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jammergirljammergirl Posts: 599
edited May 2009 in All Encompassing Trip
okay, sorry this might be a little long, but just need to rant.
So, yesterday I was pulling out of a parking spot at my gym, when i bumped into another car behind me and dented their front fender. I won't lie, my first thought was "I could just keep driving" but i knew my concience would make me feel like shit. so i left a note apologizing and my phone #. I talked to the lady this morning and she was sooo grateful that I even left anything. so i don't want to get my insurance involved because i'm still on my parent's family plan and not as covered as i thought and its most likely going to be all out of pocket. the estimates i've been getting have been around the $400-700 range.

so my question is...someone assure me i did the right thing!! this is gonna set me back soo much! i've been saving up to move and i live on a waitress salary, so someone assure me that my good karma is just overflowing right now! thanks guys...
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  • WildsWilds Posts: 4,329
    Totally did the right thing. You are the person who leaves a note, and not the person who leaves the scene.

    That is worth more than $700.00 IMO.
  • Thoughts_ArriveThoughts_Arrive Melbourne, Australia Posts: 15,165
    Good karma will come your way.
    Better than having a guilty conscience and having bad karma come to you.
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  • DewieCoxDewieCox Posts: 11,430
    You'll easily get $4-700 back once your karma gets cashed in.
  • pearljammerpearljammer Posts: 237
    You did the right thing... Now that we've got that out of the way, I think 7 hundred sounds a little high for a dented fender. How new was her car? Did you crack the material, or can it be pounded out?
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  • jammergirljammergirl Posts: 599
    thanks for the encouraging words, guys.
    as far as the fender, its pretty dented. I thought at first maybe someone could just pound it out but its' all scratched too. So it would be way easier just to replace the whole thing. yeah, the estimates have been in the higher $600-700 range, so I think that's the cost I'm going to end up eating.

    but shit, when pearl jam finally does the west coast, if I don't score in the ticket lottery then something is messed up!!! jeez....
    the funny part is, everyone I tell is all "aw, i wouldv'e just driven away!" and in the same breath they'll have a story about walking up to their car and seeing it dinged up with no note. soo....
  • SOLAT319SOLAT319 Posts: 4,594
    Hey chica! You SO did the right thing! Good karma will find you!
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  • jammergirljammergirl Posts: 599
    SOLAT319 wrote:
    Hey chica! You SO did the right thing! Good karma will find you!


    lol, thanks selin!! that's what i keep telling myself!
  • South of SeattleSouth of Seattle West Seattle Posts: 10,724
    Once I did the same thing and bailed. Karma got me because I turned and hit pole holding up a parking structure lightly with the tire of my car and my axle broke. Once that happened I instantly thought about the time I hit the car in the parking lot. :oops:

    So I don't fuck with Karma anymore :)

    I was a piss poor college student at the time, one person on campus saw me do it. Luckily I knew, and she said "You better get outta here!" So without thinking I bailed.

    So basically, you did the right thing.
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  • Prince Of DorknessPrince Of Dorkness Posts: 3,763
    jammergirl wrote:
    this is gonna set me back soo much! i've been saving up to move and i live on a waitress salary, so someone assure me that my good karma is just overflowing right now! thanks guys...


    you should have gotten your insurance to pay for it. A dented bumper with no personal injury isn't going to change your premiums much more than maybe $50 for a year. If that. If anything.

    See.. That's what insurance is for.

    I mean. yeah.. you did the right karmic thing by leaving a note, although if you hadn't, her "uninsured motorist/hit and run" would have covered it.

    But you can sleep better, I guess.
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  • coachchriscoachchris Kelowna, British Columbia, Canada Posts: 749
    jammergirl wrote:
    but shit, when pearl jam finally does the west coast, if I don't score in the ticket lottery then something is messed up!!! jeez....
    the funny part is, everyone I tell is all "aw, i wouldv'e just driven away!" and in the same breath they'll have a story about walking up to their car and seeing it dinged up with no note. soo....


    Who knows....maybe a senior 10c member will have great seats and an extra ticket to a show and offer you the other one? Karma works in mysterious ways and there's plenty of love that gets shared here in the pit! :D You did the right thing!!
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  • mfc2006mfc2006 HTOWN Posts: 37,484
    you did the right thing, no doubt about it. i accidentally hit the side of someone's car with my door in a parking lot once & it left a good ding/scrape. i left a note & they called me within 2 hours and were so shocked that i actually left a note.
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  • ArcticangelArcticangel Posts: 1,443
    It's all about karma - and you've got some good karma coming your way.
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  • justamjustam Posts: 21,412
    Well, considering you damaged her car, how could you have just driven off? :geek:
    (So, in other words,"Yes, you did the right thing.")
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  • CJMST3KCJMST3K Posts: 9,722
    You did what YOU would have wanted someone else to do. You did the right thing.

    You may want to ask the person if they mind if you save up over the next 2 months to pay for it, being a waitress and all. They will probably agree. :)
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  • jammergirljammergirl Posts: 599
    Jasunmark wrote:
    jammergirl wrote:
    this is gonna set me back soo much! i've been saving up to move and i live on a waitress salary, so someone assure me that my good karma is just overflowing right now! thanks guys...


    you should have gotten your insurance to pay for it. A dented bumper with no personal injury isn't going to change your premiums much more than maybe $50 for a year. If that. If anything.

    See.. That's what insurance is for.

    I mean. yeah.. you did the right karmic thing by leaving a note, although if you hadn't, her "uninsured motorist/hit and run" would have covered it.

    But you can sleep better, I guess.

    Well, I didn't realize I was still under my parents' family plan, I thought I had my own policy. my mom and i looked up the paperwork and if i did start a claim for this, their rates would go through the roof for the next few years. so in the long run its going to be cheaper if i just pay for it.
  • jammergirljammergirl Posts: 599
    justam wrote:
    Well, considering you damaged her car, how could you have just driven off? :geek:
    (So, in other words,"Yes, you did the right thing.")

    yes, this was my first thought. but i had been getting so many negative/mocking responses from coworkers and aquiantances that "you should've just driven away! now look at what you have to deal with!" it was starting to get to me. I guess i just needed some assurance that i wasn't a rube.
  • Prince Of DorknessPrince Of Dorkness Posts: 3,763
    jammergirl wrote:
    my mom and i looked up the paperwork and if i did start a claim for this, their rates would go through the roof for the next few years. so in the long run its going to be cheaper if i just pay for it.


    If her rates would go through the roof for a simple dented bumper, you need a new insurance company.
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  • normnorm Posts: 31,146
    jammergirl wrote:
    justam wrote:
    Well, considering you damaged her car, how could you have just driven off? :geek:
    (So, in other words,"Yes, you did the right thing.")

    yes, this was my first thought. but i had been getting so many negative/mocking responses from coworkers and acquaintances that "you should've just driven away! now look at what you have to deal with!" it was starting to get to me. I guess i just needed some assurance that i wasn't a rube.


    no offense but your coworkers and acquaintances are tools....you did the right thing which is to say you did what you were supposed to do :)
  • CJMST3KCJMST3K Posts: 9,722
    jammergirl wrote:
    justam wrote:
    Well, considering you damaged her car, how could you have just driven off? :geek:
    (So, in other words,"Yes, you did the right thing.")

    yes, this was my first thought. but i had been getting so many negative/mocking responses from coworkers and aquiantances that "you should've just driven away! now look at what you have to deal with!" it was starting to get to me. I guess i just needed some assurance that i wasn't a rube.


    That doesn't mean that your coworkers are right. That just means your coworkers are not-so-good people.
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  • mfc2006mfc2006 HTOWN Posts: 37,484
    Jasunmark wrote:
    jammergirl wrote:
    my mom and i looked up the paperwork and if i did start a claim for this, their rates would go through the roof for the next few years. so in the long run its going to be cheaper if i just pay for it.


    If her rates would go through the roof for a simple dented bumper, you need a new insurance company.

    that's what i was thinking too. my wife got into an accident & damaged our car & the other car. our rates didn't go up at all. you (& your parents) might want to review your policy & start shopping for a new one.
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  • CJMST3KCJMST3K Posts: 9,722
    mfc2006 wrote:
    Jasunmark wrote:
    jammergirl wrote:
    my mom and i looked up the paperwork and if i did start a claim for this, their rates would go through the roof for the next few years. so in the long run its going to be cheaper if i just pay for it.


    If her rates would go through the roof for a simple dented bumper, you need a new insurance company.

    that's what i was thinking too. my wife got into an accident & damaged our car & the other car. our rates didn't go up at all. you (& your parents) might want to review your policy & start shopping for a new one.


    I think when insurance has a payout, they'll charge you more than that amount over time. Probably better to pay it yourself. Or maybe if you ask the person if THEY will pay for it, then you'll pay then $100 each month for 10 months, so they'll earn $300 out of it, and it will be more gradual on your wallet!
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  • BlackThirteenBlackThirteen Posts: 423
    You did the right thing. I'm not gonna lie to you and say that something good will happen to you because of karma because that is unforeseen. Something good could happen to you tomorrow or years from now or never at all. It's really all a toss up in my opinion. Don't get me wrong I would like to believe that karma it's just hard sometimes. I respect what you did (for all that's worth. I mean I'm just another faceless dweller of the internet).
  • CJMST3KCJMST3K Posts: 9,722
    BlackThirteen wrote:
    (for all that's worth. I mean I'm just another faceless dweller of the internet).

    your webcam is on. you're in your underpants. we can see you right now as you're reading this.


    :P
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  • Drowned OutDrowned Out Posts: 6,056
    CJMST3K wrote:


    I think when insurance has a payout, they'll charge you more than that amount over time. Probably better to pay it yourself. Or maybe if you ask the person if THEY will pay for it, then you'll pay then $100 each month for 10 months, so they'll earn $300 out of it, and it will be more gradual on your wallet!

    this is why insurance is such a f'in scam :twisted: Even if it only goes up $15 a month or something, they'll get their money back...
    ...and good luck getting a stranger to allow a payment plan :lol:
    The OP def did the only thing a person with any moral fibre would do...besides...if someone saw you do it and got your plate, and you chose to leave the scene, you could have been in a lot more then $6-$700 worth of trouble...
  • pearljammerpearljammer Posts: 237
    Since we're on the topic of karma, I always find it funny that karma is used in the wrong context. In true eastern philosophy, the term 'karma' literally means 'action' and you develop karmic debt by taking action based on preconceived thought or intent. So there really is no good or bad karma, karma just is, if you put too much thought into your actions. It's like the counter force to just going with the flow. Now, your first thought was to leave a note, so I'd say you are a good person and that you didn't develop any karmic debt. :)
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  • BlackThirteenBlackThirteen Posts: 423
    CJMST3K wrote:
    BlackThirteen wrote:
    (for all that's worth. I mean I'm just another faceless dweller of the internet).

    your webcam is on. you're in your underpants. we can see you right now as you're reading this.


    :P

    oh crap! better turn my webcam off :p
  • mickeyratmickeyrat Posts: 40,774
    jammergirl wrote:
    okay, sorry this might be a little long, but just need to rant.
    So, yesterday I was pulling out of a parking spot at my gym, when i bumped into another car behind me and dented their front fender. I won't lie, my first thought was "I could just keep driving" but i knew my concience would make me feel like shit. so i left a note apologizing and my phone #. I talked to the lady this morning and she was sooo grateful that I even left anything. so i don't want to get my insurance involved because i'm still on my parent's family plan and not as covered as i thought and its most likely going to be all out of pocket. the estimates i've been getting have been around the $400-700 range.

    so my question is...someone assure me i did the right thing!! this is gonna set me back soo much! i've been saving up to move and i live on a waitress salary, so someone assure me that my good karma is just overflowing right now! thanks guys...
    Whose been getting the estimates? The other driver? If so you v\can get your own. I know it's a hassle , but the other driver should be pleased you are willing to do whats right.
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  • Prince Of DorknessPrince Of Dorkness Posts: 3,763
    CJMST3K wrote:
    I think when insurance has a payout, they'll charge you more than that amount over time. Probably better to pay it yourself. Or maybe if you ask the person if THEY will pay for it, then you'll pay then $100 each month for 10 months, so they'll earn $300 out of it, and it will be more gradual on your wallet!


    that didn't happen to me. I got into a couple little fender benders in parking lots... one was my fault.. and no.. my rate didn't go up at all.
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