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IndianSummerIndianSummer Posts: 854
edited July 2006 in A Moving Train
.... and how would you react, if you learnt that your son or daughter is a homosexual???

would you freak out?? would you be able to take that in your stride??

you know its one thing to sit from a distance and watch the entire "gay rights" and its anti-thesis "anti homosesuality" factions fight it out, but things change dramatically once you are forced to run in those shoes.

for example would you be lookign forward to having a SON in law for your SON ... or a daughter in law for your daughter??
I have faced it, A life wasted...

Take my hand, my child of love
Come step inside my tears
Swim the magic ocean,
I've been crying all these years
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  • memememe Posts: 4,695
    Honestly, I would give him my full support.
    As a mom I'd probably worry slightly about what's ahead for him, but I certainly would not want to become part of the problem.
    ... and the will to show I will always be better than before.
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    i have two wee girls... i would be quite pleased actually as being a man myself, i know how shit we can be and i dont want them hurt or taken advantage of, etc, etc

    my only real disappointment would be if they had no kids... i wanna be a grampa :)
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    I've got a pre-teen daughter and it would be her choice - I wouldn't mind at all as long as she is happy. Personally, I think that by the time she is an adult there won't be that much 'stigma' attached to being gay. Live and let live!
  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    meme wrote:
    Honestly, I would give him my full support.
    As a mom I'd probably worry slightly about what's ahead for him, but I certainly would not want to become part of the problem.

    Well said, I would worry and I would be slightly disappointed about the no grandkids things but technology these days, eh? :D

    But I can't imagine if I had kids that they could possibly do or say anything that would make me love them less and any parent who COULD desert or abandon their child for any reason doesn't deserve to be a parent.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • siochansiochan Posts: 304
    I have a ten year old daughter and it would not bother me at all if she were gay ..... what I will say is that the thought of my baby having sex bothers me more than worrying about which gender she's in bed (or whereever) with..........

    In regards to not being a grandparent Dunk there are many ways gay couples can have children so by time our girls are grown they could have babies if they really wanted to......
    " You cannot throw a rope around the neck of an idea" .....Bobby Sands.
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    siochan wrote:

    In regards to not being a grandparent Dunk there are many ways gay couples can have children so by time our girls are grown they could have babies if they really wanted to......


    very true :)

    i just dont want them to have sex is pretty much my stance :)

    i know they will, but i just hope its with some accountant weakling geeks so that if he does something nasty to my girls i can 'unleash some wrath' :o
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    dunkman1974 wrote:
    very true :)

    i just dont want them to have sex is pretty much my stance :)

    i know they will, but i just hope its with some accountant weakling geeks so that if he does something nasty to my girls i can 'unleash some wrath' :o

    :D All dads are the same! :D When my daughter brought home a little 'love note' when she was six, my husband was already asking "who is he?" "is he in your class?", etc. I can only imagine what it will be when she brings 'friends' around as a teen!!
  • siochansiochan Posts: 304
    Dunk I don't know about you but I've raised my daughter to take no shit from anyone ..... She is a beautiful well mannered child but the moment anyone crosses her the fiery character that matches her hair kicks in ..... I feel comfortable in knowing that she's been doing kick boxing for a few years also so if she keeps with that I'd laugh in the face of anyone who tried to hurt her when she's older ........

    Then of course they'd have to deal with me ....
    I agree with you I don't really like the idea of her having sex at all !! Her father blanks those issues out of his mind like it's something that will never happen ......

    We as parents can only teach our children a certain amount the world unfortunately has to teach them the rest !! I'm glad my child doesn't grow up in the context I did !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    " You cannot throw a rope around the neck of an idea" .....Bobby Sands.
  • IndianSummerIndianSummer Posts: 854
    so none of you mind a son in law for your son or a daughter in law for your daughter??
    I have faced it, A life wasted...

    Take my hand, my child of love
    Come step inside my tears
    Swim the magic ocean,
    I've been crying all these years
  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    Doesn't seem like it! Does it bother you? Have you just found out that your child is homosexual?
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    IndianSummer wrote:
    so none of you mind a son in law for your son or a daughter in law for your daughter??

    nope!! might be hard to get my head around the idea but whatever makes them happy... rather they were happy than stuck with a guy for the sake of it... and for social conventions and all.. fuck that, if anything i'd rather they rebelled against social conventions anyway...
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • ByrnzieByrnzie Posts: 21,037
    I'd call her a todger dodger and I'd call him a Rump Ranger and then I'd continue going about my business. :D
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    redrock wrote:
    Doesn't seem like it! Does it bother you? Have you just found out that your child is homosexual?

    or is he homosexual maybe?
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    Byrnzie wrote:
    I'd call her a todger dodger and I'd call him a Rump Ranger and then I'd continue going about my business.

    and your business would be.... monkey felching... wouldnt it? ;)
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • IndianSummerIndianSummer Posts: 854
    redrock wrote:
    Does it bother you? Have you just found out that your child is homosexual?

    er... i am not becomming a parent anytime soon.

    i was just wondering how parents cope/would cope, if there was a case of homosexuality in their family.
    I have faced it, A life wasted...

    Take my hand, my child of love
    Come step inside my tears
    Swim the magic ocean,
    I've been crying all these years
  • brain of cbrain of c Posts: 5,213
    we'd have a gay old time.
    d'oh!!!!!!

    http://www.myspace.com/brain_of_c
  • IndianSummerIndianSummer Posts: 854
    dunkman1974 wrote:
    or is he homosexual maybe?

    straight, and thats straight from the heart :D
    I have faced it, A life wasted...

    Take my hand, my child of love
    Come step inside my tears
    Swim the magic ocean,
    I've been crying all these years
  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    As Dunk mentioned, would you be trying to deal with this with your parents?

    EDIT: Post below answers this.
  • siochansiochan Posts: 304
    IndianSummer wrote:
    so none of you mind a son in law for your son or a daughter in law for your daughter??

    No wouldn't bother me at all .......... as long as that person was good to my daughter I'd have no need for concern.
    " You cannot throw a rope around the neck of an idea" .....Bobby Sands.
  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    You're not homophobic, are you? :eek:
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    redrock wrote:
    You're not homophobic, are you? :eek:


    I'm not... i love my house :)
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • OutOfBreathOutOfBreath Posts: 1,804
    IndianSummer wrote:
    .... and how would you react, if you learnt that your son or daughter is a homosexual???

    would you freak out?? would you be able to take that in your stride??

    you know its one thing to sit from a distance and watch the entire "gay rights" and its anti-thesis "anti homosesuality" factions fight it out, but things change dramatically once you are forced to run in those shoes.

    for example would you be lookign forward to having a SON in law for your SON ... or a daughter in law for your daughter??

    I wouldn't have a problem with it, if that is what my son/daugther really wanted. No point in alienating him/her from me by being all judgemental. So I'd probably be in the "in stride" category.

    I really have nothing aginst homosexuals, and although it might be unusual to have a same-sex son-in-law, it wouldn't freak me out, nor cause me any pain in any way.

    So I'd say I wouldnt have a problem with it. Really truly.

    Peace
    Dan
    "YOU [humans] NEED TO BELIEVE IN THINGS THAT AREN'T TRUE. HOW ELSE CAN THEY BECOME?" - Death

    "Every judgment teeters on the brink of error. To claim absolute knowledge is to become monstrous. Knowledge is an unending adventure at the edge of uncertainty." - Frank Herbert, Dune, 1965
  • redrockredrock Posts: 18,341
    dunkman1974 wrote:
    I'm not... i love my house :)

    Especially now that you live in 'Ecosse' :D
  • Heineken HelenHeineken Helen Posts: 18,095
    IndianSummer wrote:
    so none of you mind a son in law for your son or a daughter in law for your daughter??
    It would take a little while to get used to but if I was disappointed there is no way I'd let my child know that. I know how it feels to have a parent go against you and it's not nice and I'd highly advise against it. As long as my kid is happy, well then it's me and MY prejudices that will have to change and I'll have to keep showing my kid how much I love them and how they make me proud all the time.
    The Astoria??? Orgazmic!
    Verona??? it's all surmountable
    Dublin 23.08.06 "The beauty of Ireland, right there!"
    Wembley? We all believe!
    Copenhagen?? your light made us stars
    Chicago 07? And love
    What a different life
    Had I not found this love with you
  • Puck78Puck78 Posts: 737
    IndianSummer wrote:
    .... and how would you react, if you learnt that your son or daughter is a homosexual???

    would you freak out?? would you be able to take that in your stride??

    you know its one thing to sit from a distance and watch the entire "gay rights" and its anti-thesis "anti homosesuality" factions fight it out, but things change dramatically once you are forced to run in those shoes.

    for example would you be lookign forward to having a SON in law for your SON ... or a daughter in law for your daughter??
    are you dick cheney?
    www.amnesty.org
    www.amnesty.org.uk
  • Puck78Puck78 Posts: 737
    what would be the problem? seriously: would there be a problem at all? come on, try to find just ONE problem in being homosexual...
    www.amnesty.org
    www.amnesty.org.uk
  • OutOfBreathOutOfBreath Posts: 1,804
    Puck78 wrote:
    what would be the problem? seriously: would there be a problem at all? come on, try to find just ONE problem in being homosexual...

    Having to put up with all the homophobic dicks out there. :)

    Peace
    Dan
    "YOU [humans] NEED TO BELIEVE IN THINGS THAT AREN'T TRUE. HOW ELSE CAN THEY BECOME?" - Death

    "Every judgment teeters on the brink of error. To claim absolute knowledge is to become monstrous. Knowledge is an unending adventure at the edge of uncertainty." - Frank Herbert, Dune, 1965
  • dunkmandunkman Posts: 19,646
    Puck78 wrote:
    what would be the problem? seriously: would there be a problem at all? come on, try to find just ONE problem in being homosexual...


    arguing over who gets the last viagra?

    becoming Chairman of the Heterosexual Society of the World?

    getting His n His matching bathrobes?

    who exactly would do the ironing in that relationship :confused:
    oh scary... 40000 morbidly obese christians wearing fanny packs invading europe is probably the least scariest thing since I watched an edited version of The Care Bears movie in an extremely brightly lit cinema.
  • A Surprise LeftA Surprise Left Posts: 743
    To be completely honest I would have a hard time dealing with it, but I certainly wouldn't be throwing any future children out of the house if it happens. I like the idea of giving a future daughter away to a guy that will look after her.
    The wind is blowing cold
    Have we lost our way tonight?
    Have we lost our hope to sorrow?

    Feels like were all alone
    Running further from what’s right
    And there are no more heroes to follow

    So what are we becoming?
    Where did we go wrong?
  • Puck78Puck78 Posts: 737
    A Surprise Left wrote:
    To be completely honest I would have a hard time dealing with it, but I certainly wouldn't be throwing any future children out of the house if it happens. I like the idea of giving a future daughter away to a guy that will look after her.
    I know a person working with homeless people in san francisco and he told me that a lot of them are young people sent out from their homes because theiir family discovered that they are homosexual... unbelievable...
    www.amnesty.org
    www.amnesty.org.uk
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