Direction of Focus
When I was young, when life was difficult, sometimes I would survive the difficulties by dreaming of a better future. I’d make lists of goals and plans and wishes. My eyes were on tomorrow rather than today. I’d use my imagination to create a better reality than the one before my eyes. This allowed me to stay hopeful and survive.
Now that I’m older, I realize that this habit may have allowed me to keep my spirits up but it didn’t directly solve the problems. So now, I’m trying to improve my life by truly standing in and turning towards the reality in which I’m living. I have less time for unproductive dreaming and wishing. It may have kept me happy in hard times but it also was a distraction rather than a solution to problems.
Now, I’m being careful not to sit in my hopeful dream world too long because (ultimately) it’s not helpful to me. When I find myself slipping back into this habit, I stop.