Best friend tried committing suicide last night

stylo17
stylo17 Posts: 1,001
edited May 2008 in All Encompassing Trip
saw his ex-gf with another guy at night, but she didn't want to talk to him. when he got home his mind was racing and he was going nuts and not thinking. he took 80 pills of Excedrin.... at the hospital he was throwing up for hours straight, drinking this liquid charcoal thing to make him vomit all the crap out of his insides. he's doing much better now, they moved him to ICU because he's still a suicide risk. but he's talking and acting like everything is okay and has already said how much of a dumbass he is. seeing his little 9 year old sister frustrated and crying because she couldn't be with him made a big impression on him.

but 18 years old doing something like this, it's not right. very sad to see. his parents are handling it well, unfortunately they're divorced so it's awkward for him. I have no emotions right now, when I see him he's laughing and talking, but when I step back and see the big picture, I see that he should be dead, and at the very least be on dialysis for his liver for the rest of his life. he's perfectly healthy right now.

the only song that's soothing me is Jeff Buckley's "Hallelujah." I'm so blown away by everything right now and life has never seemed so beautiful :(
6/11/08 WPB


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  • gobrowns19
    gobrowns19 Posts: 1,447
    I don't even know what to say, very touching. Sad and happy at the same time.
    Happiness is only real when shared
  • stylo17
    stylo17 Posts: 1,001
    gobrowns19 wrote:
    I don't even know what to say, very touching. Sad and happy at the same time.

    it is, I just wish it didn't take something so extreme to teach us how many people love us and how great life really is.
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  • GraySaturday
    GraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    I'm really sorry for your friend, that he has to go through pain like that. And for you, for the same reasons. He's very lucky to have a second chance. Excedrine is some powerful stuff. I get terrible migraines and a doctor told me to take 3 excedrines to try to control it, and even 3 made me throw up and feel horrible. I can't imagine 80.

    I hope his family is able to help him find the help he needs, and he can make peace with his situation. He's got a LONG life ahead of him. Its hard to see the big picture when you're 18, but he's got a long while to go. Best of luck to him. And remember, as much as its crazy, and heartbreaking and frustrating and everything in between, be the best support system you can be. He sounds like he needs everyone to rally behind him right now.
  • stylo17
    stylo17 Posts: 1,001
    GraySaturday wrote:
    I'm really sorry for your friend, that he has to go through pain like that. And for you, for the same reasons. He's very lucky to have a second chance. Excedrine is some powerful stuff. I get terrible migraines and a doctor told me to take 3 excedrines to try to control it, and even 3 made me throw up and feel horrible. I can't imagine 80.

    I hope his family is able to help him find the help he needs, and he can make peace with his situation. He's got a LONG life ahead of him. Its hard to see the big picture when you're 18, but he's got a long while to go. Best of luck to him. And remember, as much as its crazy, and heartbreaking and frustrating and everything in between, be the best support system you can be. He sounds like he needs everyone to rally behind him right now.

    thank you, I think we all learned from this today
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  • sponger
    sponger Posts: 3,159
    Ouch. Even if he lives through it, his liver might be permanently damaged. Acetaminophen, also known as tylenol, is a major ingredient in excedrine and literally fries the liver when taken in excess quantities. So sorry to hear about that.
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  • Fifthelement
    Fifthelement Lotusland Posts: 6,965
    Sorry about your friend. I'm glad for him and his family that he survived. And for you as well. Hopefully, as he thinks on this he'll come to the realisation that life is worth holding on to. Peace!
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  • sponger
    sponger Posts: 3,159
    I just hope that when I try to commit suicide, someone will post it on the pit so everyone can respond with their messages of concern.
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  • Byrnzie
    Byrnzie Posts: 21,037
    This is one of those incidents when any and all advice falls flat - the emotions/instincts came before the intellect, and are a lot stronger.
    Just glad he didn't succeed.
  • sponger
    sponger Posts: 3,159
    Just goes to show how important it is for kids to grow up in a home consisting of both a mother and a father. The support network just wasn't there for him. He may have done this over heartbreak, but that's just a symptom of a much larger issue.
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  • urbanhippie
    urbanhippie Posts: 3,007
    Just be there for him in any way you can. No recriminations, no blame, no accusations.
    He needs the strongest support network possible at the moment, but don't neglect your own feelings about this. Find a neutral place where you can express your own hurt and disappointment at this situation. You're bound to feel it, don't feel guilty about that.
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  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    Byrnzie wrote:
    This is one of those incidents when any and all advice falls flat - the emotions/instincts came before the intellect, and are a lot stronger.
    Just glad he didn't succeed.
    Nice post byrnzie :o

    I'm sorry stylo... did he try something like this before? I have a deja vu feeling about this story? :o

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  • stylo17
    stylo17 Posts: 1,001
    Heineken Helen wrote:
    Nice post byrnzie :o

    I'm sorry stylo... did he try something like this before? I have a deja vu feeling about this story? :o

    18... wow! If I had known then what I know now springs to mind :(

    thanks everyone.

    actually this is the first time anything like this happened. and hopefully when the psychiatrists go evaluate him today, they see that he doesn't have a mental issue. but if they decide to keep him for a month then so be it, his parents just want him to be better and ready for the real world.
    6/11/08 WPB


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    ♬♪♫ cause a soldier's death is so much better than defeat just hanging around
  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    stylo17 wrote:
    thanks everyone.

    actually this is the first time anything like this happened. and hopefully when the psychiatrists go evaluate him today, they see that he doesn't have a mental issue. but if they decide to keep him for a month then so be it, his parents just want him to be better and ready for the real world.

    are you sure he doesnt have 'a mental issue'? people don't usually try to commit suicide just cause. theres an underlying factor that it forced by some catalyst.
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  • orig_long red
    orig_long red Posts: 2,029
    he wants attention.

    looks like he got it.
    Jam out with your clam out.
  • noisy mind
    noisy mind Posts: 65
    18 years old and willing to die over a girl.

    I'm not a fan of this kid's decision.
  • you are
    you are Posts: 1,651
    glad he's ok. hope he continues to get better.
    No need to be void, or save up on life...
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  • Slip Kid
    Slip Kid Posts: 1,175
    noisy mind wrote:
    18 years old and willing to die over a girl.

    I'm not a fan of this kid's decision.

    I was thinking the same thing
    I just don't trust anything that bleeds for five days and doesn't die.
  • Jeremy1012
    Jeremy1012 Posts: 7,170
    noisy mind wrote:
    18 years old and willing to die over a girl.

    I'm not a fan of this kid's decision.
    Most people are probably more likely to want to die over a girl at 18 than as a middle-aged person. At 18 it really can feel like life doesn't go on because, let's face it, if it's the first time you've felt that shitty, you haven't had proof that life does go on yet.

    It was a rash, foolish decision but one that should be met with sympathy and understanding, not cynicism.
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  • Clarice
    Clarice Posts: 256
    Sorry for you friend. And for you too.

    I´ts very difficult knows exactly what happens with mind of someone, even so close you. I´m sure you will take care him and it will help.

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  • Ledbetterman10
    Ledbetterman10 Posts: 17,002
    sponger wrote:
    I just hope that when I try to commit suicide, someone will post it on the pit so everyone can respond with their messages of concern.

    I have to say, I was sort of thinking the same thing. I mean, it's a message board so stylo17 is as anonymous as any of us are...so we don't know exactly who he's talking about. but still, I wouldn't want my personal business aired out to a bunch of strangers on the internet.

    I personally don't suicide threads on here (this is hardly the first) because then we start getting responses like this from people who don't even know who they're talking about:
    long red wrote:
    he wants attention.

    looks like he got it.
    noisy mind wrote:
    18 years old and willing to die over a girl.

    I'm not a fan of this kid's decision.

    I think long red and noisy mind are entitled to these opinions, though I couldn't disagree more with them. but they wouldn't be posting them if there wasn't a suicide thread. are we this desperate for stuff to talk about?

    I dunno, people don't really understand suicide. It more of a psychological disorder than a stupid decision.
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