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  • GraySaturday
    GraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    pearlzepfan wrote:
    Yes we are young, but the unprotected sex was planned before hand. And no, the pregnancy is not why we are deciding on marriage.


    People will always give you shit for the age thing. I get it all the time from people. I had just turned 23, 2.5 weeks before my wedding. Complete strangers still tell me I made a huge mistake and threw my life away. Not very nice, it makes me feel like crap. However, everyone will always have their opinions and will have NO problem sharing them with you.

    I won't tell you to do it, or not do it based on age or any other reasons. We don't know you, and its shitty to judge people when you don't know them. I do hope you find happiness, and if getting married is truly right for you, then I wish you the best. It does take a lot of work though. Think it through completely, don't rush into anything. Thats my advice, and best of luck.
  • wolfbear
    wolfbear Posts: 3,965
    Good luck to you and have your questions been answered? :) This thread kind of strayed a bit.
    "I'd rather be with an animal." "Those that can be trusted can change their mind." "The in between is mine." "If I don't lose control, explore and not explode, a preternatural other plane with the power to maintain." "Yeh this is living." "Life is what you make it."
  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    pearlzepfan wrote:
    Yes we are young, but the unprotected sex was planned before hand. And no, the pregnancy is not why we are deciding on marriage.

    pearlzep, I have no clue what the rules and laws are about marrige where you are, I'll just say this, if you truly believe this is what you want, go for it with all your heart and don't ever let anyone tell you that you're too young or too old or whatever. It's your life and your path to choose and I wish you the very best of good fortune. :)
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  • JaneNY
    JaneNY Posts: 4,438
    People, stop telling them they're too young. I was married a week after I turned 21, and am married to the same guy, 25 1/2 years later. (Its the kids I want to abandon on the mountain top sometimes, but that's another story heh) Not every young marriage turns out bad.
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  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    JaneNY wrote:
    People, stop telling them they're too young. I was married a week after I turned 21, and am married to the same guy, 25 1/2 years later. (Its the kids I want to abandon on the mountain top sometimes, but that's another story heh) Not every young marriage turns out bad.


    Exactly! :)

    And by far getting married young is not the worst thing that can happen in a life. Sometimes it's even the best thing. :)
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  • wolfbear
    wolfbear Posts: 3,965
    Jeanie wrote:
    Exactly! :)

    And by far getting married young is not the worst thing that can happen in a life. Sometimes it's even the best thing. :)

    I agree. If it's right it's right, doesn't matter what age. We don't know, only those involved do. :)
    "I'd rather be with an animal." "Those that can be trusted can change their mind." "The in between is mine." "If I don't lose control, explore and not explode, a preternatural other plane with the power to maintain." "Yeh this is living." "Life is what you make it."
  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    wolfbear wrote:
    I agree. If it's right it's right, doesn't matter what age. We don't know, only those involved do. :)

    I completely agree.....but if I had the opportunity to do it all over again, I never would have married at the age of 25, far too young....that's me. Given your thread regarding not knowing if you're pregnant or not/having questioned pregancy in the past, my opinion is that you're too young and irresponsible to handle the pressure and responsibility of marriage. It's not a walk in the park.
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • Jeanie
    Jeanie Posts: 9,446
    wolfbear wrote:
    I agree. If it's right it's right, doesn't matter what age. We don't know, only those involved do. :)


    Exactly! :)

    You just gotta follow your heart and your head and do what you think you should or what you want to do at the time and you're either gonna be right or wrong and either way you're gonna learn stuff. And it doesn't matter how young or old you are, you're always learning. :)
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  • DinghyDog
    DinghyDog Posts: 587
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  • blackredyellow
    blackredyellow Posts: 5,889
    It will probably take at least a little planning... maybe a short waiting period for the license and you have to arrange someone to officiate it. Not huge planning by any means, but it's not something (at least in most states) that you can wake up one day and decide to get married that day.

    I'm not going to say that you are too young, but just put some thought in it and decided what is right for you both not only now, but down the road. From the bits I've gathered from other posts, you are newly separated, and the stress and excitement of her quickly changing life with the Air Force could make anyone jump the gun a bit. It it was up to me, like most MAJOR decisions such as this, I would try to sleep on it a bit, and make it when life is a little calmer. But in the end, it's both of your choices. Good luck!
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