O.K. how many people here are pregnant?
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casper leblanc wrote:
I don't know why, really, but I think it's cause I'm afraid of the the father-son relationship, and how that evolves. I had a pretty fucked up one with my own father (a trend in my families history).
Now I know that doesn't mean anything, I know that, but it doesn't take away the feeling I have.
And I just always saw myself with a little girl, I really cherished the softness of it, a little girl and her dad. Maybe I am idealising it, sure, but I can't help it.
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They only way the trend will continue is if you let it continue. If you're on here talking about, it probably means you don't want it to continue, and therefore won't LET it coontinue. There is no great rule or anything that says your relationship with your son has to be a certain way because of the way you were with your father, or your father, and his father, or whatever. It is entirely up to you.
finally had some time to catch up on this thread. We just overcame our first bout with dreaded diarrhea. It wasn't the 6 or 7 poops per day that was the worst. It was the sore butt. I couldn't even touch Jack with a wipe without him screaming. We did learn a few things though:
1. Always have a can of Triple Butt Paste on hand. It works, and really quickly
2. Always have a supply of Soy formula on hand also. We use Similac, so it was Isomil, for diarrhea. That, along with bananas and oatmeal binded things right up in a day or 2. The Dr. told me about the Isomil so I had to go out and get a few bottles. Now we'll be keeping it in the house, just in case
3. Diarrhea, while a fun word to say, is not a fun thing to have0 -
Adria had a nasty rash when she had her flu.
NAsty acid poops.
I went and got this Polysporin Kids.
Would put that on and let it dry a bit and then a ton of 18% Zinc oxide creme
called Penaten.
Also lotsa naked time.
Did I mention I got peed on?the person below me smells like cat pee and raisins...0 -
genevieve wrote:Adria had a nasty rash when she had her flu.
NAsty acid poops.
I went and got this Polysporin Kids.
Would put that on and let it dry a bit and then a ton of 18% Zinc oxide creme
called Penaten.
Also lotsa naked time.
Did I mention I got peed on?I had to laugh when I read this. We have been battling Annabelle's first bout with diaper rash this week and so there has been a lot of extra naked time... And yesterday, she peed twice on our (brand new!!) carpet and once on her daddy...lol!
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casper leblanc wrote:I've know I'm going to be a dad for quite a while now, but since last week I know I'm having a son.
And now here's the thing: I can't help but feel dissapointed. I absolutely hate myself for it. But I can't help it. I just had this aching for a girl.
Fact is: one of the reason I kept holding a pregnancy off, is because I was afraid it was gonna be a son.
I don't know why, really, but I think it's cause I'm afraid of the the father-son relationship, and how that evolves. I had a pretty fucked up one with my own father (a trend in my families history).
Now I know that doesn't mean anything, I know that, but it doesn't take away the feeling I have.
And I just always saw myself with a little girl, I really cherished the softness of it, a little girl and her dad. Maybe I am idealising it, sure, but I can't help it.
I have days where I tell - and convince - myself how great and amazing it's gonna be with my boy, but then all I need is one dad with a beautiful baby girl and the thought is gone.
I hope - and I know - that as soon as he will be born, Ill' love him so much, I'll forget all about this and feel very ashamed I ever had thoughts like this, but now they're there - and I hate it....
Soooo many people go through this! You are not alone! Please don't feel bad or guilty or hate yourself for it.
I didn't really have a preference, but even before I was pregnant, I just pictured my husband and I having a little boy. I would see little guys out with their moms and dads, and it would just melt my heart. If I walked by the baby department in a store, I would go straight to the little boy clothes to gush about how cute they were, especially a tiny suit or some other mini version of adult clothes. I pictured a tiny little version of my husband, who I absolutely adore, and it just made me so happy.
Then, once I got pregnant, I continued to imagine this little "mini Greg". Then we had our ultrasound, and the tech said "It's a little girl!!" I have to admit, I felt something at that moment...not disappointment, because I was thrilled to know what we were having...but I guess it was just a surprise to find out that it wasn't going to be the way I'd imagined it. But very quickly I stopped imagining "mini Greg" and started to imagine the little girl we were actually going to have and I was more excited than ever. And by the time she got here, I couldn't even remember feeling anything but excitement.
The thing I learned is that you don't love your child because it's something you've been longing for and it feels so great. It's not like when you've wanted a certain car or breed of dog and then finally get it and you're thrilled that it's here. You love your child because you fall in love with the individual that they are, and you will start to see what an awesome little person your son is as soon as you first meet him.I'm confident that your feelings will dissolve as you get closer and closer to your little guy's birth and when you start to get to know him, you will forget you ever pictured it any other way. It'll be better than you ever imagined.
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Fighting Hellfish wrote:casper leblanc wrote:
I don't know why, really, but I think it's cause I'm afraid of the the father-son relationship, and how that evolves. I had a pretty fucked up one with my own father (a trend in my families history).
Now I know that doesn't mean anything, I know that, but it doesn't take away the feeling I have.
And I just always saw myself with a little girl, I really cherished the softness of it, a little girl and her dad. Maybe I am idealising it, sure, but I can't help it.
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They only way the trend will continue is if you let it continue. If you're on here talking about, it probably means you don't want it to continue, and therefore won't LET it coontinue. There is no great rule or anything that says your relationship with your son has to be a certain way because of the way you were with your father, or your father, and his father, or whatever. It is entirely up to you.
finally had some time to catch up on this thread. We just overcame our first bout with dreaded diarrhea. It wasn't the 6 or 7 poops per day that was the worst. It was the sore butt. I couldn't even touch Jack with a wipe without him screaming. We did learn a few things though:
1. Always have a can of Triple Butt Paste on hand. It works, and really quickly
2. Always have a supply of Soy formula on hand also. We use Similac, so it was Isomil, for diarrhea. That, along with bananas and oatmeal binded things right up in a day or 2. The Dr. told me about the Isomil so I had to go out and get a few bottles. Now we'll be keeping it in the house, just in case
3. Diarrhea, while a fun word to say, is not a fun thing to have
The sore butt is the worst. Annabelle hasn't had diarrhea, but since she has started eating a lot more solids recently, she has gone from 1 poop per day to usually 4 and that has thrown her for a loop. We are currently trying the Boedreaux's Butt Paste (since this afternoon) and it already looks a little better...but it's so much more expensive than the generic Target brand stuff we were using, so I hope it really does work! And I agree, diaper changes are hell. Yesterday, she was crying so hard that her hands would shake. I thought my husband was going to cry after he changed her one time. :( It was so sad!0 -
casper leblanc wrote:I've know I'm going to be a dad for quite a while now, but since last week I know I'm having a son.
And now here's the thing: I can't help but feel dissapointed. I absolutely hate myself for it. But I can't help it. I just had this aching for a girl.
Fact is: one of the reason I kept holding a pregnancy off, is because I was afraid it was gonna be a son.
I don't know why, really, but I think it's cause I'm afraid of the the father-son relationship, and how that evolves. I had a pretty fucked up one with my own father (a trend in my families history).
Now I know that doesn't mean anything, I know that, but it doesn't take away the feeling I have.
And I just always saw myself with a little girl, I really cherished the softness of it, a little girl and her dad. Maybe I am idealising it, sure, but I can't help it.
I have days where I tell - and convince - myself how great and amazing it's gonna be with my boy, but then all I need is one dad with a beautiful baby girl and the thought is gone.
I hope - and I know - that as soon as he will be born, Ill' love him so much, I'll forget all about this and feel very ashamed I ever had thoughts like this, but now they're there - and I hate it....
We wanted and had a girl, but I realize now that if it had been a boy, I would have loved him just as much.It's all so foreign at first. Having a baby in your home, when before it was just the two of you, a HUGE adjustment. But the amazing thing is that as each day goes by, you love that child more and more and he will become more precious to you, until you can't imagine your life without him.
After a while they do more than eat and sleep too! Our little girl is five months now and every day she is doing something new. She holds her own bottle now and is starting to sit up on her own.
My childhood wasn't the greatest either, but because you're aware of how it affected you, you'll probably make an extra effort to make sure it doesn't happen with your own child. I didn't know if I could rise to the challenge of being a good parent, but I've surprised myself. History doesn't have to repeat itself.You can't know what it's like, to bleed from here,
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We got through the first round of shots on Thursday. Xavier did really well...he cried when they stuck him with the needles, but only for a few seconds. I was proud of him.
I was also proud of PissBottleWoman...I thought for sure she would be in tears as her little boy got stuck with those needles. She held up.
All is well.
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My wife had her first doctor visit for baby number 2. Due date is Sep. 4. Heartbeat is good. Wife's blood pressure and weight gain are both good too. So much fun starting this crazy cycle all over again!0
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Did anyone circumcise their little boys?
Someone told me it's really hard to get it done nowadays (in Australia anyway). My boyfriend is circumcised and my little brother who is a year younger that me is circumcised so I grew up thinking circumcised penises are the norm -- and because of my boyfriend I still have that opinion....little elephant trunks look weird to me.Before I was with my boyfriend and was with other guys, uncircumcised penises were a bit of a turn off to be honest.
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lol! @ "little elephant trunks"
I don't know if I would circ or not. Luckily, I didn't have to think of that yet.0 -
ZiggyStar wrote:Did anyone circumcise their little boys?
Someone told me it's really hard to get it done nowadays (in Australia anyway). My boyfriend is circumcised and my little brother who is a year younger that me is circumcised so I grew up thinking circumcised penises are the norm -- and because of my boyfriend I still have that opinion....little elephant trunks look weird to me.Before I was with my boyfriend and was with other guys, uncircumcised penises were a bit of a turn off to be honest.
Is it bad to want to circumcise my future son???
I'm not sure what the norm is in Australia, you mentioned it's hard to have it done nowadays, but here in Canada it's only done if there is a medical reason to have it done. I don't think doctor's will perform the procedure here for aesthetic reasons (unless you're an adult paying out of pocket for your own removal). I don't know if it's viewed the same way in the US or not!
I would say do a little research, check with your family doctor, he will know all the latest info on circumcision.You can't know what it's like, to bleed from here,
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circumcision - well, i didn't even consider it with my wee boy - BUT - you are the parent and it should be your decision, as long as it is an informed one. doctors should give you good balanced information but should not talk you out of what you decide is best for your child. (i have found that doctors are quite fond of their own worldview and it can be hard to get round that - especially if you live in a small town).
and can i just say that this is the sweetest thread in the entire pit!0 -
nocode23 wrote:My wife had her first doctor visit for baby number 2. Due date is Sep. 4. Heartbeat is good. Wife's blood pressure and weight gain are both good too. So much fun starting this crazy cycle all over again!
Congrats!!!when is your wife going to get the ultrasound?
Chloe is now a month old. She is holding her head more and looking around. people tell me that she is very alert for her age.
I have a question for all you mothers and fathers out there...when you go travel by plane, how much does the plane ticket costs for a infant w/a car seat? my boyfriend and i are planning to take a trip back to my home state of Texas to visit my family. I tried looking online to see how much it would cost, but they said when purchasing a ticket you have to call the airline.
I hope everyone and their little ones are doing well.
and i hope Ladygodiva's pregnancy is going wellø~ø~ø~ø~ø~ø~ø~ø~ø~ø~ø~ø~ø~
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MeddleDeal wrote:Congrats!!!
when is your wife going to get the ultrasound?
Chloe is now a month old. She is holding her head more and looking around. people tell me that she is very alert for her age.
I have a question for all you mothers and fathers out there...when you go travel by plane, how much does the plane ticket costs for a infant w/a car seat? my boyfriend and i are planning to take a trip back to my home state of Texas to visit my family. I tried looking online to see how much it would cost, but they said when purchasing a ticket you have to call the airline.
I hope everyone and their little ones are doing well.
and i hope Ladygodiva's pregnancy is going well
Not sure when the ultrasounds gonna happen, but i can't wait! As for your travel question, we've taken Riley on planes twice now. Both times we chose the child on lap option and just checked the car seat at the gate. Most airlines allow children under a certain age to travel for free, unless you want them to have their own seat. Luckily for us there were extra seats on the plane and the flight attendants let us take three seats so we could have more room. I'd say just check with the specific airline and see what they can do. Sorry if that wasn't much help!
By the way, I think Chloe is a beautiful name,and it is actually one of the names we like if we have another girl. That's awsome that she is holding her head and checking stuff out (ahhh memories...) Riley is now 17 months and is walking and talking up a storm. Kids are so fantastic! I'm so excited that my little girl is going to be a big sister!0 -
Here's what I dislike about Baby Books: "Sleep when your baby sleeps".
That's sounds great...in theory.
Case in point...Xavier was up most of the night on Saturday. So, I finally got him to sleep just after lunch. I layed down on the couch...got situated...tried to relax...finally (after about 30 minutes), I feel asleep...3 minutes later...crying...time to get back up.
Also, when Xavier is asleep, I can get so much done. I can pay bills, upload/order photos, clean the house, etc.
I am always tired...but I'm not always sleepy. Does that make sense?
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hey i am back ...did the test i had to do (long story) and everything is fine
:):)
baby is moving around and nobody can see what this baby gonna be!!!
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PissBottleMan wrote:Here's what I dislike about Baby Books: "Sleep when your baby sleeps".
That's sounds great...in theory.
Case in point...Xavier was up most of the night on Saturday. So, I finally got him to sleep just after lunch. I layed down on the couch...got situated...tried to relax...finally (after about 30 minutes), I feel asleep...3 minutes later...crying...time to get back up.
Also, when Xavier is asleep, I can get so much done. I can pay bills, upload/order photos, clean the house, etc.
I am always tired...but I'm not always sleepy. Does that make sense?
PBM
You will be amazed at how little sleep you can get by with. Plus it's just too wonderful to see that little face staring up at you.
As far as the tired but not sleepy, I know exactly how that feels.0 -
nocode23 wrote:You will be amazed at how little sleep you can get by with.
That is indeed true. PBW wonders how I'm able to get up and go to work on such little sleep (she's still on maternity leave). Actually, I'm more awake if I get up and get out of the house. If I stay inside (like I do on the weekends), I'm more tired.
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Ziggy,
I never circumcised my son when he was born and I dont ever plan too (hes 5 now so might hurt quite a bit) Im a firm believer that its there for a reason.
I let Krohn handle this one at the time, I figured Dad is probably the best person to make that decision. My family doctor said if Dad is, then son should be too so when it comes to puberty time, its easier to talk about and theres no 'how come I have this and dad doesnt'.
I honestly felt it was a week argument and like I said, passed the issue along to Krohn to handle.
As far as infections go, (many people believe that uncircumcised boys have tons of infections) Joey has had NONE in 5 years.www.myspace.com/quietrhythm
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