So I may not have a job after this tour.....

Hope all works out for you.

When boss mentioned consequences, did you ask what those might entail? Six years is a lot to toss away for some shows (at least it would be for me - mortgage, life, marriage, responsibilities, etc. - though I get priorities are subjective).

Can't remember the last time I took eight days off in a row. A week several years ago took planning and coordination with the folks I work with. Consider yourself fortunate if you're in a different boat. A luxury for sure, and frankly I'm a bit envious.

Good luck!

6 years is a lot to toss away, but it can also be so freeing to do so. Maybe the OP was waiting for a sign? I was in my company for 7 years. I love my job, and still do it, just not as an employed person. 6 years are a lot. They can drag. Bosses can be assholes, and you just put up with it because of the relative safety it gives you. Maybe the OP needs a jump start to enter a new realm of professional opportunities ;;)

Whatever... I hope if she needs her job, she won't lose it.

one more thing to consider too, if she cancelled her trip plans and went to work instead of taking the days off, that sets a precedent. Keep in mind some bosses treat individual employees differently. Personally, I would consider it worth the risk just so that this boss doesn't start to treat her like a doormat.

If boss said okay, then you luck into winning lotto for good tickets, reserve hotel and flight then I see saying "Fuck it I'm going" However, there are weekend shows you could choose to go to.

Your boss sounds like your typical hollow shell and not a leader with conviction. Standard procedure when asked for time off at first is to avoid any discussions on details and take weak exit of saying "shouldn't be a problem". This is where your boss actually gave you a "I don't want to think about now or have to decide now" but for you, you have to make plans, buy tickets etc. when the time comes for you to prepare to go, boss realizes that he pretty much blew you off, did not take 5 minutes to figure out when originally asked, and now tells you that you have to suck it up due to his poor leadership skills. "Consequences" sounds like a veiled threat to me. Trust me when I tell you that you will be much better off in another environment with the chance to work for someone else. If you quit, do it before the show. Don't not go to the show, and then quit a week later due to the fact you've had it, and magnified by feelings of resentment such as "I missed Pearl Jam for this clown show" or something to that effect. If you depart, do it in writing, leave on good terms, with a clear understanding of your message and reason for leaving. Devoted 6 years, asked for time off, had what appeared to be a weak maybe, asked for a means to remedy it, and was offered a threat in return. My policy is, that when a member of my time asks me for time off, than it must be important to them to take the step of asking me, therefore it is incumbent on me as a leader to put the same amount of importance in the consideration. Your "boss" is a $hitty leader. Hang in there and follow your heart and confidence in yourself to land on your feet.

Hope it helps.

rustneversleeps said:

go to the shows, we have our whole lives to work for someone. live while you can

If you have no money because you no job, how are you supposed to live?????

PJ_Soul said:

If you asked for specific days and then they changed their minds, that's bullshit. If you didn't request specific days until it was too late, well, they're not too out of line.

Exactly. People are being so judgy without knowing the facts.

Only the OP knows what's best for her. Like in my case - I work in a dying industry (printing), and it would be a bad thing to blow off a job with one of the few good places left for me to work. But for some other people...they might work in a better industry with more jobs, or a city with less unemployment, etc. Good luck to the OP.