My brother died Sunday from suicide; he took comfort in PJ's music in his last days. Thank you.

Sunday night, while in a hotel room in Chicago, between the two Wrigley shows (Monday was set to be my 100th show), my phone rings. My brother was found dead Sunday afternoon. I immediately got online and booked an early Monday flight to Dallas (where I live) and then once I landed I grabbed my things and drove to Memphis (where my family is). After I arrived, I was talking to my mom and she said, "your brother told me, "this isn't gonna happen, but if I die, there's a Pearl Jam song Long Road and I want it played at my funeral."" I was floored.

The next day she asked me if I would find an additional song to play at the funeral. I chose Given to Fly. Once I settled on that, I played it for her and when it hit the chorus she started crying and told me that after my brothers last overdose (sadly, just a week prior to his death - he was on a wait list for a rehab facility), he played GTF for her and told her that while he was in the hospital he played in bed and listened to that song for three or four hours straight through. Once she read the words, she said it made total sense, "a bad time nothing could save him...."

This Saturday, we are not having a sad funeral, but a celebration of a life cut short at 28, of a kid that absent the heroin, was a goddamn good kid. A kid that loved me and that I loved. A kid that shared my love for music. Long Road and Given To Fly will be the soundtrack for that celebration.

Thank you, Pearl Jam, for creating art that he took comfort in during his last days.
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  • camsjam
    camsjam Posts: 375
    Those are two beautiful songs to honor your brother. Given To Fly is a song I love and it has helped me though some sad times. It sounds like your Mom is an aware and understanding lady. I wish you both health and healing. Take care of each other.
  • 23scidoo
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    Thanks for sharing this..be strong you and your mother..
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  • mfc2006
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    Thinking of you & your family...
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  • Sorry for your loss.


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  • pljam
    pljam Posts: 387
    I am a parent mate and my son who is 26 has come through a drug issue he has battled for fourteen months
    As a dad PJ's music was honestly an artery to me through the heartache ,stress ,pain and love
    It is devastating having a loved one fall victim to a dependacy
    I hope you get some peace of heart through PJ's music and through song supply a connection with your brother
    Good luck moving forward to you and your family
    Both LONG ROAD and GIVEN are beautiful powerful songs
    Thanks for sharing a very personal story,I think that's brave
    Take care
  • pdalowsky
    pdalowsky Doncaster,UK Posts: 15,214
    this is so sad to read. sorry man, there are no words really other than that.:(
  • cp3iverson
    cp3iverson Posts: 8,702
    Awful. Very sorry
  • deadendp
    deadendp Northeast Ohio Posts: 10,434
    I am so very sorry for your loss.
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    Oh man..so sorry for your loss.
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  • wwsuicide
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    Prayers to you and your family. Heart breaking.
  • Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Suicide is a tough thing for any of us to understand. One of my young staff (32 y/o) killed himself about a month ago. I knew him for about 4 years and am still struggling about what I must have missed. Wishing you peace throughout these next few days.
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  • pjpitt89
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    Very sorry for your loss
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    sorry for your loss
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  • shetellsherself
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    So sorry. Peace to your brother and to you and your family.
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    Sorry to hear this. Thoughts go out to you and your family.
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  • Sarava
    Sarava Naperville, IL Posts: 2,061
    I'm sorry for your family's loss :(
  • SD48277
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    Heartbreaking. I am so sorry for your loss.
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  • vant0037
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    God bless you and your family. Im very sorry for your loss.
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  • nicknyr15
    nicknyr15 Posts: 9,222
    Awful stuff.... So sorry for your loss.
  • hsohi
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    Amen
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