still cherish every moment that I have it. And while I was very tolerant, I also didn't miss any of those petty annoyances that come with every relationship.

    Some people are not cut out for the single life though. Many people just get lonely and feel like something is missing, and for them, being in a relationship makes sense. I don't happen to be one of those people though. I don't get lonely as a single person at all, and don't feel like I'm missing out on anything, so I have absolutely no motivation to get myself into a relationship. If I hadn't already done it, I wouldn't feel this way, but I basically feel like I've sown my marriage oats, lol. Plus, I never wanted children (and am SO glad I haven't brought kids into this world, given the state of the world and society right now. I don't want to raise kids in this environment), so that particular motivation to get married isn't there either.

    All that said, I support happy marriages wholeheartedly. It's not for me, but I think it's great if others manage to find themselves actually happy in a marriage (with all the ups and downs). They are very lucky, because a lot of marriages are basically shit. At least half (that is probably a huge underestimation actually) of the married people I know are simply staying in their marriages because of a combination of fear, codependency, convenience, and financial security (and I will say, the one major downside to being single is that it's harder financially).

    But hey, being in love can change a person's perspective (sometimes unfortunately). I haven't written off another serious relationship for my entire life necessarily. I'm not against marriage or common law relationships in principle. But if I do get into another one, that guy is going to have to fall directly into my lap and sweep me off my feet and make me go through that love sickness that makes people move ahead with someone, because I'm sure as hell not looking. :lol:
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    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • hedonist
    hedonist Posts: 24,524
    bootlegger10 said:
    dankind said:
    markymark550 said:
    Will be married 10 years in December. We've been together a little over 14 years. And to think, she thought I was creepy at first because I was stoned out of my mind the first time we met. :lol:
    My wife thought I was creepy when we first met, too. Grad school for creative writing. I had a shaved head, wore a black trench coat and combat boots, and wrote comedic short stories about insane men who masturbated with crushed glass and fed the secretions that resulted from their autoerotic fits to their pets. 

    What a judgmental twat she was back then.


    So we are all just gonna let this post go?   

    That would be an odd SNL sketch. 

    Well...knowing DK, it's not that shocking of a post :glasses:
  • eeriepadave
    eeriepadave West Chester, PA Posts: 43,637
    Malroth said:
    How long? How Many? How Hard?

    :lol: sorry i'm in a juvenile state of mind now
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  • Malroth
    Malroth broken down chevrolet Posts: 2,563
    I didn't get married until 33.  33 yrs of caring only for myself and then introducing wife and child to the mix took several years for me to get used to.  I don't feel as selfish now. nor as free :wink:
    The worst of times..they don't phase me,
    even if I look and act really crazy.
  • PJfanwillneverleave1
    PJfanwillneverleave1 Posts: 12,885
    PJ_Soul said:
    rgambs said:
    Don't want to get married?  That's groovy, more power to you!

    I do have to say though, a good marriage doesn't really restrict any freedom but the freedom to bone other people.
    (and I will say, the one major downside to being single is that it's harder financially).
    The one downside of being married is that the wife already has your money spent. :smile:
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,911
    PJfanwillneverleave1 said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    rgambs said:
    Don't want to get married?  That's groovy, more power to you!

    I do have to say though, a good marriage doesn't really restrict any freedom but the freedom to bone other people.
    (and I will say, the one major downside to being single is that it's harder financially).
    The one downside of being married is that the wife already has your money spent. :smile:
    Or the husband. ;)
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • eeriepadave
    eeriepadave West Chester, PA Posts: 43,637
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  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,501
    2-feign-reluctance said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    HesCalledDyer said:
    At this point in life, I'm not interested.
    Ditto
    I sense a love connection :heart:
    I'd do it for the Canadian citizenship and free health care. :lol:

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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,911
    HesCalledDyer said:
    2-feign-reluctance said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    HesCalledDyer said:
    At this point in life, I'm not interested.
    Ditto
    I sense a love connection :heart:
    I'd do it for the Canadian citizenship and free health care. :lol:

    I suppose I am free to commit immigration fraud. :lol:
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata

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