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  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,607
    saveuplife wrote:
    I never committed to anything.

    He asked me earlier in the day (around 3 via email) and I "may" be able to swing by, I got to check with the wife. I don't get done work until 5, so I couldn't check with her until after. I got home at 5:30 and a text from him was waiting. I spoke with my wife and texted back at 6'ish.

    Why would I apologize? What exactly did I do wrong?
    NOTHING you did wrong.
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  • polaris
    polaris Posts: 3,527
    haha ... you're friend is just whiny ... there is way too much stuff to worry about in the world than pettiness like this ...

    ps ... i'm guessing your other invitees aren't coming cuz you voted for mccain ... :p
  • saveuplife
    saveuplife Posts: 1,173
    polaris wrote:
    haha ... you're friend is just whiny ... there is way too much stuff to worry about in the world than pettiness like this ...

    ps ... i'm guessing your other invitees aren't coming cuz you voted for mccain ... :p


    No worries, I'm having an Obama Inauguration Party too. ;)

    The thing is, it's December 1st and I've got 10 people (plus guests) coming out of a little over 40 invites. Only two said they can't come, the rest just have yet to respond, which I can understand due to the fact that the party's almost a month away. By the way, that Evite thing is a major pain in the butt.

    My friend's just being an ahole. But, I've got to give him credit, he clearly knows how to ruffle my feathers.
  • Indian Summer
    Indian Summer Posts: 2,296
    Your friend is a whiner. You did nothing wrong. One day he'll learn that bar hopping sucks when you're not looking for ass, and that's it cheaper to stay home and drink from your own bar.
    "It's all happening"
  • JPR
    JPR Posts: 20
    saveuplife wrote:
    As I get older, it's hard to keep up with my friends as much as I use to. Particularly, the one's that are not married are harder to keep in touch with. But, I really try hard to.

    Anyway, over Thanksgiving one of my friends wanted to go out Thanksgiving Eve. My wife wanted no part because she wanted to cook our turkey dinner (we were going to our parents the following day). So, I text him around dinner time and let him know I wasn't going to go. He got all pissed at me.

    Anyway, today, he emailed me (and a group of my friends) asking what's up with my Christmas party (only about 10 out of 40 invites have committed)? Basically he was trying to put the party down. The party's not for another 3 to 4 weeks. I know he did it because he's still angry at me.

    Why do people do this sort of shit? I mean, if my wife didn't want to cook so bad I would have gone out, but she did. I am married. I can't go out independently as frequently like I use to. It really bothers me when friends do this shit. I guess I feel like I'm not a good friend. But, if I went, I'd feel like I wasn't a good husband. It's lose-lose situation. UGH.


    Here's the deal...

    In his eyes, your wife clearly made the decision for you and he thinks you don't have a sack. He wanted you to go to your wife and tell her you were going out with him instead of you asking her for permission to go out.
  • Jearlpam0925
    Jearlpam0925 Deep South Philly Posts: 17,550
    saveuplife wrote:
    No worries, I'm having an Obama Inauguration Party too. ;)

    The thing is, it's December 1st and I've got 10 people (plus guests) coming out of a little over 40 invites. Only two said they can't come, the rest just have yet to respond, which I can understand due to the fact that the party's almost a month away. By the way, that Evite thing is a major pain in the butt.

    My friend's just being an ahole. But, I've got to give him credit, he clearly knows how to ruffle my feathers.

    Evites are the worst!! We're having a X-mas party on the 20th and I just decided to BCC everyone instead of go the evite route. If I put everyone on the email without BCC'ing, it would've turned into a cluster fuck chain email that would never end about how people stink like ass and the such. Annnnd if I did an evite, only 5 of the possible 75 people would respond while the other 70 would just look at it. One of my biggest peeves is seeing at the bottom of all the names phrases like "Viewed on 11/28" - oh really?!?!? RESPOND YOU DICK!!
  • saveuplife
    saveuplife Posts: 1,173
    Jearlpam0925 wrote:
    Evites are the worst!! We're having a X-mas party on the 20th and I just decided to BCC everyone instead of go the evite route. If I put everyone on the email without BCC'ing, it would've turned into a cluster fuck chain email that would never end about how people stink like ass and the such. Annnnd if I did an evite, only 5 of the possible 75 people would respond while the other 70 would just look at it. One of my biggest peeves is seeing at the bottom of all the names phrases like "Viewed on 11/28" - oh really?!?!? RESPOND YOU DICK!!


    Dude, you are dead on. This guy I'm talking about in this thread, has checked it atleast as often as me and I'm the one throwin the thing. That and the fact that half the people don't get the evite because it goes to junk or spam.

    I hate Evites and I'll never use them again (and this is my first time). People don't want to be the first to respond. Once the ball starts rolling people are cool with it, but your blind Cc idea is much better, and probably would get a bigger crowd.
  • Jearlpam0925
    Jearlpam0925 Deep South Philly Posts: 17,550
    saveuplife wrote:
    Dude, you are dead on. This guy I'm talking about in this thread, has checked it atleast as often as me and I'm the one throwin the thing. That and the fact that half the people don't get the evite because it goes to junk or spam.

    I hate Evites and I'll never use them again (and this is my first time). People don't want to be the first to respond. Once the ball starts rolling people are cool with it, but your blind Cc idea is much better, and probably would get a bigger crowd.

    Yeah, I find with the BCC there is no huge chain email and people get back to you personally. And that way you can start a personal conversation with them, and at that point they feel like they have to go. It's a beautiful thing really.
  • mickeyrat
    mickeyrat Posts: 44,607
    saveuplife wrote:
    Dude, you are dead on. This guy I'm talking about in this thread, has checked it atleast as often as me and I'm the one throwin the thing. That and the fact that half the people don't get the evite because it goes to junk or spam.

    I hate Evites and I'll never use them again (and this is my first time). People don't want to be the first to respond. Once the ball starts rolling people are cool with it, but your blind Cc idea is much better, and probably would get a bigger crowd.
    so you are waitng for.............
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    you're finally here and I'm a mess................................................... nationwide arena columbus '10
    memories like fingerprints are slowly raising.................................... first niagara center buffalo '13
    another man ..... moved by sleight of hand...................................... joe louis arena detroit '14
  • PatrickBateman
    PatrickBateman Posts: 2,243
    I have a couple friends (single) that bust my balls when I turn down an offer to go out for whatever reason, but let it go. Then there are the friends that bust your balls for being whipped and then once THEY have a significant other, suddenly don't want to go out as much and it's "different".

    Funny how it is only the single friends that bust balls
    If a man speaks in a forest and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?

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