My buddy got a boxing glove and I am bitter
I don't really know my intent on this post.It's maybe just to vent or have someone help me rationalize or feel better about the situation.Though most likely some will just call me a selfish ahole.Well here goes.Me and my closest friend attended the last show saturday night in my 9th row lotto seats. My friend was lucky enough to get his paws on one of the rocky gloves at the beginning of the show.He was involved in a slight tugging match,nothing too bad though and I was watching closely to try and make sure he nor the loser in this tug of war were getting overly aggressive.My buddy is a pretty big guy though and the other dude really had no shot.The jealousy immediately set in.I guess Im being childish in the situation but I just feel like I deserved it more than he did,and thought maybe he would even give it to me.Actually, I guess that thought never crossed his mind.My reasoning while probably weak is this:Pearl Jam has been my favorite band since Jeremy hit the radio way back when,Im sure like many of you that read this.I have bought every album the first day of release and own every major release they have out.I dont really have the money that some of the fans on here seem to have but I see them whenever it is possible.Im originally from baltimore and have seen every show in md or surrounding states since I was old enough to get myself there.I guess all Im trying to say is that I have supported this band since day one and frankly, they are a pretty big part of my life.So much so that this same friend just two years ago ridiculed me about it.Well I have since converted him and he too now loves the band .I dont think nearly on the same level as I do though.This was his second show.SECOND SHOW!!!All of the pearl jam he owns has came from me,other than Backspacer,which I urged him to buy.I just thought maybe that would possibly weigh in on the decision.I felt that knowing it would mean alot more to me than it does to him that maybe he would find it in his heart to hook up his best friend.I just can't get this off of my mind.Alright let me have it.Im a selfish ahole and I need to forget about it right?
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or just get over it and move on, not that big of a deal.. it was a glove he wore for 2 seconds. Its really meaningless.
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Did he say what he's going to do with it?? Does collect posters memrobiella etc?
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PJ20 Alpine '11 (x2)
Leeds '14
If it makes you feel any better, you've gotten to feel Pearl Jam's "punch" (sorry!) for 18 years, so you come out way ahead of your newbie friend!
Problem solved... everyone is happy.
Hail, Hail!!!
Besides, it really is not that big a deal, there will be many more shows and plenty other opportunities for you to catch some of the random crap they throw at us! cheer up, it's not worth the heartache
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I scored a setlist at a concert for another band a few years ago. I was totally excited, but realized the person next to me came all the way to LA from Sweden for the show. I gave it to her. Not to be all about the glory of "me", but sometimes it just feels like karma to see that someone might have deserved (for lack of a better word) it more than I did. I feel better about myself for having done that and I now have a friend in Sweden.
Another fan on the other side of me saw what had happened, and gave me a pic they had acquired that same night. What comes around, goes around.
Be happy for him. We'd all probably feel a little bummed, but be happy HE got it versus anyone else in the venue. Tell him "if you for any reason decide not to keep it, I'd love to have it".
He caught it fair-and-square.
Be happy for him. You wouldn't want him to be jealous of you if you caught it, right?
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I would've given it to the swedish chick too
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Belfast '10
PJ20 Alpine '11 (x2)
Leeds '14
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(PS: If I had that boxing glove I'd knock myself out for reading this thread)
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That's awesome! When it comes down to it, these "things" that we think are so meaningful, really aren't. It's the experiences of being at these shows, and how they make us feel is much more important than a "souvenir". They're only things. They can get lost, stolen or destroyed and it messes with our perspective. But no one can ever mess with our experiences or memories of incredible times.
I was in front Wed but didn't get a pic, instead I enjoyed watching people dive bomb the floor frantically trying for one. I looked up and smiled at Mike and he was smiling back. That's more of a treasure for me than any pic would be. I guess I'm just trying to put things in perspective, here.
Just kidding though. I can understand how you feel, however it will pass. Like someone else said, it will make for great stories. And even though you didn't get the glove yourself, it still happened the the collective you... you and your friend. You don't have the glove, but the story is just as much yours.
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agreed. I can understand feeling bummed about it though. it's okay though.
I would stress to him that if he ever decides to get rid of it to let you have first shot at it though.
good luck.
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to not question your government is unpatriotic."
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BINGO.
Couldn't have said it better myself. Sorry buddy, but 'tis the truth.
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