Are you dating 2 or more people at the same time?

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  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    fowls wrote:
    I don't see the problem with dating multiple people.
    Neither do I. But, again, it's just not for me.
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  • GraySaturday
    GraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    SENROCK! wrote:
    so how and why did you end up getting married? was he one of the 4 guys? me and a friend of mine have been discussing this topic lately

    No, actually this was before I met him. I ended up getting exclusive with one of the 4 guys, who was my best friend through college. But in the end it was one of those friendships that was super close, and I thought a relationship would be so perfect since we were so close, and no. It was horrible. It was seriously like dating a brother. It honestly grossed me out to the point where it ruined the relationship. I met my husband at the tail end of that. We were working together. He was just a little older then me, out of college, and he had a real career and stuff. It was a breath of fresh air from dating out of the big circle of friends I had in college.
  • patrickredeyes
    patrickredeyes Posts: 8,834
    HOOKER wrote:
    no.. it was pretty lame.


    I got a chuckle out of it. Guess I'm lame then. lol
  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    SENROCK! wrote:
    agreed. If you date just one person, how are you gonna know if theres others out there? I think alot of people use the "oh i KNOW he/she is the one" way too soon. Sure there are qualities in one that others don't have but still. It is always best to keep your options open and not 'settle down' right away. SOME of the people that have done that are now unhappy or getting divorced! :eek:



    yes.
    i was more of a serial monogamist...sometimes with a bit of overlap. however, inbetween 'serious relationships'....you bet there was light-hearted dating until i met someone worth getting serious and monagmous with again. i am certainly not against exclusivity, not at all...but there is nothing wrong with casual dating, which to me is what 'dating' really is.....up until you meet someone worthwhile.
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  • HOOKER
    HOOKER Posts: 1,443
    patrickredeyes wrote:
    I got a chuckle out of it. Guess I'm lame then. lol

    lol. Im just tired of hearing comments like that over and over. Guess I'll just blame SENROCK for this. Thanks senrock.
    How does one change names in here anyway? I've tried to unban my old name but no luck... :(
    Nice to know you.
  • sweet adeline
    sweet adeline Posts: 2,191
    i'm currently only seeing my left and right hands, so thats sort of like seeing two people. they seem to be okay with it.
  • GraySaturday
    GraySaturday Posts: 2,878
    I just want to throw it out there that, I never slept with guys that I wasn't in a longterm exclusive relationship with. I don't think thats the safest thing, and while dating around is fun and stuff, I didn't want to come off as some wild child who went nuts and slept with 4 guys for fun.

    thats not me.
  • EvilMerlin
    EvilMerlin Posts: 1,865
    GraySaturday wrote:
    I do honestly think its much easier for guys to be "one of a few guys being dated" then the other way around. I think SOME (read: not all, don't attack me) women get attached quickly and can be pretty jealous and being "one of a few girls dated" is harder that way. (I know guys can get jealous and attached too, it's just my little opinion)

    I completely agree with that from my experiences. I know if I'm one of just the guys that she's seeing, I'm okay with that and just hope she's happy with her choices, as I can do the same. However the drama of two or more girls and the stress that put on me...Ugh, it just gets old veeerrrry quickly. Especially when what they wanted out of the situation would change on a daily basis to whatever they thought I wanted to hear at the time. It became a big game rather than just taking it seriously and enjoying the times we were having.
  • HOOKER
    HOOKER Posts: 1,443
    sweet adeline wrote:
    i'm currently only seeing my left and right hands, so thats sort of like seeing two people. they seem to be okay with it.

    Ha
    Nice to know you.
  • audiodave
    audiodave Posts: 1,623
    decides2dream wrote:
    why not?
    seriously?
    that is how you get to know people, try em out...then move on to 'exclusivity.' i know i never really did date more than 1 guy at a time for long. it doesn't take long to figure your preference. i remember my mother used to always say she didn't understand why people dated exclusively from the get go, that it made no sense. in her day, you dated LOTs of people, then narrowed it down...and eventually, hopefully, moved to the exclusive phase with someone. granted, she grew up in an era of premarital sex at least being frowned upon....but none the less. even today, i think it Is doable in the early stages...and nothing wrong with it, as long as you are upfront and honest about it. then again, i don't see much wrong with lots of things as long as you are upfront, honest...and all is agreeable.

    It just isn't for me. And like someone else said, I guess it depends what you define as a "date".

    I don't see anything WRONG with it, and I think it's all fine as long as you're upfront and honest about it from the start. Just isn't my preference.

    I guess if it's people you don't know at all, then it's a good way to get to know them.
    ~AKA Dave-of-the-dead~

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  • smithnic
    smithnic Posts: 1,565
    sweet adeline wrote:
    i'm currently only seeing my left and right hands, so thats sort of like seeing two people. they seem to be okay with it.


    You should get yourself a hooker, but hooker is currently dating two or more people and having problems, sorry.
    Go Get 'Em Tigers!
  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    audiodave wrote:
    It just isn't for me. And like someone else said, I guess it depends what you define as a "date".

    Agreed
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  • HOOKER
    HOOKER Posts: 1,443
    what if one of them is uuuubbbeeer funny, smart, good looking but isnt that great in the sack and the other lacks the funny but is GREAT in the sack?
    Nice to know you.
  • AmentsChick
    AmentsChick Posts: 6,969
    HOOKER wrote:
    what if one of them is uuuubbbeeer funny, smart, good looking but isnt that great in the sack and the other lacks the funny but is GREAT in the sack?

    Not funny = HUGE turn-off

    I, personally, wouldn't end up in bed with someone who didn't make me laugh.
    This is the greatest band in the world -- Ben Harper

  • smithnic
    smithnic Posts: 1,565
    uber?
    great in the sack?

    there are two individuals interested in you?
    <shakes head in disbelief>
    Go Get 'Em Tigers!
  • HOOKER
    HOOKER Posts: 1,443
    I agree major turn off.
    Nice to know you.
  • audiodave
    audiodave Posts: 1,623
    HOOKER wrote:
    what if one of them is uuuubbbeeer funny, smart, good looking but isnt that great in the sack and the other lacks the funny but is GREAT in the sack?
    Well, again this is only personally, I don't see a problem with "dating" more than one person. Sleeping with more than one person? Could get messy. Do they both know the situation?
    ~AKA Dave-of-the-dead~

    I don't wanna think, I wanna feel

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  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    HOOKER wrote:
    lol. Im just tired of hearing comments like that over and over. Guess I'll just blame SENROCK for this. Thanks senrock.
    How does one change names in here anyway? I've tried to unban my old name but no luck... :(
    blame me for what?! you ALWAYS blame me!!! damn.
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  • SENROCK
    SENROCK Posts: 10,736
    HOOKER wrote:
    what if one of them is uuuubbbeeer funny, smart, good looking but isnt that great in the sack and the other lacks the funny but is GREAT in the sack?
    please just dump the "other" or "current". Like one friend from here said to another, "i'll meet you at the dumpster where you leave him. just get rid of that mess!!!" :D
    ~~~~~~ALWAYS HAVE A GOOD TIME~~~~~~
    Sir Mike McCready is....THE MASTER!!! WAHHH!!!
    EVENFLOW PSYCHOS H.N.I.C~FEEL THE FLOW!!!

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    It takes balls to put out a UKE album!
  • HOOKER
    HOOKER Posts: 1,443
    SENROCK! wrote:
    blame me for what?! you ALWAYS blame me!!! damn.

    FOR MY HOOKER NAME! WHY DID I LISTEN TO YOU?????
    Nice to know you.

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