Are you dating 2 or more people at the same time?

HOOKER
HOOKER Posts: 1,443
edited August 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
If so, how do you do it?
Nice to know you.
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  • timroth
    timroth Posts: 215
    Judging by your name you should have no problem seeing 2 or more people, one hour at a time.
  • HOOKER
    HOOKER Posts: 1,443
    timroth wrote:
    Judging by your name you should have no problem seeing 2 or more people, one hour at a time.


    Lame.
    Nice to know you.
  • Lizard
    Lizard So Cal Posts: 12,092
    :eek:
    :eek:

    yes i am. you have to very stealthy about it.
    So I'll just lie down and wait for the dream
    Where I'm not ugly and you're lookin' at me
  • HOOKER
    HOOKER Posts: 1,443
    Lizard wrote:
    :eek:
    :eek:

    yes i am. you have to very stealthy about it.

    ;)
    Nice to know you.
  • audiodave
    audiodave Posts: 1,623
    HOOKER wrote:
    If so, how do you do it?
    I'm guessing date people who are cool with it.

    I personally wouldn't do it. I fail to see what's wrong with one person...
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  • Phantom Pain
    Phantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    I guess Dating 2 people wouldn't be that hard

    If you were in a more committed relationship with one and dating the other that would get hairy

    I'm married and still trying to get over the Sister-in-Law seduction


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  • pearljamjen
    pearljamjen Posts: 13,578
    I have before. But each guy knew I was dating around...it was made clear that we weren't in an exclusive reltationship. But then eventually I just ended up dating the one I had the best chemistry with. I think in these types of situations it is important to be honest and not lead anyone on.
  • EvilMerlin
    EvilMerlin Posts: 1,865
    I did. Well one lived in San Francisco, and one lived by me. However the one that lived by me moved up north as well...so now I don't plan to see either one when I plan to go up with them living near each other. They both hate each other as well and know of the situation. So I backed out. I still talk to both and I'll still see both, but I'll only call them up when I'm up there so they don't know my plans. If I said I was going up the whole weekend, then one or the other would try to get me to stay with them the whole weekend. I'm friends with them both now, and wouldn't pursue anything unless one of them moved back down here.
  • GraySaturday
    GraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    I'm not now, I'm married, but at one point I was dating 4 guys.

    It was beyond awesome. I was very forward with all of them. They knew they weren't the only one, they knew of each other. It seemed they felt compelled to treat me well because there was no reason for me to accept anything less since I had other guys around too. It was fun too because when one was busy, someone else was always free. I had plans every night!

    Hard to keep up with after a while, and I was looking for something a little more meaningful, but at the time it was really fun and laid back. I'm still friends with 3 of them. Sadly, the other one passed away. If you are honest, and careful, it can be a positive situation for everyone involved. I do honestly think its much easier for guys to be "one of a few guys being dated" then the other way around. I think SOME (read: not all, don't attack me) women get attached quickly and can be pretty jealous and being "one of a few girls dated" is harder that way. (I know guys can get jealous and attached too, it's just my little opinion)
  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    HOOKER wrote:
    If so, how do you do it?
    just 2? its easy. ;)
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  • smithnic
    smithnic Posts: 1,565
    HOOKER wrote:
    Lame.

    funny actually
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  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    Nope. It's not for me. I'm a one-man kinda girl.
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  • audiodave
    audiodave Posts: 1,623
    GraySaturday wrote:
    It seemed they felt compelled to treat me well because there was no reason for me to accept anything less since I had other guys around too.
    But then how do you know they were treating you well because it was who they were, or because they had competition?

    IMO people should treat eachother well anyway, not just because someone else might show them up.
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  • HOOKER
    HOOKER Posts: 1,443
    smithnic wrote:
    funny actually

    no.. it was pretty lame.
    Nice to know you.
  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    audiodave wrote:
    I personally wouldn't do either. I fail to see what's wrong with one person...




    why not?
    seriously?
    that is how you get to know people, try em out...then move on to 'exclusivity.' i know i never really did date more than 1 guy at a time for long. it doesn't take long to figure your preference. i remember my mother used to always say she didn't understand why people dated exclusively from the get go, that it made no sense. in her day, you dated LOTs of people, then narrowed it down...and eventually, hopefully, moved to the exclusive phase with someone. granted, she grew up in an era of premarital sex at least being frowned upon....but none the less. even today, i think it Is doable in the early stages...and nothing wrong with it, as long as you are upfront and honest about it. then again, i don't see much wrong with lots of things as long as you are upfront, honest...and all is agreeable.
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  • smithnic
    smithnic Posts: 1,565
    I guess it all depends on the term "dating" and what your expectations are. When I started dating someone, I essentially thought we were just friends. And if I wanted to hang out with someone else it was not a problem. When I started to like to hang out more and more with a particular person and "take it to the next level" (sounds like 90210 or something) then it became exclusive. Up until then, grab a spoon, life's a buffet!
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  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    GraySaturday wrote:
    I'm not now, I'm married, but at one point I was dating 4 guys.

    It was beyond awesome. I was very forward with all of them. They knew they weren't the only one, they knew of each other. It seemed they felt compelled to treat me well because there was no reason for me to accept anything less since I had other guys around too. It was fun too because when one was busy, someone else was always free. I had plans every night!
    so how and why did you end up getting married? was he one of the 4 guys? me and a friend of mine have been discussing this topic lately
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  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    smithnic wrote:
    I guess it all depends on the term "dating" and what your expectations are. When I started dating someone, I essentially thought we were just friends. And if I wanted to hang out with someone else it was not a problem. When I started to like to hang out more and more with a particular person and "take it to the next level" (sounds like 90210 or something) then it became exclusive. Up until then, grab a spoon, life's a buffet!




    :D


    lotta good lines here today!


    and.....exactly. it seems a bit odd? to be 'exclusive' from a first date. i think dating and relationships are not mutually exclusive, but two rather different levels.
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  • Pauk
    Pauk Posts: 1,084
    I don't see the problem with dating multiple people. Dating is all about getting to know the other person, and if it turns out you're not so compatible then you have to stop and start over. If you met 2 people who are great I don't see the problem with dating both to see who you get along with better. Rather that than dating 1 person that doesn't work out and in the process missing out on dating another person who could have worked better.

    I guess it really depends on how you see dates. I've met a few girls who saw dates as the immediate start of a relationship, which I kinda found scary/slightly desperate. Dating to me is to stop getting in deep with a girl I have nothing in common with. I personally haven't ever dated more than 1 girl (probably because I'm quite fussy) but if I met 2 girls I got along with I'd definitely date both and then choose who to stick with a few dates down the line when it's obvious which one is gonna work. Dating isn't a relationship, and I'd definitely not sleep with someone until I was ready to start a relationship. I'd hate to be that bastard guy that girls always bitch about :p
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  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    decides2dream wrote:
    why not?
    seriously?
    that is how you get to know people, try em out...then move on to 'exclusivity.' i know i never really did date more than 1 guy at a time for long. it doesn't take long to figure your preference. i remember my mother used to always say she didn't understand why people dated exclusively from the get go, that it made no sense. in her day, you dated LOTs of people, then narrowed it down...and eventually, hopefully, moved to the exclusive phase with someone. granted, she grew up in an era of premarital sex at least being frowned upon....but none the less. even today, i think it Is doable in the early stages...and nothing wrong with it, as long as you are upfront and honest about it. then again, i don't see much wrong with lots of things as long as you are upfront, honest...and all is agreeable.
    agreed. If you date just one person, how are you gonna know if theres others out there? I think alot of people use the "oh i KNOW he/she is the one" way too soon. Sure there are qualities in one that others don't have but still. It is always best to keep your options open and not 'settle down' right away. SOME of the people that have done that are now unhappy or getting divorced! :eek:
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
    Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
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