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  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Vancouver, BCPosts: 42,727
    dankind said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    That I wish I had the guts to point out how wrong I think it was for my sister to go swimming with the dolphins during a vacation with her daughter. I loathe animal tourism and keeping Cetaceas in captivity so much. She posted photos of this, and even commented that the best mom's t of the whole trip was when they did this... God, I am just dying to point out the error of this... especiallyvaince she has gone off about how bad animal tourism is, like with the elephant riding and shit ... obviously she has an extremely limited idea of what that actually is (or is just that self- absorbed). And I hate to see her passing that onto her daughter.
    But I hesitate to say something because she's a psychopath, so doesn't respond well to such confrontations. So I'm taking the subtle route... I just shared another 'stop animal tourism' video on facebook, followed another 'dolphins in captivity' animals rights page, and I think I'll go blast out a few more articles about the downside of swimming with dolphins now. Passive aggressive of me for sure, but better than risking her wrath, lol.
    I've never swum with dolphins, but they used to swim with me all the time. Curious critters, but they keep a comfortable distance. Every time I go home, I know I'll interact with at least one of them if I go for a swim in the Gulf or wade out a good distance while fishing in the intracoastal. The last time I was home, two of them ran off a good-sized reef shark from the area. Fun stuff to watch. My daughter was there with me to witness it, too.
    That's awesome!!! I have actually never seen a free dolphin. Only the prisoners. :( I have been whale watching though, and that is a thrill.
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  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Vancouver, BCPosts: 42,727
    PJ_Soul said:
    That I wish I had the guts to point out how wrong I think it was for my sister to go swimming with the dolphins during a vacation with her daughter. I loathe animal tourism and keeping Cetaceans in captivity so much. She posted photos of this, and even commented that the best mom's t of the whole trip was when they did this... God, I am just dying to point out the error of this... especiallyvaince she has gone off about how bad animal tourism is, like with the elephant riding and shit ... obviously she has an extremely limited idea of what that actually is (or is just that self- absorbed). And I hate to see her passing that onto her daughter.
    But I hesitate to say something because she's a psychopath, so doesn't respond well to such confrontations. So I'm taking the subtle route... I just shared another 'stop animal tourism' video on facebook, followed another 'dolphins in captivity' animals rights page, and I think I'll go blast out a few more articles about the downside of swimming with dolphins now. Passive aggressive of me for sure, but better than risking her wrath, lol.
    Were the dolphins in captivity then? My understanding of swimming with dolphins was that it happens in the open sea, in an area where dolphins happen to be hanging about. I see no issue with going to swim with them in that kind of a scenario
    Yes, in captivity. Most touristy swimming with dolphins is with captive dolphins in pools or in open water enclosures actually. That is what I'm talking about. Where tourists pay loads of money to swim with captive dolphins. In my sister's case it was offered by Disney Cruises. What you're talking about is just lucky and wonderful wildlife encounters.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Vancouver, BCPosts: 42,727
    PJ_Soul said:
    That I wish I had the guts to point out how wrong I think it was for my sister to go swimming with the dolphins during a vacation with her daughter. I loathe animal tourism and keeping Cetaceans in captivity so much. She posted photos of this, and even commented that the best mom's t of the whole trip was when they did this... God, I am just dying to point out the error of this... especiallyvaince she has gone off about how bad animal tourism is, like with the elephant riding and shit ... obviously she has an extremely limited idea of what that actually is (or is just that self- absorbed). And I hate to see her passing that onto her daughter.
    But I hesitate to say something because she's a psychopath, so doesn't respond well to such confrontations. So I'm taking the subtle route... I just shared another 'stop animal tourism' video on facebook, followed another 'dolphins in captivity' animals rights page, and I think I'll go blast out a few more articles about the downside of swimming with dolphins now. Passive aggressive of me for sure, but better than risking her wrath, lol.
    I refused to let my kids swim with the dolphins at our resort in mexico. we watched the show (not really a show, more of a marketing tool to get people to pony up the cash to swim with them), but that was because it was free. I used it as an educational tool to let them know how wrong it is to keep animals in captivity for our entertainment. 
    Good for you! Love to hear that! I wish my sister had the same kind of wherewithal!
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • dankinddankind I am not your foot. Posts: 12,136
    The absolute dumbest form of animal tourism I've seen is feeding sharks from cages. I'm sure that all the serious marine biologists and their diving crews who have dedicated their lives to studying, preserving and trying to shed some light on these awesome but maligned fish are fucking thrilled about these tours that ultimately have sharks associate humans with food.
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  • jnimhaoileoinjnimhaoileoin Baile Átha CliathPosts: 2,675
    PJ_Soul said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    That I wish I had the guts to point out how wrong I think it was for my sister to go swimming with the dolphins during a vacation with her daughter. I loathe animal tourism and keeping Cetaceans in captivity so much. She posted photos of this, and even commented that the best mom's t of the whole trip was when they did this... God, I am just dying to point out the error of this... especiallyvaince she has gone off about how bad animal tourism is, like with the elephant riding and shit ... obviously she has an extremely limited idea of what that actually is (or is just that self- absorbed). And I hate to see her passing that onto her daughter.
    But I hesitate to say something because she's a psychopath, so doesn't respond well to such confrontations. So I'm taking the subtle route... I just shared another 'stop animal tourism' video on facebook, followed another 'dolphins in captivity' animals rights page, and I think I'll go blast out a few more articles about the downside of swimming with dolphins now. Passive aggressive of me for sure, but better than risking her wrath, lol.
    Were the dolphins in captivity then? My understanding of swimming with dolphins was that it happens in the open sea, in an area where dolphins happen to be hanging about. I see no issue with going to swim with them in that kind of a scenario
    Yes, in captivity. Most touristy swimming with dolphins is with captive dolphins in pools or in open water enclosures actually. That is what I'm talking about. Where tourists pay loads of money to swim with captive dolphins. In my sister's case it was offered by Disney Cruises. What you're talking about is just lucky and wonderful wildlife encounters.
    Ah ok, well animals in captivity absolutely does sicken me
  • dankinddankind I am not your foot. Posts: 12,136
    PJ_Soul said:
    PJ_Soul said:
    That I wish I had the guts to point out how wrong I think it was for my sister to go swimming with the dolphins during a vacation with her daughter. I loathe animal tourism and keeping Cetaceans in captivity so much. She posted photos of this, and even commented that the best mom's t of the whole trip was when they did this... God, I am just dying to point out the error of this... especiallyvaince she has gone off about how bad animal tourism is, like with the elephant riding and shit ... obviously she has an extremely limited idea of what that actually is (or is just that self- absorbed). And I hate to see her passing that onto her daughter.
    But I hesitate to say something because she's a psychopath, so doesn't respond well to such confrontations. So I'm taking the subtle route... I just shared another 'stop animal tourism' video on facebook, followed another 'dolphins in captivity' animals rights page, and I think I'll go blast out a few more articles about the downside of swimming with dolphins now. Passive aggressive of me for sure, but better than risking her wrath, lol.
    Were the dolphins in captivity then? My understanding of swimming with dolphins was that it happens in the open sea, in an area where dolphins happen to be hanging about. I see no issue with going to swim with them in that kind of a scenario
    Yes, in captivity. Most touristy swimming with dolphins is with captive dolphins in pools or in open water enclosures actually. That is what I'm talking about. Where tourists pay loads of money to swim with captive dolphins. In my sister's case it was offered by Disney Cruises. What you're talking about is just lucky and wonderful wildlife encounters.
    Ah ok, well animals in captivity absolutely does sicken me
    Yeah, my dog is a real bitch, and her poop makes me wanna hurl. 
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  • 23scidoo23scidoo Thessaloniki,GreecePosts: 11,626
    2 months until my PJ show!!!!!
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  • 23scidoo23scidoo Thessaloniki,GreecePosts: 11,626
    Early May and allready there are mosquitoes..damn..
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  • Ms. HaikuMs. Haiku Washington DCPosts: 6,937
    I got a job! Its a specialist position at an association which is what I wanted.

    I've had a bookseller entry-level position since November 2017, but it doesn't offer benefits. I will quit that one. It made me love DC because of all the people from the H Street NE neighborhood who talked with me about books. 

    This search for an association position took two years three months, and I will be working with a previous supervisor who said great things about me. I was getting very sad towards the end, but no matter the winter there is a spring time ahead. Funny, I was thinking about that song after my open heart surgery 5 years ago. That song has mileage.
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  • lolobugglolobugg BLUE RDGE MTNSPosts: 7,616
    Ms. Haiku said:
    I got a job! Its a specialist position at an association which is what I wanted.

    I've had a bookseller entry-level position since November 2017, but it doesn't offer benefits. I will quit that one. It made me love DC because of all the people from the H Street NE neighborhood who talked with me about books. 

    This search for an association position took two years three months, and I will be working with a previous supervisor who said great things about me. I was getting very sad towards the end, but no matter the winter there is a spring time ahead. Funny, I was thinking about that song after my open heart surgery 5 years ago. That song has mileage.
    I am so happy for you!!!

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  • PJ_SoulPJ_Soul Vancouver, BCPosts: 42,727
    edited May 9
    Ms. Haiku said:
    I got a job! Its a specialist position at an association which is what I wanted.

    I've had a bookseller entry-level position since November 2017, but it doesn't offer benefits. I will quit that one. It made me love DC because of all the people from the H Street NE neighborhood who talked with me about books. 

    This search for an association position took two years three months, and I will be working with a previous supervisor who said great things about me. I was getting very sad towards the end, but no matter the winter there is a spring time ahead. Funny, I was thinking about that song after my open heart surgery 5 years ago. That song has mileage.
    Hey, way to go!!!!! Congrats!!! :joy: This must feel great! :)
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy. ~ Desiderata
  • dimitrispearljamdimitrispearljam NINUNINOPROPosts: 135,626
    ONE MONTH!
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  • jnimhaoileoinjnimhaoileoin Baile Átha CliathPosts: 2,675
    Ms. Haiku said:
    I got a job! Its a specialist position at an association which is what I wanted.

    I've had a bookseller entry-level position since November 2017, but it doesn't offer benefits. I will quit that one. It made me love DC because of all the people from the H Street NE neighborhood who talked with me about books. 

    This search for an association position took two years three months, and I will be working with a previous supervisor who said great things about me. I was getting very sad towards the end, but no matter the winter there is a spring time ahead. Funny, I was thinking about that song after my open heart surgery 5 years ago. That song has mileage.
    Congratulations! That's brilliant, I know you've been looking for so long and it's been really hard
  • hauntingfamiliarhauntingfamiliar Wilmington, NCPosts: 9,416
    Ms. Haiku said:
    I got a job! Its a specialist position at an association which is what I wanted.

    I've had a bookseller entry-level position since November 2017, but it doesn't offer benefits. I will quit that one. It made me love DC because of all the people from the H Street NE neighborhood who talked with me about books. 

    This search for an association position took two years three months, and I will be working with a previous supervisor who said great things about me. I was getting very sad towards the end, but no matter the winter there is a spring time ahead. Funny, I was thinking about that song after my open heart surgery 5 years ago. That song has mileage.
    Congratulations!!! What a long, arduous journey but what an amazing pay off!! I am very happy for you!! :joy:
  • 23scidoo23scidoo Thessaloniki,GreecePosts: 11,626
    Ms. Haiku said:
    I got a job! Its a specialist position at an association which is what I wanted.

    I've had a bookseller entry-level position since November 2017, but it doesn't offer benefits. I will quit that one. It made me love DC because of all the people from the H Street NE neighborhood who talked with me about books. 

    This search for an association position took two years three months, and I will be working with a previous supervisor who said great things about me. I was getting very sad towards the end, but no matter the winter there is a spring time ahead. Funny, I was thinking about that song after my open heart surgery 5 years ago. That song has mileage.
    Gongrats Ms.!!!!!..you deserve it!!!
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  • markymark550markymark550 Columbia, SCPosts: 4,283
    Ms. Haiku said:
    I got a job! Its a specialist position at an association which is what I wanted.

    I've had a bookseller entry-level position since November 2017, but it doesn't offer benefits. I will quit that one. It made me love DC because of all the people from the H Street NE neighborhood who talked with me about books. 

    This search for an association position took two years three months, and I will be working with a previous supervisor who said great things about me. I was getting very sad towards the end, but no matter the winter there is a spring time ahead. Funny, I was thinking about that song after my open heart surgery 5 years ago. That song has mileage.
    Congrats! It's been a long time coming.
  • bluegracebluegrace Posts: 2,336
    Congrats Ms Haiku!

    Holiday! Celebrate!
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  • kce8kce8 Posts: 1,289
    Finally Ms. Haiku! Congratulations :joy: 
    I'm happy for you, all the waiting and work will pay off now... 
  • dankinddankind I am not your foot. Posts: 12,136
    My pain-in-the-ass puppy was spayed today. I hope she's not in too much pain. 

    I know that it's the right thing to do, but it always feels terrible. I mean, what if she wanted to be a mom someday? What right do we have to take that away from her?

    Anyway, damn dog is making it hard to focus on work, and she's not even raising hell here.
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  • hedonisthedonist standing on the edge of foreverPosts: 19,180
    But then you'd have (ridiculously cute) pups to raise or find homes for.

    Still tough on the pooch, though.  This might warrant extra attention and gentle ear-rubs.
  • PapPap Serres, GreecePosts: 20,061
    edited May 13

    :triumph: The 6th Cup in our history!!!!!! :peace: 


    :smiley: ONE CITY | ONE TEAM :joy:


    :plus_one: When your (favourite) team wins the Greek Cup 2 times in a row!!!! :clap:


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  • FifthelementFifthelement LotuslandPosts: 5,532
    Ms. Haiku said:
    I got a job! Its a specialist position at an association which is what I wanted.

    I've had a bookseller entry-level position since November 2017, but it doesn't offer benefits. I will quit that one. It made me love DC because of all the people from the H Street NE neighborhood who talked with me about books. 

    This search for an association position took two years three months, and I will be working with a previous supervisor who said great things about me. I was getting very sad towards the end, but no matter the winter there is a spring time ahead. Funny, I was thinking about that song after my open heart surgery 5 years ago. That song has mileage.
    Congratulations Ms. Haiku.  I, along with so many others, am so happy for you.  Your perseverance has paid off.  I hope that this job will be everything that you wanted. :)
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  • 23scidoo23scidoo Thessaloniki,GreecePosts: 11,626
    If only I'd thought of the right words..
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  • HughFreakingDillonHughFreakingDillon WinnipegPosts: 15,242
    that I wish our family could rewind about 6 years and stay there. 
  • kce8kce8 Posts: 1,289
    that I wish our family could rewind about 6 years and stay there. 
    Are the kids growing up too fast? :smile:
  • HughFreakingDillonHughFreakingDillon WinnipegPosts: 15,242
    kce8 said:
    that I wish our family could rewind about 6 years and stay there. 
    Are the kids growing up too fast? :smile:
    yes, but it's a combination of things. I was looking at a picture of the two of them walking arm in arm at the lake, and remembering how they used to be best friends and rarely fought. now they are almost 12 and almost 9, and the age gap is showing. it saddens me. I watched as the same thing happened to my wife's sister's girls. same age gap, very simliar personalities (the youngest neice and our youngest daughter look and act creepily similar, despite being 12 years apart and only really see each other at holiday dinners and birthdays-but it also bugs me a bit, as I have a hard time dealing with that neice now), and when they hit this same age, they started to hate each other when they were previously best friends. that lasted years. now they are good, but it was a long time of ridiculous drama in that house. I know that's life with teenagers, but man, it's hard to accept that when they were previously INSEPARABLE. 

    but that is also the time frame prior to my oldest being diagnosed with ulcerative colitis and I didn't have crippling anxiety/depression back then. were things perfect and rosey? no, but those times seem infinitely happier and joyful and less stressed. 

    mind you, there are really awesome things about the present; my youngest loves playing guitar and going to shows with me, my oldest is developing her sense of humour and we laugh a lot, which is amazing, it's nice that it's less work because of their growing independence. but I'm just one of those parents that just misses having young kids. I love the cuddles and the hugs and the surrounding feelings of love in the house that comes with that age. 
  • kce8kce8 Posts: 1,289
    kce8 said:
    that I wish our family could rewind about 6 years and stay there. 
    Are the kids growing up too fast? :smile:
    yes, but it's a combination of things. I was looking at a picture of the two of them walking arm in arm at the lake, and remembering how they used to be best friends and rarely fought. now they are almost 12 and almost 9, and the age gap is showing. it saddens me. I watched as the same thing happened to my wife's sister's girls. same age gap, very simliar personalities (the youngest neice and our youngest daughter look and act creepily similar, despite being 12 years apart and only really see each other at holiday dinners and birthdays-but it also bugs me a bit, as I have a hard time dealing with that neice now), and when they hit this same age, they started to hate each other when they were previously best friends. that lasted years. now they are good, but it was a long time of ridiculous drama in that house. I know that's life with teenagers, but man, it's hard to accept that when they were previously INSEPARABLE. 

    but that is also the time frame prior to my oldest being diagnosed with ulcerative colitis and I didn't have crippling anxiety/depression back then. were things perfect and rosey? no, but those times seem infinitely happier and joyful and less stressed. 

    mind you, there are really awesome things about the present; my youngest loves playing guitar and going to shows with me, my oldest is developing her sense of humour and we laugh a lot, which is amazing, it's nice that it's less work because of their growing independence. but I'm just one of those parents that just misses having young kids. I love the cuddles and the hugs and the surrounding feelings of love in the house that comes with that age. 

    Yes I understand. It was nearly the same for me and my brother. But we never hated each other, we just got in trouble at that age and then lost interest in each other. Different friends and interests, that's a normal way of growing up. 
    These fights might arise because one is already separating as long as the other one is still trying to keep this close relationship. Like a couple who's slowly separating and one isn't just ready to let go. It's just happening all the time. Even that your nieces were acting similar till now that still doesn't mean the same will happen to your kids. 

    Looks like you are a great caring dad! I hope you can soak up these good times you still have with them and later then find out that your kids are not getting into these really bad times because you already showed them to not act like that. 
    I'm sure it won't get that bad. :smile:

    And times still can get better for you! I learned lately to not regret that much anymore or feel sad about past things. 
    Looking forward to what's coming your way and enjoy and take the most out of every single day. I'm trying to do that. 
    When the kids grow up you get time to focus on other things again, things which you had to push back for a long time. That's great! 
    I'm actually thinking about my motorbike. I still have it but not used it since over 15 years... I just can not stand seeing others driving around longer, it's like getting homesick lately ... :lol: 
  • HughFreakingDillonHughFreakingDillon WinnipegPosts: 15,242
    kce8 said:
    kce8 said:
    that I wish our family could rewind about 6 years and stay there. 
    Are the kids growing up too fast? :smile:
    yes, but it's a combination of things. I was looking at a picture of the two of them walking arm in arm at the lake, and remembering how they used to be best friends and rarely fought. now they are almost 12 and almost 9, and the age gap is showing. it saddens me. I watched as the same thing happened to my wife's sister's girls. same age gap, very simliar personalities (the youngest neice and our youngest daughter look and act creepily similar, despite being 12 years apart and only really see each other at holiday dinners and birthdays-but it also bugs me a bit, as I have a hard time dealing with that neice now), and when they hit this same age, they started to hate each other when they were previously best friends. that lasted years. now they are good, but it was a long time of ridiculous drama in that house. I know that's life with teenagers, but man, it's hard to accept that when they were previously INSEPARABLE. 

    but that is also the time frame prior to my oldest being diagnosed with ulcerative colitis and I didn't have crippling anxiety/depression back then. were things perfect and rosey? no, but those times seem infinitely happier and joyful and less stressed. 

    mind you, there are really awesome things about the present; my youngest loves playing guitar and going to shows with me, my oldest is developing her sense of humour and we laugh a lot, which is amazing, it's nice that it's less work because of their growing independence. but I'm just one of those parents that just misses having young kids. I love the cuddles and the hugs and the surrounding feelings of love in the house that comes with that age. 

    Yes I understand. It was nearly the same for me and my brother. But we never hated each other, we just got in trouble at that age and then lost interest in each other. Different friends and interests, that's a normal way of growing up. 
    These fights might arise because one is already separating as long as the other one is still trying to keep this close relationship. Like a couple who's slowly separating and one isn't just ready to let go. It's just happening all the time. Even that your nieces were acting similar till now that still doesn't mean the same will happen to your kids. 

    Looks like you are a great caring dad! I hope you can soak up these good times you still have with them and later then find out that your kids are not getting into these really bad times because you already showed them to not act like that. 
    I'm sure it won't get that bad. :smile:

    And times still can get better for you! I learned lately to not regret that much anymore or feel sad about past things. 
    Looking forward to what's coming your way and enjoy and take the most out of every single day. I'm trying to do that. 
    When the kids grow up you get time to focus on other things again, things which you had to push back for a long time. That's great! 
    I'm actually thinking about my motorbike. I still have it but not used it since over 15 years... I just can not stand seeing others driving around longer, it's like getting homesick lately ... :lol: 
    I often get second looks because it's apparently odd for a man who looks like an offensive lineman to love babies. not just-born babies, ones that are sitting up and smiling and playing with your ears and your glasses and such. I'm a sucker for a 9 month old. my wife took so many pictures of our girls that age cuddling on a cold sunday afternoon with me. I look at those often. 

    I do know it's a natural part of them getting older, absolutely. I had siblings. I hated my sister from age 10 or so to, well....kinda now, actually. but we hung out all the time as younger kids (15 months apart). 

    anyway, I don't sit around all day thinking about the good ol days. But I have the picture I described on my office wall; I happened to look at it, and it triggered those feelings. 

    having kids these ages doesn't afford me a lot of time nor energy to focus on the past anyway. LOL
  • kce8kce8 Posts: 1,289
    kce8 said:
    kce8 said:
    that I wish our family could rewind about 6 years and stay there. 
    Are the kids growing up too fast? :smile:
    yes, but it's a combination of things. I was looking at a picture of the two of them walking arm in arm at the lake, and remembering how they used to be best friends and rarely fought. now they are almost 12 and almost 9, and the age gap is showing. it saddens me. I watched as the same thing happened to my wife's sister's girls. same age gap, very simliar personalities (the youngest neice and our youngest daughter look and act creepily similar, despite being 12 years apart and only really see each other at holiday dinners and birthdays-but it also bugs me a bit, as I have a hard time dealing with that neice now), and when they hit this same age, they started to hate each other when they were previously best friends. that lasted years. now they are good, but it was a long time of ridiculous drama in that house. I know that's life with teenagers, but man, it's hard to accept that when they were previously INSEPARABLE. 

    but that is also the time frame prior to my oldest being diagnosed with ulcerative colitis and I didn't have crippling anxiety/depression back then. were things perfect and rosey? no, but those times seem infinitely happier and joyful and less stressed. 

    mind you, there are really awesome things about the present; my youngest loves playing guitar and going to shows with me, my oldest is developing her sense of humour and we laugh a lot, which is amazing, it's nice that it's less work because of their growing independence. but I'm just one of those parents that just misses having young kids. I love the cuddles and the hugs and the surrounding feelings of love in the house that comes with that age. 

    Yes I understand. It was nearly the same for me and my brother. But we never hated each other, we just got in trouble at that age and then lost interest in each other. Different friends and interests, that's a normal way of growing up. 
    These fights might arise because one is already separating as long as the other one is still trying to keep this close relationship. Like a couple who's slowly separating and one isn't just ready to let go. It's just happening all the time. Even that your nieces were acting similar till now that still doesn't mean the same will happen to your kids. 

    Looks like you are a great caring dad! I hope you can soak up these good times you still have with them and later then find out that your kids are not getting into these really bad times because you already showed them to not act like that. 
    I'm sure it won't get that bad. :smile:

    And times still can get better for you! I learned lately to not regret that much anymore or feel sad about past things. 
    Looking forward to what's coming your way and enjoy and take the most out of every single day. I'm trying to do that. 
    When the kids grow up you get time to focus on other things again, things which you had to push back for a long time. That's great! 
    I'm actually thinking about my motorbike. I still have it but not used it since over 15 years... I just can not stand seeing others driving around longer, it's like getting homesick lately ... :lol: 
    I often get second looks because it's apparently odd for a man who looks like an offensive lineman to love babies. not just-born babies, ones that are sitting up and smiling and playing with your ears and your glasses and such. I'm a sucker for a 9 month old. my wife took so many pictures of our girls that age cuddling on a cold sunday afternoon with me. I look at those often. 

    I do know it's a natural part of them getting older, absolutely. I had siblings. I hated my sister from age 10 or so to, well....kinda now, actually. but we hung out all the time as younger kids (15 months apart). 

    anyway, I don't sit around all day thinking about the good ol days. But I have the picture I described on my office wall; I happened to look at it, and it triggered those feelings. 

    having kids these ages doesn't afford me a lot of time nor energy to focus on the past anyway. LOL

    Yep, you are a great dad!
    :smile:
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