So I may not have a job after this tour.....

Last-12-Exit said:

I didn't even see where she was taking 8 days off. You probablywont have a job. 8 days is a long time. That's 2 full work weeks where I work. I'm only allowed to take 4 days off at one time. (However, working shift work means that 4 days off is really 12 days..) I'll assume you don't work shift work, but that's still a long time to ask to be off.

CM189191 said:

MayDay10 said:

whofeelslikeadrank said:

Last-12-Exit said:

Last-12-Exit said:

I guess money doesn't mean that much to people that don't make any.

I say that knowing my responsibilities may be different than yours. I have three young children that rely on me making money.

i can't think of a shittier thing a person could say than that. money doesn't mean that much to people who don't make any? i have kids and still make it to see PJ and pay my bills. because i don't make as much money as you do, i'm a second rate citizen?

A little sensitive I think.

What he is saying... to the op. Their situations are different as is yours when you need to provide for kids. Someone skips out on a job who's family depends on for a rock concert really is low class, selfish, and reprehensible. Even Eddie would probably give that person a batch slap.
If someone is single and doesn't give a damn... it's completely different. Only person it affects is themself and maybe parents or friends getting calls for a place to crash or borrow money

This is kind of a f'd up mentality to have. Could you imagine if HR or your boss had that mentality when it comes time to downsize or promote people?

I'm recently engaged and no kids. Although I have no concrete proof: I feel like management constantly plays favorites to people with families. "Because their families depend on them."

So who gets the promotion, who gets downsized, who gets the raise? Who gets asked to put in extra hours? Or pick up the slack because they're not running the kids to soccer or the dentist?

When 'the powers that be' start taking family into account, all of a sudden the person who has the freedom to take a week or two off and go on tour without worrying about those responsibilities gets the short end of the stick.

rgambs said:

hedonist said:

I have to agree with MayDay, especially on the different stages/ages of life.

When I was 22, my uncle offered me the opportunity to travel through Europe for several months. I loved my job but knew I might not have this kind of chance again. My youth made it almost incumbent upon me to accept. Made a point of leaving on good terms - so good in fact that the company offered me a better position upon my return to LA.

Today? Unless there were special circumstances, it'd be beyond irresponsible to quit a great, decent-paying long-term position just to self-indulge. It would be unfair to my husband, to myself, to the life we've built and continue to build.

I understand where you are coming from, and respect your tact, polite and sensitive as always (not everyone in this thread has been) but regarding your last paragraph, I have a question. What if you knew life was going to be short for one of your key players? Wouldn't it change the perspective a huge amount? Is it so crazy that some folks taste death often in life and feel a deep need to enjoy every moment?

Suziemay said:

kc007 said:

tell your boss you'll buy him a poster and a t-shirt

I second this

I know OP and she has her head firmly on her shoulders. Whatever decision she makes will be the right one for her. If anyone noticed, she opened by saying she needed to vent. When I say that to my family, that means I'm not looking for unsolicited opinions, I'm looking for support. Doesn't mean people can't voice their opinions, but I do agree that some of the posts are tinged with judgement and taken very personally. Everyone's different, just because something works for you doesn't mean it works for someone else.

All that being said.. still seing ya in Moline, @Beegirl1980‌?

Beegirl1980 said:

Let me clarify a couple of things:

I realize there will be more concerts. That is not what this is about. It is about the way I was treated by my boss after 6 years of hard work. He went back on his word for no reason, and even after I offered to take leave without pay, work overtime and weekends, or anything else to make it work, he just didn't want to help me out. I know I should have gotten it in writing, but that still doesn't stop him from revoking the permission if he wants to.

I do not depend on anyone, financially or otherwise, nor does anyone depend on me. My decision affects me and me alone. I realize that for those of you who have kids or a spouse, that they would have to be taken into account before making a decision. My situation is different. I have enough money saved to be able to support myself if I am without work for a while. I am independent.
I am also not responsible for my coworkers. I have seen many people come and go in the past 6 years, and as soon as anyone leaves, someone else takes their place. I am not irreplaceable. My coworkers will be fine.

I realize that getting fired over this would look very bad on my resumé. I gave the matter a lot of thought over the past week, and I decided to resign. I simply do not want to work where I am not appreciated. The day after I decided to resign, I received a phone call from somebody who was desperately in need of Dutch speaking personnel, and that just happens to be my native language. It is an awesome job, and it pays more than the one I'm leaving behind. So I guess I will have a job after this tour after all, just not the same one as before

So yes, @suziemay, I will see you in Moline!