PJ Therapy

MR37543
MR37543 Posts: 46
edited November 2009 in The Porch
wow, I haven't publicly bared my soul in a while but sometimes, you just need the online therapy. ;)

My dad died on November 11 when I was ten, almost three months after Ten was released. I clung to that album like a security blanket - its anger, softness and pain. "Release" was well, to my ten year old heart, about me. It seems like every other song they write could be about my dad - "Off He Goes," "Light Years," "Just Breathe."

I'm grateful for Pearl Jam everyday, but I'm always grateful on November 11 because that's when I knew they had changed my life forever.

Positive happy vibes to all!

xo
"I know that I was born and I know that I'll die. The in between is mine. I am mine."
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  • philthehip
    philthehip Posts: 2,084
    Im the same there. I was not 10 when my Dad died but I was 10 when Ten came out. I have loved that album and this band for a long time, they got me through the pain of losing him. I think PJ fans are tougher than most. We have an extra backbone :-) as sung by Eddie and the gang
  • MR37543
    MR37543 Posts: 46
    philthehip wrote:
    Im the same there. I was not 10 when my Dad died but I was 10 when Ten came out. I have loved that album and this band for a long time, they got me through the pain of losing him. I think PJ fans are tougher than most. We have an extra backbone :-) as sung by Eddie and the gang


    I'm sorry to hear about your dad. We do have an extra backbone that's for sure! On a side note, I've often wondered how many PJ fans were 10 when Ten came out. Plenty I'm sure.
    "I know that I was born and I know that I'll die. The in between is mine. I am mine."
  • philthehip
    philthehip Posts: 2,084
    MR37543 wrote:
    philthehip wrote:
    Im the same there. I was not 10 when my Dad died but I was 10 when Ten came out. I have loved that album and this band for a long time, they got me through the pain of losing him. I think PJ fans are tougher than most. We have an extra backbone :-) as sung by Eddie and the gang


    I'm sorry to hear about your dad. We do have an extra backbone that's for sure! On a side note, I've often wondered how many PJ fans were 10 when Ten came out. Plenty I'm sure.

    Well as Im the only PJ fan I know (how sad is that) 100% were 10 when it came out. We are a good age :-)
  • philthehip
    philthehip Posts: 2,084
    He was a magical guy. Greatly missed but never really gone. They live on in us their chrildren
  • guacamolejoe
    guacamolejoe Posts: 2,396
    philthehip wrote:
    He was a magical guy. Greatly missed but never really gone. They live on in us their chrildren

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  • philthehip
    philthehip Posts: 2,084
    guacamolejoe wrote:
    philthehip wrote:
    He was a magical guy. Greatly missed but never really gone. They live on in us their chrildren

    "Like You Somehow"

    :)
  • PureandEasy
    PureandEasy Posts: 5,818
    this post brought tears to my eyes. Losing a parent when you're that young has got to be that much more difficult.
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  • philthehip
    philthehip Posts: 2,084
    PureandEasy wrote:
    this post brought tears to my eyes. Losing a parent when you're that young has got to be that much more difficult.

    The OP was very young, I was 19 so was able to process it as an adult, I cant imagine how hard it would be for a child. And now Im getting teary so gotta talk about something else lol.

    Just listened to the UK boots, SBE, MEN then O2. Awsome, Cant wait for the next chapter :D
  • MR37543
    MR37543 Posts: 46
    philthehip wrote:
    guacamolejoe wrote:
    philthehip wrote:
    He was a magical guy. Greatly missed but never really gone. They live on in us their chrildren

    "Like You Somehow"

    :)

    :)
    "I know that I was born and I know that I'll die. The in between is mine. I am mine."
  • Bathgate66
    Bathgate66 Posts: 15,813
    sticking to the thread title
    and not so much the subject matter about losing someone close to you,
    ( condolences to everyone )

    but PJ is theraputic for me in that I often listen while I am sitting in the chair for dialysis,

    i have a few boots downloaded onto my laptop so i just open them up and away we go for a few hours while im treating my body for the neccesary 3 and a half hours a day in the chair.

    They let the time go by quickly and relaxes me at the same time.

    Thanks PJ .
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  • youngster
    youngster Boston Posts: 6,576
    edited November 2009
    I lost my mom when I was 5 in 1987 and when I finally came into my own musically, it was with Pearl Jam. As a 10 year old I always associated Black with my mom. Especially the end:

    I know someday you'll have a beautiful life
    I hope you'll be a star
    In somebody else's sky
    But why, why, why, can't it be
    Can't it be mine?

    Music is all about how we interperet it. It doesn't have to be about a certain something. But if we take it that way and it gives meaning, comfort or whatever, then that is all that matters.
    Post edited by youngster on
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  • philthehip
    philthehip Posts: 2,084
    I really do love this site and its people. I hope the band have pride outside of the music for such a kind, caring and genorous community that lets face it, without them would notr be here
  • MR37543
    MR37543 Posts: 46
    philthehip wrote:
    PureandEasy wrote:
    this post brought tears to my eyes. Losing a parent when you're that young has got to be that much more difficult.

    The OP was very young, I was 19 so was able to process it as an adult, I cant imagine how hard it would be for a child. And now Im getting teary so gotta talk about something else lol.

    Just listened to the UK boots, SBE, MEN then O2. Awsome, Cant wait for the next chapter :D


    Yeah, it's been 18 years, some Novembers are better than others. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make anyone teary! I think the difficulty in losing a parent so young is that as an adult you know what grief means and can prepare (somewhat) for your loss. Concepts like grief don't come easy to young children. That said, no age is a good age to lose anyone you love. It's difficult no matter who you are.
    "I know that I was born and I know that I'll die. The in between is mine. I am mine."
  • philthehip
    philthehip Posts: 2,084
    MR37543 wrote:
    philthehip wrote:
    PureandEasy wrote:
    this post brought tears to my eyes. Losing a parent when you're that young has got to be that much more difficult.

    The OP was very young, I was 19 so was able to process it as an adult, I cant imagine how hard it would be for a child. And now Im getting teary so gotta talk about something else lol.

    Just listened to the UK boots, SBE, MEN then O2. Awsome, Cant wait for the next chapter :D


    Yeah, it's been 18 years, some Novembers are better than others. I'm sorry, I didn't mean to make anyone teary! I think the difficulty in losing a parent so young is that as an adult you know what grief means and can prepare (somewhat) for your loss. Concepts like grief don't come easy to young children. That said, no age is a good age to lose anyone you love. It's difficult no matter who you are.

    Dont be sorry, I have not cried for him in a long while now. The 2 empty wine bottles are helping too :lol:
  • Lone Wolf
    Lone Wolf Posts: 1,023
    MR37543 wrote:
    wow, I haven't publicly bared my soul in a while but sometimes, you just need the online therapy. ;)

    My dad died on November 11 when I was ten, almost three months after Ten was released. I clung to that album like a security blanket - its anger, softness and pain. "Release" was well, to my ten year old heart, about me. It seems like every other song they write could be about my dad - "Off He Goes," "Light Years," "Just Breathe."

    I'm grateful for Pearl Jam everyday, but I'm always grateful on November 11 because that's when I knew they had changed my life forever.

    Positive happy vibes to all!

    xo


    Sorry to hear about your loss...
    I lost my dad when I was 26 which makes it easier to deal with compared to being a ten year old.

    Pearl Jam have always enlightened me since I really got into them in ´94.
    They are truly an amazing band....

    Thanks for sharing!
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    Dream the dreams of others then,... You will be no ones rival,...
  • MR37543
    MR37543 Posts: 46
    Bathgate66 wrote:
    sticking to the thread title
    and not so much the subject matter about losing someone close to you,
    ( condolences to everyone )

    but PJ is theraputic for me in that I often listen while I am sitting in the chair for dialysis,

    i have a few boots downloaded onto my laptop so i just open them up and away we go for a few hours while im treating my body for the neccesary 3 and a half hours a day in the chair.

    They let the time go by quickly and relaxes me at the same time.

    Thanks PJ .

    The healing power of music is wonderful. No doubt you're improving because your mind and heart are comforted. I'll keep you in my daily thoughts.
    "I know that I was born and I know that I'll die. The in between is mine. I am mine."
  • MR37543
    MR37543 Posts: 46
    cropduster82 wrote:
    I lost my mom when I was 5 in 1987 and when I finally came into my own musically, it was with Pearl Jam. As a 10 year old I always associated Black with my mom. Especially the end:

    I know someday you'll have a beautiful life
    I hope you'll be a star
    In somebody else's sky
    But why, why, why, can't it be
    Can't it be mine?

    Music is all about how we interperet it. It doesn't have to be about a certain something. But if we take it that way and it gives meaning, comfort or whatever, then that is all that matters.

    I'm so sorry about your mom. Thank you for sharing, much appreciated.
    "I know that I was born and I know that I'll die. The in between is mine. I am mine."
  • Evergreen
    Evergreen Posts: 492
    MR37543 wrote:
    wow, I haven't publicly bared my soul in a while but sometimes, you just need the online therapy. ;)

    My dad died on November 11 when I was ten, almost three months after Ten was released. I clung to that album like a security blanket - its anger, softness and pain. "Release" was well, to my ten year old heart, about me. It seems like every other song they write could be about my dad - "Off He Goes," "Light Years," "Just Breathe."

    I'm grateful for Pearl Jam everyday, but I'm always grateful on November 11 because that's when I knew they had changed my life forever.

    Positive happy vibes to all!

    xo


    Positive and happy vibes back! *hugs*

    I can not even go here...Pearl Jam has been so much more than therapy for me. They have been the soundtrack to my life, every single defining moment. They have been my constant companion for 18 years. They have the ability to tap into the mysterious, deep well of my emotions and they have lyrically helped me out of some very dark places and have helped me fight to get me back again.
  • philthehip
    philthehip Posts: 2,084
    Evergreen wrote:
    MR37543 wrote:
    wow, I haven't publicly bared my soul in a while but sometimes, you just need the online therapy. ;)

    My dad died on November 11 when I was ten, almost three months after Ten was released. I clung to that album like a security blanket - its anger, softness and pain. "Release" was well, to my ten year old heart, about me. It seems like every other song they write could be about my dad - "Off He Goes," "Light Years," "Just Breathe."

    I'm grateful for Pearl Jam everyday, but I'm always grateful on November 11 because that's when I knew they had changed my life forever.

    Positive happy vibes to all!

    xo


    Positive and happy vibes back! *hugs*

    I can not even go here...Pearl Jam has been so much more than therapy for me. They have been the soundtrack to my life, every single defining moment. They have been my constant companion for 18 years. They have the ability to tap into the mysterious, deep well of my emotions and they have lyrically helped me out of some very dark places and have helped me fight to get me back again.

    I really need to put some different music on, I have listened to PJ all day :D
  • philthehip
    philthehip Posts: 2,084
    I dont know why I quoted you in there :lol:

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