"The mind's eye"/Mental Visualization - Do you have Aphantasia??

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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,680
    I tried it. i can close my eyes and imagine sheep jumping over a fence. 
    Oh. :( I want to find people like me.... who realize what a big deal this is to us, lol.
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  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    like I said in our pm's, I guess I'm not sure what exactly this entails. you said it's like a projector on the back of your eyelids. My eyelids are always dark. no images there. But I "see" things in memory. I can visualize myself in mexico, on the beach, even with my eyes open. Maybe that's different? I don't know. how the fuck do people fall asleep if they constantly have a movie playing in front of their eyes?
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  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    I had never heard of this. Interesting though. I think it applies to me as well. Every time someone says "close your eyes and think of ____" all I see is black (or that reddish hue if you're directly facing a light source). I never see the object, but rather focus on the concept of the object. I had never considered that people can actually "see" images in their mind, but I don't find this to be some profound revelation though. It just is what it is.
    well I don't "see" anything either. as I said to soul, I don't know if I'm understanding this correctly. the image is in my mind, not on the backs of my eyelids. 
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,680
    edited December 2017
    rgambs said:
    I'm slightly suspicious of the prevalence of this.
    It's such a strange idea that it seems hard to believe that it would go undetected so long and be so common as 1 in 50, seems like a wild guess to me.
    There are so many areas of thought, particularly in relation to facial/pattern recognition and memory that would be heavily impacted.
    It's hard to even grasp, the implications in the use of symbols like written language and the way we remember things.

    Very strange.
    Well I have found dozens upon dozens of people with it so far who had no idea, or, at best, had a vague sense they were different but didn't know exactly why, so I'm not suspicious of the prevalence at all. I had literally no idea people weren't being figurative about visualization and I'm 41. I told me mom about it and she said she is visualizing constantly, and she could hardly believe I can't do this at all, and was even more surprised that I didn't know this was normal. I asked her why in the hell she never mentioned this, and she laughed. She said "why would I tell you about something that is just the normal way people think??" :tired_face: Yeah, well, good question. You wouldn't. And that is why so many aphantasiacs don't know that this is what's going on with people. I thought every single term that refers to this was just metaphorical (in retrospect I realize some things though... I mean, meditation for one. And going to your happy place. And yes, counting sheep. I never understood why in the hell people acted like any of these thing did them any good... Frankly, I thought people who talked about how these things were helpful were perhaps full of shit or overestimating the power of their minds... or maybe that I was just missing something... Haha, turns out that I was!! I just didn't know what until now!).

    Still hoping to find people here with the same condition, besides MarkyMark550, who seems not to care, lol. ;) Sorry MarkyMark550 - I find the knowledge that you aren't blown away by this a little confusing, but hey, obviously people just absorb this discovery in different ways. Most others with aphanasia who I've connected with online have shared my profound amazement.

    For the record, as far as how common this is... I have now asked about 40 people I know in real life about this, and not a single one of them has aphantasia (and every single one of them are confused by the fact that I can't visualize in my mind's eye). So just going off of that, and from reading accounts from many other aphantasic people, yeah, I think 1 in 50 may be a pretty reasonable estimate. I am still really looking forward to finding someone else I know like me. While I'm super interested in all this, I'm actually suddenly feeling a new sensation that can perhaps be described as isolation. I feel I really need to speak with someone who truly understands what I'm going through here.
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  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,663
    I wonder if this is more like a continuum than merely you can or can't picture things in your head?  I can think of things and then see them in my head, mostly still images but to some degree, movement, like maybe a particularly great excerpt from live musical footage or a scene in a movie.  I don't see these things with my eyes (be they open or closed), but I can see them in my head. 

    But some people can see much more.  Temple Grandin, for example, who has a difficult time with abstract subjects, can look at a page in a book about something abstract (say, philosophy) and then walk around all day looking at that page in her head and studying it until it makes more sense. 
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,680
    edited December 2017
    brianlux said:
    I wonder if this is more like a continuum than merely you can or can't picture things in your head?  I can think of things and then see them in my head, mostly still images but to some degree, movement, like maybe a particularly great excerpt from live musical footage or a scene in a movie.  I don't see these things with my eyes (be they open or closed), but I can see them in my head. 

    But some people can see much more.  Temple Grandin, for example, who has a difficult time with abstract subjects, can look at a page in a book about something abstract (say, philosophy) and then walk around all day looking at that page in her head and studying it until it makes more sense. 
    Yes Brian, it comes in degrees. Some, like me, can literally not visualize anything at all. Others report it is more vague, or fuzzy, or even cartoonish in some way, while others say they can visualize everything as clearly as if it were real and in front of them (be it true representation or not - it's not like visualizations are always accurate... clearly they are not, and people's memories are not always accurate), and they are seeing in their mind's eye all the time like a running movie.People like that are classified as "hyperphantasic". Sounds like chadwick may be one of those. My mother is too I think. And yeah, I understand this is not seeing with the eyes. It is seeing in the "mind's eye". I think I only understand the difference because I thankfully still dream visually, so I get the different between seeing with your eyes and seeing in your head.... I just can't see in my head while I'm conscious. It's just blackness. I replace this visualization with language I guess - an inner monologue only, describing everything I guess, and then by just... knowing it without seeing it. I thought this was normal.
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  • markymark550
    markymark550 Columbia, SC Posts: 5,217
    I had never heard of this. Interesting though. I think it applies to me as well. Every time someone says "close your eyes and think of ____" all I see is black (or that reddish hue if you're directly facing a light source). I never see the object, but rather focus on the concept of the object. I had never considered that people can actually "see" images in their mind, but I don't find this to be some profound revelation though. It just is what it is.
    well I don't "see" anything either. as I said to soul, I don't know if I'm understanding this correctly. the image is in my mind, not on the backs of my eyelids. 
    I don't get an image in my mind though. The dark/light through the eyelids just permeates through what I'm guessing is other people's mind eye.

    PJ_Soul said:
    I had never heard of this. Interesting though. I think it applies to me as well. Every time someone says "close your eyes and think of ____" all I see is black (or that reddish hue if you're directly facing a light source). I never see the object, but rather focus on the concept of the object. I had never considered that people can actually "see" images in their mind, but I don't find this to be some profound revelation though. It just is what it is.
    Wow, really? Yeah, I'm finding it to be the most profound discovery of my entire life. It affects absolutely everything about me. How I process info, how I remember things, how I learn, memorize, recognize, read, write, speak, listen... fucking everything. Yes, it is what it is... which is everything! ;)
    Sorry I'm not more excited about it, but I tend to be pretty even keel over most things. Sure it has probably affected those things you mention, but at this point in my life I'm not looking for strategies to learn/memorize for school.
  • brianlux
    brianlux Moving through All Kinds of Terrain. Posts: 43,663
    PJ_Soul said:
    brianlux said:
    I wonder if this is more like a continuum than merely you can or can't picture things in your head?  I can think of things and then see them in my head, mostly still images but to some degree, movement, like maybe a particularly great excerpt from live musical footage or a scene in a movie.  I don't see these things with my eyes (be they open or closed), but I can see them in my head. 

    But some people can see much more.  Temple Grandin, for example, who has a difficult time with abstract subjects, can look at a page in a book about something abstract (say, philosophy) and then walk around all day looking at that page in her head and studying it until it makes more sense. 
    Yes Brian, it comes in degrees. Some, like me, can literally not visualize anything at all. Others report it is more vague, or fuzzy, or even cartoonish in some way, while others say they can visualize everything as clearly as if it were real and in front of them (be it true representation or not - it's not like visualizations are always accurate... clearly they are not, and people's memories are not always accurate), and they are seeing in their mind's eye all the time like a running movie.People like that are classified as "hyperphantasic". Sounds like chadwick may be one of those. My mother is too I think. And yeah, I understand this is not seeing with the eyes. It is seeing in the "mind's eye". I think I only understand the difference because I thankfully still dream visually, so I get the different between seeing with your eyes and seeing in your head.... I just can't see in my head while I'm conscious. It's just blackness. I replace this visualization with language I guess - an inner monologue only, describing everything I guess, and then by just... knowing it without seeing it. I thought this was normal.
    It's a fascinating subject.  Going back to Temple Grandin, she talks about this in her book, Thinking in Pictures.  Some people think in words, some in pictures, some both to a greater or lesser extent.  I think it's cool that we are probably all different that way.  But, as much as I love that movie, I would not want to be like "Being John Malcovich"!
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  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    PJ_Soul said:
    brianlux said:
    I wonder if this is more like a continuum than merely you can or can't picture things in your head?  I can think of things and then see them in my head, mostly still images but to some degree, movement, like maybe a particularly great excerpt from live musical footage or a scene in a movie.  I don't see these things with my eyes (be they open or closed), but I can see them in my head. 

    But some people can see much more.  Temple Grandin, for example, who has a difficult time with abstract subjects, can look at a page in a book about something abstract (say, philosophy) and then walk around all day looking at that page in her head and studying it until it makes more sense. 
    Yes Brian, it comes in degrees. Some, like me, can literally not visualize anything at all. Others report it is more vague, or fuzzy, or even cartoonish in some way, while others say they can visualize everything as clearly as if it were real and in front of them (be it true representation or not - it's not like visualizations are always accurate... clearly they are not, and people's memories are not always accurate), and they are seeing in their mind's eye all the time like a running movie.People like that are classified as "hyperphantasic". Sounds like chadwick may be one of those. My mother is too I think. And yeah, I understand this is not seeing with the eyes. It is seeing in the "mind's eye". I think I only understand the difference because I thankfully still dream visually, so I get the different between seeing with your eyes and seeing in your head.... I just can't see in my head while I'm conscious. It's just blackness. I replace this visualization with language I guess - an inner monologue only, describing everything I guess, and then by just... knowing it without seeing it. I thought this was normal.
    maybe it is normal. maybe no one could really quantify it until now. maybe it's like being blind, where in the absence of one sense,  your other senses are heightened. maybe you are a superhero! (sorry, not trying to make light of it, but it honestly could be more normal than you think, or an evolutionary thing-I think people discount the latter way too often when things like this are discovered). 
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,680
    edited December 2017
    The implications are massive... I mean, shouldn't this concept be considered by educators?? If the vast majority of people visualize to one extent or another, but some don't at all and some do so strongly they're different too, shouldn't learning be designed to accommodate those who aren't in the majority?? Since I work at a university and with instructional designers and those who specialize in educational psychology, this is something that immediately came to their mind when I talked to them about this. And not a single one of them were aware that there are people who can't use their mind's eye.

    Anyway... I'm clearly overwhelmed by all this, but I still keep going back to.... You all can fucking actually SEE shit in your head?!? You actually SEE what you read and shit?! WHAT THE FUCK?!?!?! I am stunned by this fact, and by the fact that I'm just finding this out... Imagine how this one person I talked to on facebook - she is 74 years old and just learned about this.
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  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    god I can't stand one of my coworkers sometimes. Just went to him to ask him how he visualizes things, and he and I are the same, and he went on this rant about how every hypochondriac is now going to take this survey (on BBC's website) and think they have a condition. He thinks we all just perceive things in different ways, and there's no way to quantify it. all by me just telling him about PJSoul's comments. Yeah, because he's cornered the market on brain research. Fuck. 
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,680
    edited December 2017
    PJ_Soul said:
    brianlux said:
    I wonder if this is more like a continuum than merely you can or can't picture things in your head?  I can think of things and then see them in my head, mostly still images but to some degree, movement, like maybe a particularly great excerpt from live musical footage or a scene in a movie.  I don't see these things with my eyes (be they open or closed), but I can see them in my head. 

    But some people can see much more.  Temple Grandin, for example, who has a difficult time with abstract subjects, can look at a page in a book about something abstract (say, philosophy) and then walk around all day looking at that page in her head and studying it until it makes more sense. 
    Yes Brian, it comes in degrees. Some, like me, can literally not visualize anything at all. Others report it is more vague, or fuzzy, or even cartoonish in some way, while others say they can visualize everything as clearly as if it were real and in front of them (be it true representation or not - it's not like visualizations are always accurate... clearly they are not, and people's memories are not always accurate), and they are seeing in their mind's eye all the time like a running movie.People like that are classified as "hyperphantasic". Sounds like chadwick may be one of those. My mother is too I think. And yeah, I understand this is not seeing with the eyes. It is seeing in the "mind's eye". I think I only understand the difference because I thankfully still dream visually, so I get the different between seeing with your eyes and seeing in your head.... I just can't see in my head while I'm conscious. It's just blackness. I replace this visualization with language I guess - an inner monologue only, describing everything I guess, and then by just... knowing it without seeing it. I thought this was normal.
    maybe it is normal. maybe no one could really quantify it until now. maybe it's like being blind, where in the absence of one sense,  your other senses are heightened. maybe you are a superhero! (sorry, not trying to make light of it, but it honestly could be more normal than you think, or an evolutionary thing-I think people discount the latter way too often when things like this are discovered). 
    Well, after speaking with one friend who has his PhD in educational psychology, and yes, he thinks that I've actually been working double-time to compensate for my lack of a mind's eye, and he was nice enough to tell me that he was impressed by how well I've done, considering that I'm basically totally lacking a sense that is connected to memory and deciphering all stimuli. Yes, it is indeed kind of like a blind person adjusting to the lack of vision by sharpening other senses, according to him (and he is fucking brilliant and insightful, so it was really interesting to hear his take). He is the one of the people who suggested this could have real implications in the educational field.
    I am very interested what the cause might be... nobody knows yet. I know I was born like this though. Brain defect?? I'm less and less thinking of this as a disability though. It's just different. But there are differences even between those without a mind's eye, I'm finding, especially when it comes to language and imagination. I brought this up specifically with the Doctor who is leading the research on this, and he told me that this is one of his main focuses too. I am officially a participant in his research now, so I'll definitely be keeping up with whatever is going on with that. :)
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  • HesCalledDyer
    HesCalledDyer Maryland Posts: 16,491
    I dunno, I don't think it means you see the images with your eyes onto the back of your eyelids or whatever object appears in front of you, like you're projecting a hologram in front of yourself.  But that you can think about them and conjure up in your brain what it would look like. 

    Like, when reading a book and the author describes the character's appearance and you can imagine what a little boy with red hair, freckles, a corduroy jacket, and tattered brown shoes looks like.  Like, I can "picture" that boy in my mind right now, and I can "picture" the brown lunch bag he might be carrying in his right hand, and the rock he just kicked with his right foot skipping down the sidewalk.  But I don't see a literal image of him with my actual eyes, I can conjure it up in my mind. 

    I can think of my morning routine and I can envision myself in front of my bathroom sink, with the glass shelf and mirror in front of me, deodorant and medicine bottles, my toothbrush cup to the right, the water spots on the faucet, and my reflection in the mirror as I brush my teeth.  I can imagine myself driving home from work this evening, my right hand on the gear shifter, the Ford logo in the center of the steering wheel, the dials on the dashboard console, and the lines on the road home. I can imagine myself in a baseball uniform hitting a home run and rounding the bases while the crowd cheers me on and low-fiving the third base coach as I head for home, my cleats stepping on the plate before I head back to the dugout - even though that has never happened, I can picture the routine. 

    I don't see any of this with my eyes as if it were right in front of me, or as if my eyelids are a movie screen.  And I don't even have to close my eyes to imagine what those things look like, either.  But I can "see" them subconsciously. Maybe some actually do "see" these things with their eyes as if they're right in front of them, which is probably just a more vivid, advanced version of the perception I'm capable of, and perhaps just as rare as not being able to perceive anything whatsoever.

    Now, when I close my eyes what I literally "see" on the back of my eyelids is just the reddish green fuzziness from having your eyes closed.  But I can still "picture in my mind" all the things I just described.  Maybe I'm totally wrong but, from what I've read, I'm understanding it the same way Hugh is.  And, I, too, have always thought that's what was meant by "visualizing" and "mental pictures."  And that people affected by this can't do the things I described. 
  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,680
    edited December 2017
    Right, I know it doesn't mean you see anything with your actual eyes. It's your mind's eye. I get the concept completely. I understand the difference. I do not see anything with my mind's eye at all. Like when I read about that boy with the freckles, no, I can't picture anything in my mind. It's just blackness in my mind's eye. Blackness I guess is the best way I can describe it. I would say it's nothingness... Maybe more accurate because it doesn't feel like my mind's eye isn't functioning properly. It's like I don't have one at all, and in its place is an internal monologue (not auditory) without picturing a thing. I can't fucking believe that you folks are able to actually picture stuff in your mind, lol.
    One of my colleagues told me to "picture a triangle". Well, I can't. So he asked, well, what are you thinking about?? I just said that I was thinking about a triangle, what do you mean?? He asked me how big is it, and what colour is it? ... I don't fucking know. Whatever size or colour I feel like saying? I'd just be making it up, like just choosing how big it is and what colour it is randomly and just saying that? The question actually feels like a logical absurdity to me. :confused:

    .... This is weird. I am getting the impression it must be pretty hard to understand how my mind is working for those who have a mind's eye. I think I can only better understand what you all mean by having one because I am fortunately still able to dream visually. I can't imagine what it's like for people with aphantasia who can't even dream visually. The mind's eye must be a bigger mystery to them.
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  • rgambs
    rgambs Posts: 13,576
    The question that is interesting to me is how a person would learn to write without visualisation.
    Are you sitting there thinking, OK I need to write an M, so start at bottom, straight up, stop, down and right at less than 45 degrees, stop, up and right, stop, down?

    How do you go about learning a new letter?
    How on Earth could you learn a logographic language like Mandarin?

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  • HughFreakingDillon
    HughFreakingDillon Winnipeg Posts: 39,473
    I'm not at all trying to be argumentative, I'm trying to understand this. I just can't picture (pun NOT intended) not being able to picture something in my mind. the concept doesn't compute. when you say you are thinking of a triangle, what is in your head, exactly?
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  • rgambs
    rgambs Posts: 13,576
    PJ_Soul said:
    Right, I know it doesn't mean you see anything with your actual eyes. It's your mind's eye. I get the concept completely. I understand the difference. I do not see anything with my mind's eye at all. Like when I read about that boy with the freckles, no, I can't picture anything in my mind. It's just blackness in my mind's eye. Blackness I guess is the best way I can describe it. I would say it's nothingness... Maybe more accurate because it doesn't feel like my mind's eye isn't functioning properly. It's like I don't have one at all, and in its place is an internal monologue (not auditory) without picturing a thing. I can't fucking believe that you folks are able to actually picture stuff in your mind, lol.
    One of my colleagues told me to "picture a triangle". Well, I can't. So he asked, well, what are you thinking about?? I just said that I was thinking about a triangle, what do you mean?? He asked me how big is it, and what colour is it? ... I don't fucking know. Whatever size or colour I feel like saying? I'd just be making it up, like just choosing how big it is and what colour it is randomly and just saying that? The question actually feels like a logical absurdity to me. :confused:

    .... This is weird. I am getting the impression it must be pretty hard to understand how my mind is working for those who have a mind's eye. I think I can only better understand what you all mean by having one because I am fortunately still able to dream visually. I can't imagine what it's like for people with aphantasia who can't even dream visually. The mind's eye must be a bigger mystery to them.
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,680
    edited December 2017
    rgambs said:
    The question that is interesting to me is how a person would learn to write without visualisation.
    Are you sitting there thinking, OK I need to write an M, so start at bottom, straight up, stop, down and right at less than 45 degrees, stop, up and right, stop, down?

    How do you go about learning a new letter?
    How on Earth could you learn a logographic language like Mandarin?

    Yes rgambs, you seem to understand exactly, because that is absolutely what the process of writing letters is for me, although it's easy, not as tedious as it looks when it's typed out like that. How do most people do it?? While I get the concept of the mind's eye, I'm not sure I understand how people are translating it in this context I guess. So when you write, you actually picture what the letters look like and then essentially copy it onto the paper????
    How do I learn a new letter or shape? ... I dunno, I just remember and.... then I know it? I'm clearly still struggling to put such things into words. Until 2 days ago, I thought this was the only way it could be done, so I've never thought to try and describe it before.

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  • rgambs
    rgambs Posts: 13,576
    PJ_Soul said:
    rgambs said:
    The question that is interesting to me is how a person would learn to write without visualisation.
    Are you sitting there thinking, OK I need to write an M, so start at bottom, straight up, stop, down and right at less than 45 degrees, stop, up and right, stop, down?

    How do you go about learning a new letter?
    How on Earth could you learn a logographic language like Mandarin?

    Yes rgambs, you seem to understand exactly, because that is absolutely what the process of writing letters is for me, although it's easy, not as tedious as it looks when it's put into words like that. How do most people do it?? While I get the concept of the mind's eye, I'm not sure I understand how people are translating it in this context I guess. So when you write, you actually picture what the letters look like and then essentially copy it onto the paper????
    How do I learn a new letter or shape? ... I dunno, I just remember and.... then I know it? I'm clearly still struggling to put such things into words. Until 2 days ago, I thought this was the only way it could be done, so I've never thought to try and describe it before.

    I/we don't picture the letters explicitly in most cases, rote muscle memory renders that unnecessary, but for more complicated symbols, I would picture the symbol, pick a starting point, and try to recreate it from the image in my head.
    Say I wanted to draw Homer Simpson, I would picture him for as long as it took until I thought I had the image accurate, which may take minutes, and then try to recreate from there. 
    I absolutely do not understand how someone could create realist art and reproduce an image like a cartoon character without visualising it.  Unfathomable to me.
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  • PJ_Soul
    PJ_Soul Vancouver, BC Posts: 50,680
    edited December 2017
    god I can't stand one of my coworkers sometimes. Just went to him to ask him how he visualizes things, and he and I are the same, and he went on this rant about how every hypochondriac is now going to take this survey (on BBC's website) and think they have a condition. He thinks we all just perceive things in different ways, and there's no way to quantify it. all by me just telling him about PJSoul's comments. Yeah, because he's cornered the market on brain research. Fuck. 
    :lol: This is definitely not a case of hypochondria, lol. This is very specific and identifiable thing IMO. I mean, people can either visualize things in their minds to one degree or another, or they can't. Seems pretty black and white to me TBH. I don't think your co-worker has considered the ramifications of the difference between being able to and not being able to though. That part is complicated as fuck I think. I feel like I've barely scratched the surface... the questions rgambs is asking are helpful to me though. Those kinds of things are starting to bring it home a little bit more.
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