Ever feel like the Tag-Along Friend?

Jeanwah wrote:

stargirl69 wrote:

I know me very well,I learned to love me,no longer vicariously through others (mostly relationships)

I have always revelled in never being in the clique,made it into an art form in my day to day life

There can be loneliness,but I always found it to be worse when surrounded by others.

We are always alone,we arrive alone and we leave alone

I do know me and I like the knowledge I have of me

I identify with this. There's a comfort with knowing who you are and being happy enough with yourself to choose to be alone rather than in bad company.

This may not be the thread to explain the pain of the loneliness of living in a hospital after an accident for months, but you know what? You really learn not only who you are from that loneliness but who your real friends are. I've let go of some friendships when these "friends" had proved to me that I was no more of an option to them when I considered them priorities.

You definitely learn who is good to have in your life when you face adversity of a kind such as you describe Jeanwah.I learned that when my mental health was at it's poorest,people get scared and they run from something that forces them to consider their own vulnerabilities.

I have walked away from friendships that were false,they wanted me around for my generosity,to get what they could get from me,to keep secrets for them that should never have been made,to encourage me to be mean spirited and judgemental ... The strength of walking away was surmountable.I no longer invite or allow drama or emotional vampires into my life.

I have developed skills to separate the chaff from the wheat.