Promise Ring - Scam or not?

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  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    Yes, I think they're a scam to get people to buy more jewelry. I don't know this 29 year old woman but to me she sounds desperate to get married or at least consider herself as engaged before she's 30 so she's badgered her boyfriend into giving her a promise ring in hopes he'll give her the engagement ring next. Some people are just so desperate to not be alone that they'll willingly marry the first person who says "I love you".
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

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  • Rygar
    Rygar Posts: 8,711
    It's the opal ring crusade!
  • given2fly78
    given2fly78 Posts: 404
    Whizbang wrote:
    Yes, I think they're a scam to get people to buy more jewelry. I don't know this 29 year old woman but to me she sounds desperate to get married or at least consider herself as engaged before she's 30 so she's badgered her boyfriend into giving her a promise ring in hopes he'll give her the engagement ring next. Some people are just so desperate to not be alone that they'll willingly marry the first person who says "I love you".

    That's kind of what I'm thinking. I think this should be his sign to run, run as fast as he can. It sounds slightly desperate to me. Kind of like she's trying to validate the relationship to herself.

    I mean, whatever works for you I guess, but the whole "promise ring" still makes me laugh. I giggled to myself when I typed "promise ring". There, I did it again. LOL
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  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    Brain of J.Lo wrote:
    Exactly...

    People get anxious for that next step...and they want a ring to go with it.

    I never understand a really long engagement. I understand that the engagement period is to be spent considering whether or not you want to make the committment of marriage. However, if it takes years and years to consider whether or not you want to marry someone, you should probably not do it.

    people looooove to be engaged. as long as you are engaged, the world revolves around you. people are DYING to see your ring and hear ALL about your wedding. they HAVE to be nice to you and do everything you say the whole time your engaged. People like to say "my finance." It makes them feel fancy because it's french.
  • JOEJOEJOE
    JOEJOEJOE Posts: 10,821
    If the chick wants a promise ring, she must be very insecure, and fears that the fella is out of her league.

    If that's the case, the fella should look elsewhere cuz he can probably do much better!
    :)
  • GreenTeaDisease
    GreenTeaDisease Posts: 3,359
    I was just thinking that, no matter what age you are or what it means, if you have to ASK for a promise ring for christmas, it probably doesn't mean much...
  • Whizbang
    Whizbang Posts: 1,314
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I was just thinking that, no matter what age you are or what it means, if you have to ASK for a promise ring for christmas, it probably doesn't mean much...

    EXACTLY!!!!
    believe it or not, we don't "need" anything. that is only the spoiled brat in us trying to fill some temporary solution to an emptyness that does not exist.

    I have eaten so much gold I crapped excellence - drtyfrnk29

    Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all!
  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    I thought a promise ring was when a girl promises her father she won't have sex unless she gets married.
    that's what I thought.
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  • comebackwoman
    comebackwoman Posts: 7,271
    GreenTeaDisease wrote:
    It makes them feel fancy because it's french.
    hehe this made me giggle :)
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  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    long red wrote:
    all symbols of love are scams.


    not at all.
    a true symbol is love is just that: merely a symbol. do some marketers take the idea too far to make $$$? absolutely. and if people 'buy' into that...well that's their choice. symbols are as strong or as weak as those who share and put stock into them. a promise to love...with or without a promise ring, engagement ring, wedding band, etc...is just that: a promise. it is a leap of faith that in reality is NOT tied to anything tangible in this world, and everything to do with the very untangible concept of commitment between two people.
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  • nothingman44
    nothingman44 Posts: 1,496
    i may be very cynical about relationships right now, but i think all words and symbols in a relationship are a bunch of bullshit...

    actions speak alot louder than words and symbols in my eyes.

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