RIP Dad: Man of the Hour

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  • TorontonianTorontonian Posts: 313
    edited October 2018
    Thank you to this great community for all of your well wishes.  These words did mean a lot.  I have found that almost every Pearl Jam fan I have run into, I have a lot in common with, and we all share our love for this band and the music that has helped us in good times and in bad.

    The funeral was yesterday.  It was both difficult and amazing.  So much support from friends and family.  Amazing to hear stories about my Dad that I have never heard.  I am very happy he had great relationships with amazing friends.  I spoke and my Dad's best friend spoke.  It was so hard to hear his best buddy talk about his loss.  I also found it hard to speak but kept it together and people said I honoured him in a way he would have loved.

    I am not sure how I feel today.  The stress of the funeral planning is gone.  It is crazy you can take a year or more to plan a wedding but for a funeral you have to plan this big event while being f**ked up at the same time.

    I am Canadian so going to Parry Sound cottage for the weekend with family which will be good to finally get away and try to get back to some normalcy.

    I really appreciate all the words and thoughts of so many here.  I am a bit messed up still but I think time and memories will help me heal.

    I am going to try to stay in touch more with friends and family and make sure I don't lose touch with my Dad's buddies.  Even a coffee here and there.  Life is so fast these days with so many demands but this event has punched me in the face and make me realize what is really important in life.

    Thanks all.
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  • jjflashjjflash Posts: 3,882
    So sorry to hear about the loss of your parents, especially the sudden loss of your dad. May you find comfort in the grieving, and may the love and memories rise above the pain.
  • Our hearts and thoughts are with you. I lost both of my parents within 6 months of each other in 2013. Such trying times to say the least and it took a few years for the fog to lift.

    But one day I woke up and said I can’t be miserable forever, plus no way they would want me to be anything but happy. Ever since that day, I have a new outlook on life and enjoy it everyday. It’s a great feeling. 

    I like to believe I had a conversation with them that night.
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  • giventofly69giventofly69 VancouverPosts: 749
    Our hearts and thoughts are with you. I lost both of my parents within 6 months of each other in 2013. Such trying times to say the least and it took a few years for the fog to lift.

    But one day I woke up and said I can’t be miserable forever, plus no way they would want me to be anything but happy. Ever since that day, I have a new outlook on life and enjoy it everyday. It’s a great feeling. 

    I like to believe I had a conversation with them that night.
    I lost my dad 10 years ago. It was one of the hardest times of my life.  And, I still miss him every day. But I can still feel him so close ... which is amazingly beautiful. I was in Seattle for the 2018, and the openers of Long Road into Release had me in tears, but it was this moment in time when I really felt my dad with me ... my heart was so full.  It's indescribable.  A beautiful memory that means so much to me.
    "Your light's reflected now, reflected from afar. We were but stones, your light made us stars."
  • whoyouare72whoyouare72 Chicago ILPosts: 1,721
    Sorry for your loss, hang in there.
  • Our hearts and thoughts are with you. I lost both of my parents within 6 months of each other in 2013. Such trying times to say the least and it took a few years for the fog to lift.

    But one day I woke up and said I can’t be miserable forever, plus no way they would want me to be anything but happy. Ever since that day, I have a new outlook on life and enjoy it everyday. It’s a great feeling. 

    I like to believe I had a conversation with them that night.
    I lost my dad 10 years ago. It was one of the hardest times of my life.  And, I still miss him every day. But I can still feel him so close ... which is amazingly beautiful. I was in Seattle for the 2018, and the openers of Long Road into Release had me in tears, but it was this moment in time when I really felt my dad with me ... my heart was so full.  It's indescribable.  A beautiful memory that means so much to me.
    That’s awesome gtf69! Long road has always been my bugaboo, and now release has taken on so much more meaning. Completely agree with your ‘can’t describe’ comment
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