Aidan McCormick Shane, 3/22/08-10/2/10
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Three weeks ago, my wife and I got news that no parent should ever receive - our 2.5 year old son Aidan passed away unexpectedly in his sleep while we were away at a friend's wedding and he was staying with my parents at our home in San Francisco.
Aidan was, and remains, the light of our lives. He was a vibrant little guy with big blue eyes, a beautiful smile, and an infectious laugh. He loved playing and watching (SF Giants) baseball, playing with his cars and trains, and - most of all - listening to music with his mom and dad. From an early age, he listened to all of my favorite musicians, because I was definitely not the Raffi type. He loved Pearl Jam, the Black Keys, the Beatles, the Clash, and the Talking Heads, to name just a few. At night, instead of traditional lullabies, he had me sing him Given To Fly, Angel, Hunger Strike, Elderly Woman, Daughter, and Trouble, amongst others.
Shortly after he passed away, I got his initials tattooed on the inside of my wrist and, thanks to mfc2006, got the 5 birds tattooed on my right shoulder blade (which you can see here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/38006332@N07/5107990949/). I've gotten a lot of strength from Pearl Jam songs and lyrics, including Given To Fly, which I played at maximum volume at Aidan's memorial service. Recently, my wife has been playing Just Breathe on constant rotation.
I'm not sure why I'm writing this post, other than to communicate a very public thank you to the band for a number of reasons. First, your incredible music provided a great way for my son and I to connect during his short time on earth. Second, your music has provided me with great strength through this terrible ordeal. Long Road, Yellow Ledbetter, Given To Fly, the cover of I Won't Back Down - too many songs to list, but they have all provided for a number of very cathartic moments in the last few weeks.
My wife and I will be in the crowd at tonight's Bridge School show. Before he died, we were considering bringing Aidan to the show. Unfortunately, he can't be there physically, but I know that he will be there in spirit, and I hope to hear one or more of his favorites songs on the setlist.
Finally, here's a pic of our little man: http://www.flickr.com/photos/38006332@N07/5108001003/
And here's a link to his obituary: http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/sfgate/obituary.aspx?n=aidan-shane&pid=145808851
Take care, all of you in this wonderful community, from the band members to the Ten Club staff and each and every fan out there. If you have kids, give 'em a hug and never take any time you have with them for granted.
-Jason
Aidan was, and remains, the light of our lives. He was a vibrant little guy with big blue eyes, a beautiful smile, and an infectious laugh. He loved playing and watching (SF Giants) baseball, playing with his cars and trains, and - most of all - listening to music with his mom and dad. From an early age, he listened to all of my favorite musicians, because I was definitely not the Raffi type. He loved Pearl Jam, the Black Keys, the Beatles, the Clash, and the Talking Heads, to name just a few. At night, instead of traditional lullabies, he had me sing him Given To Fly, Angel, Hunger Strike, Elderly Woman, Daughter, and Trouble, amongst others.
Shortly after he passed away, I got his initials tattooed on the inside of my wrist and, thanks to mfc2006, got the 5 birds tattooed on my right shoulder blade (which you can see here: http://www.flickr.com/photos/38006332@N07/5107990949/). I've gotten a lot of strength from Pearl Jam songs and lyrics, including Given To Fly, which I played at maximum volume at Aidan's memorial service. Recently, my wife has been playing Just Breathe on constant rotation.
I'm not sure why I'm writing this post, other than to communicate a very public thank you to the band for a number of reasons. First, your incredible music provided a great way for my son and I to connect during his short time on earth. Second, your music has provided me with great strength through this terrible ordeal. Long Road, Yellow Ledbetter, Given To Fly, the cover of I Won't Back Down - too many songs to list, but they have all provided for a number of very cathartic moments in the last few weeks.
My wife and I will be in the crowd at tonight's Bridge School show. Before he died, we were considering bringing Aidan to the show. Unfortunately, he can't be there physically, but I know that he will be there in spirit, and I hope to hear one or more of his favorites songs on the setlist.
Finally, here's a pic of our little man: http://www.flickr.com/photos/38006332@N07/5108001003/
And here's a link to his obituary: http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/sfgate/obituary.aspx?n=aidan-shane&pid=145808851
Take care, all of you in this wonderful community, from the band members to the Ten Club staff and each and every fan out there. If you have kids, give 'em a hug and never take any time you have with them for granted.
-Jason
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you & your family will be in my thoughts & prayers. so sorry to hear about your loss. take care & know that your son will always be with you.
Matt
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I wanna race..with the sundown..I want a last breath..I don't let out...
I hope the show carries you where you need to go.
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I am so sorry for your loss. As a parent myself of two beautiful children, I can't imagine what you are going through right now. You and your wife are definitely in my thoughts and prayers. Take Care.
Dan
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Your little boy will always be with you xx
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Im so sorry to hear that :( . My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family, and may Aidans soul rest in the skies.
And he still gives his love, he just gives it away
The love he receives is the love that is saved
And sometimes is seen a strange spot in the sky
A human being that was given to fly
High.. flying
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As a father of a 3 year old girl and a 7 year old boy, I can't imagine going through what you have experienced.
To have had 2.5 years with such a beautiful little man makes you fortunate. I will be thinking of you, your family and Aiden tonight at the show.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3G-qAKmACDE
so in honour of the song and your son
I know it's already been sung,... can't be said enough.
Love is all you need,.. all you need is love,..
Love,.. love,...
Love.
My heart aches for your unthinkable loss. I have a son that is the same age so it really hits home. I can't even begin to imagine what you and your wife must be going through. Thoughts and prayers are with you and just remember to celebrate the joy he brought you. He will be in your hearts forever more.
Peace and love,
Marc
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But hang in there, you and your wife. You're in my prayers. Hope Bridge School is a wonderful experience for you both.
No time to be void, or save up on life, you've got to spend it all
-dave
Thank you so much for sharing, Being a father of two, makes my heart bleed for you and your wife. There is no way I can imagine the loss and pain that you are feeling. Reading your post, and especially seeing the picture of your son that you posted brought tears to my eyes. My thoughts and prayers are with you
Edit: Just read the obit, now I'm full on sobbing, bless you guys. Even before I read it, that line from Given to Fly came to my mind, Aiden is flying!!!
fade away...
I am at peace with my lust.....for Eddie.
thoughts are with you and your wife
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blessed he had a wonderful and loving family
"Forgive every being,
the bad feelings
it's just me"
I also wanted to post a video I made with some photos of Aidan and a soundtrack I figured you would all enjoy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3AtxC8CE9B4.
Thank you all again.
Amazing video of your son, Jason. You guys will remain in our thoughts & prayers.
Take care, my friend.
Matt
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you couldn't keep him here
this grief is overwhelming
and i am so very sorry
"what a long, strange trip it's been"
i was also born on march 22 ... i will always think of your son on that day... as i'm sure you will
We were but stones, your light made us stars
I am so sorry to hear about you and your wife losing Aidan. I share a birthday with him (3/22....not that that's very relevant). As a father of three I have a hard time imagining what you've been dealing with the past couple of months. I saw the pics of your little man and got tears in my eyes thinking about how unfair it seems....not just for you but for him too. My wife and I got the stunning news this weekend that some good friends lost their 9 month old daughter on Saturday morning the same way Aidan died. I tell you that so you know that you're not alone. We had some friends lose their child a few years ago and upon learning about the tragedy this weekend my wife was recounting how the couple found solace in rejoicing in the good times they had with their child however brief they were. Words fall flat but please know my heart aches for you and my prayers go out to you and your family.
Much love,
David