Rounding third and heading for home.

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  • patrickredeyes
    patrickredeyes Posts: 8,834
    Heatherj43 wrote:
    patrickredeyes wrote:
    PureandEasy wrote:
    Really, why? Is he not doing well?

    I don't know where to begin to explain.

    It's just alot harder then it seemed it was gonna be. His walking should be alot better and it's not. It's gonna take some time but I hope it gets better. Not just for him but for my family also. I worry about my mother cause she has been threw alot and has had to make alot of decisions. He is listed as home bound so the PT and OT nurses have been over. That's just a little sample of what its like. IMO he is not ready to be home alone. Were all taking turns helping out. God I don't want him to fall and break a hip or something. But today its been a ok day. :) Hanging in there. :)
    Both of my parents have OT, PT, and a regular nurse come to their home about 3 times a week. We, the family, tried to take care of them on our own and it was too much for us and a dissservice to them.
    My nephew, age 38, stays with them now, but he's very irresponsible, but at least they are not alone. They refuse to move from their home to any of ours.
    I pray you have the strength to continue. Take care of yourself as much as you can or you are of no use to them. If you have to sllep, then sleep. Let someone else take over.
    We never got a ramp on the house, so its a big ordeal to get them out for doctor appointments. Thatr's where the nurses benefit us so much. It decreases the times we may have to had taken them out.
    Good luck to you.


    This week we started with all the OT and PT stuff. He had speech and swallow but he's coming along well in that area so he doesn't need it right now. I don't know all the details but my father has 45 visits in a year with all of the nurses and stuff. We have to pick and choose in what areas he needs the most. I see how its all a game and stuff. Each nurse telling us different info on certain stuff. It's gets to be too much. And now its too much daily. It's nice that they do come to the house. Just something new we have to get used too. Since October its been something new almost daily.

    I'm really not worried about me but I do have moments. I'm more concerned about my mother. She has the shortest fuse I've ever seen now. I understand why she feels how she feels. But even myself or my sisters have to tell her to leave the room sometimes. She jokes she's on borrowed time. Meaning she has been alive 2 more years longer then any other woman on her side of the family. I hate when she starts talking about it.
    I know all of this is way to much and I wish it would ease up for her. We get our rest when we can. Thanks for your thoughts. :)
  • florence151
    florence151 Posts: 597
    Hope you and your family get some relief.
    Be well.
    Hold On
  • stuckinline
    stuckinline Posts: 3,407
    patrick, can someone take your mom out of the house for a few hours? take her to do something SHE enjoys, get her hair cut, a manicure, a massage, out to lunch, etc. she needs some time just for herself. she will probably refuse to go and/or feel guilty about leaving your dad, but she needs a break. can you arrange to have someone stay with your dad while she's gone?

    good luck!
  • patrickredeyes
    patrickredeyes Posts: 8,834
    stuckinline wrote:
    patrick, can someone take your mom out of the house for a few hours? take her to do something SHE enjoys, get her hair cut, a manicure, a massage, out to lunch, etc. she needs some time just for herself. she will probably refuse to go and/or feel guilty about leaving your dad, but she needs a break. can you arrange to have someone stay with your dad while she's gone?

    good luck!


    Oh she gets out. I think today she did go out this morning and get her haircut. Next week she has work to go back too. My sisters do get her out but they do separate things together alot of the time. My two sisters do not get along at all. And that's a whole other chapter in this ordeal.
    My mother is the oldest of four kids and has always taken care of everybody and everything. As a kid she went to school and came home and worked the family bar. lol She's a tough lady who doesn't take any shit. She does have a few close friend's and family that get threw to her. They also take her out and do things with her. Help take her mind off this all. Thanks for the advice from and you and everybody. :)
  • patrickredeyes
    patrickredeyes Posts: 8,834
    Ahh between the OT ad PT nurses coming over. This week has been crazy. And it's only Wednesday. But it's better then having to take him out and go see them. It's nice that they come to the house. I just wish they all shared their notes together. Had to explain twice today the whole line of events that took place that got my pops to where he is at now. And now it seems the prostate surgery didn't fix the problem. Just fucking great. :evil:
  • Heatherj43
    Heatherj43 Posts: 1,254
    Yeah, we had those kind of issues with the nurses. I hate when they each have different opinions and act like they know it all. Usually I just take what I need to know and forget what doesn't apply. It does get easier with time. Once a regular schedule gets fixed all this will become "normal". My father has been having temper tantrums lately and refusing care. We are all learning to let go. He is 91 and it is his life. I am always trying to tell my sisters that we don't have much time left with him and it would be a shame to spend it fighting with him. I have had to learn to pick my battles and let go of so much. There is only so much control we have, you know. I often am so thankful I am not an only child. They have older grandchildren too. That helps out a lot, 'cuz their relationship with the grandchildren was so much different than with their children. The grandkids have more patience!
    It seems, at last, that each of us has found our own place in their care. We each can handle different areas in different ways. So, we do what suits each of us best. Like, I would never want to clip my dads toe nails, eeww!!! My nephew has no problem with it.
    I honestly hope your dad gets through this, as well as your mom and the rest of the family. Its tough and I know it.
    patrickredeyes wrote:
    Ahh between the OT ad PT nurses coming over. This week has been crazy. And it's only Wednesday. But it's better then having to take him out and go see them. It's nice that they come to the house. I just wish they all shared their notes together. Had to explain twice today the whole line of events that took place that got my pops to where he is at now. And now it seems the prostate surgery didn't fix the problem. Just fucking great. :evil:
    Save room for dessert!

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