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  • dunkman
    dunkman Posts: 19,646
    redrock wrote:
    You're not homophobic, are you? :eek:


    I'm not... i love my house :)
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • OutOfBreath
    OutOfBreath Posts: 1,804
    .... and how would you react, if you learnt that your son or daughter is a homosexual???

    would you freak out?? would you be able to take that in your stride??

    you know its one thing to sit from a distance and watch the entire "gay rights" and its anti-thesis "anti homosesuality" factions fight it out, but things change dramatically once you are forced to run in those shoes.

    for example would you be lookign forward to having a SON in law for your SON ... or a daughter in law for your daughter??

    I wouldn't have a problem with it, if that is what my son/daugther really wanted. No point in alienating him/her from me by being all judgemental. So I'd probably be in the "in stride" category.

    I really have nothing aginst homosexuals, and although it might be unusual to have a same-sex son-in-law, it wouldn't freak me out, nor cause me any pain in any way.

    So I'd say I wouldnt have a problem with it. Really truly.

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  • redrock
    redrock Posts: 18,341
    I'm not... i love my house :)

    Especially now that you live in 'Ecosse' :D
  • Heineken Helen
    Heineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    so none of you mind a son in law for your son or a daughter in law for your daughter??
    It would take a little while to get used to but if I was disappointed there is no way I'd let my child know that. I know how it feels to have a parent go against you and it's not nice and I'd highly advise against it. As long as my kid is happy, well then it's me and MY prejudices that will have to change and I'll have to keep showing my kid how much I love them and how they make me proud all the time.
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  • Puck78
    Puck78 Posts: 737
    .... and how would you react, if you learnt that your son or daughter is a homosexual???

    would you freak out?? would you be able to take that in your stride??

    you know its one thing to sit from a distance and watch the entire "gay rights" and its anti-thesis "anti homosesuality" factions fight it out, but things change dramatically once you are forced to run in those shoes.

    for example would you be lookign forward to having a SON in law for your SON ... or a daughter in law for your daughter??
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  • Puck78
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    what would be the problem? seriously: would there be a problem at all? come on, try to find just ONE problem in being homosexual...
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  • OutOfBreath
    OutOfBreath Posts: 1,804
    Puck78 wrote:
    what would be the problem? seriously: would there be a problem at all? come on, try to find just ONE problem in being homosexual...

    Having to put up with all the homophobic dicks out there. :)

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  • dunkman
    dunkman Posts: 19,646
    Puck78 wrote:
    what would be the problem? seriously: would there be a problem at all? come on, try to find just ONE problem in being homosexual...


    arguing over who gets the last viagra?

    becoming Chairman of the Heterosexual Society of the World?

    getting His n His matching bathrobes?

    who exactly would do the ironing in that relationship :confused:
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • To be completely honest I would have a hard time dealing with it, but I certainly wouldn't be throwing any future children out of the house if it happens. I like the idea of giving a future daughter away to a guy that will look after her.
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  • Puck78
    Puck78 Posts: 737
    To be completely honest I would have a hard time dealing with it, but I certainly wouldn't be throwing any future children out of the house if it happens. I like the idea of giving a future daughter away to a guy that will look after her.
    I know a person working with homeless people in san francisco and he told me that a lot of them are young people sent out from their homes because theiir family discovered that they are homosexual... unbelievable...
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  • thankyougrandma
    thankyougrandma Posts: 1,182
    I'd put him in a psych institute and pray god for him to come back free of that mental illness... if it's a girl it's ok, lesbians are ok



    hehehe, no i don't have kids, i would probably be surprise or stunned for a week or two then i'd get over it and would invite the new gay couples at home for a nice dinner.
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  • IndianSummer
    IndianSummer Posts: 854
    can anyone name that funny film where the dad went mad learning the son was gay or similar??
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  • JaneNY
    JaneNY Posts: 4,438
    I would take it completely in stride. The ONLY thing I want for my kids is for them to be happy and independent by the time I die. I don't need to be a grandma, I don't need to have a son-in-law, nothing. Those girls are my gift, and are separate people that were entrusted to me for a short time.
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  • IndianSummer
    IndianSummer Posts: 854
    tell me, in the 18ct century and before that. whayt did homosexuals do???

    did they stay single, or did they somehow force themselves to marry someone from the other sex??? cos surely they could not have come out in the open with it, let alone marry someone of the same sex.
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  • Byrnzie
    Byrnzie Posts: 21,037
    I don't think that anyone can honestly say they wouldn't initially be a bit shocked if they heard that their son or daughter was gay. I think that goes without saying, although I could be wrong? Although, personally, once I'd allowed it to sink in, I'd be supportive of him/her. You can't just dismiss a son or daughter for something like that. Blood/love goes deeper than that. The thing that every parent ultimately wants is for their child to be happy, and so if it turns out that the child is of a different sexual persuasion then so be it. I suppose the thing that the parent would have to keep in mind is that when al is said and done, it's not about the parent - is not, finally, the parents business. It's about the son/daughter, and their choices and decisions, and happiness. Period.
  • gobrowns19
    gobrowns19 Posts: 1,447
    I am many years off from having a kid, but when I do, I want them to be happy. Whatever they want is ok with me. I personally think the biggest problem, however, would not be between me and my child, but my child and his/her grandparents and rest of family.

    That's an interesting twist. How would you deal with that?
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  • given2fly78
    given2fly78 Posts: 404
    I don't really have an answer to that question. I don't have kids but I would like to. I'm 28 now and hope to have children within the next few years. When I was a kid, being gay was not something I was exposed to. When I was in my teens, it was slowly becoming more talked about. At first, I was grossed out (as only a teenager can be LOL). In my late teens, as I became exposed to different people in college, it became no big deal. Now, I don't think twice about gays & lesbians. To each their own, everyone should be in love!

    I think that our views change as time passes on. If I have kids by the time I'm 30, and they tell me they are gay when they are 18 I'll be 48. I'll probably feel much different about it than I may feel now, you know?

    Right now, to be completely honest I might be a little shocked - based on my feelings TODAY. More because, even though I fully support gay & lesbians, it's not something I would "expect". And I don't mean that in a bad way. I just would, without putting any thought into it, expect them to be heterosexual. Maybe because I am, and because all of our family is and because that's what I'm used to.

    I would welcome their partner into our home and our family. I would support their relationship. I will bring my children up in a household that does not hate anyone and that embraces diversity. And I would respect their feelings. And if I was disappointed, I would never EVER let my child know that I feel that way.

    I would just hope, that I too would be a grandma someday. And, I would hope that being the child of a gay or lesbian couple would not be something that cruel children would mock!
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  • decides2dream
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    seeing as i don't have children nor will i ever, i can only hypothesize. that said, i think i would be fully supportive. as many have already mentioned, my greatest desire would be for them to be happy. i mean, one need not have a child...could be your best friend, your brother/sister...and faced with that same reality. as long as they are loved, i would be happy. :) the more accepting we as a society become, the more it becomes the non-issue that it should be.



    tell me, in the 18ct century and before that. whayt did homosexuals do???

    did they stay single, or did they somehow force themselves to marry someone from the other sex??? cos surely they could not have come out in the open with it, let alone marry someone of the same sex.


    i believe many did marry as they were 'supposed' to do, and led double lives. hell, you don't even have to go that far back...i know couples alive today who did the same, and 'came out' later. personally, i am glad that while we are not quite where we should be...we are at least moving in the right direction, of acceptance..of allowing people not to live a lie, but to follow their true desires...seems far more healthy imho.

    if i may ask...why such the curiosity? homosexuality seems to be of great interest to you...any particular reason?
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  • catefrances
    catefrances Posts: 29,003
    oscar wilde was camp as row of tents and he had a wife and children.
    of course his homosexual love for lord bosie got him thrown in jail by the hypocritical classes.
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  • denverfan
    denverfan Posts: 218
    .... and how would you react, if you learnt that your son or daughter is a homosexual???

    would you freak out?? would you be able to take that in your stride??

    you know its one thing to sit from a distance and watch the entire "gay rights" and its anti-thesis "anti homosesuality" factions fight it out, but things change dramatically once you are forced to run in those shoes.

    for example would you be lookign forward to having a SON in law for your SON ... or a daughter in law for your daughter??

    When (I should say if) I have a kid and if they should they be homosexual, then it will be the same as if they werent...whats the difference? Love unconditionally...and if you think otherwise...think first about yanking kids out of your or your sposes crotch!
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