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milarsomilarso Posts: 1,280
edited April 2009 in All Encompassing Trip
So for the last couple of months I've been seeing this girl, and everything has been going well. I like her a lot and we seemed to really click.
Anyway, she works at this summer camp up in northern Michigan, and I've known for awhile that she was going to be leaving, and I never expected her to try to keep things going between us all summer. Like I said, we've only been seeing each other a couple of months.
But I still seemed to have gotten kind of attached, and have been feeling pretty down now that she's leaving.
She takes off on Saturday, and she's asked me to come visit and stuff, and I probably will.
But it's still kind of a bummer.
"The dude abides. I don't know about you, but I take comfort in that. It's good knowin' he's out there. The Dude. Takin' her easy for all us sinners."
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  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    milarso wrote:
    So for the last couple of months I've been seeing this girl, and everything has been going well. I like her a lot and we seemed to really click.
    Anyway, she works at this summer camp up in northern Michigan, and I've known for awhile that she was going to be leaving, and I never expected her to try to keep things going between us all summer. Like I said, we've only been seeing each other a couple of months.
    But I still seemed to have gotten kind of attached, and have been feeling pretty down now that she's leaving.
    She takes off on Saturday, and she's asked me to come visit and stuff, and I probably will.
    But it's still kind of a bummer.

    I did something similar to that... started dating this girl at work through spring and summer knowing she was heading off to college in the fall. It was supposed to just be a fun fling for a few months and it was, but I also got kinda attached to her and vice versa. We didn't intend to keep things going, but once she left we both wanted to see each other so I went to visit a few times and things were awesome.

    Then she met another guy, spent a few weeks jerking me around about it, asking me to visit then hustling me off when I did so she could go hook up with him, and ended up ripping out my heart and turning me into the cold, cynical, hateful son of a bitch I am now.

    Hope it goes better for you!
  • milarsomilarso Posts: 1,280
    soulsinging wrote:

    I did something similar to that... started dating this girl at work through spring and summer knowing she was heading off to college in the fall. It was supposed to just be a fun fling for a few months and it was, but I also got kinda attached to her and vice versa. We didn't intend to keep things going, but once she left we both wanted to see each other so I went to visit a few times and things were awesome.

    Then she met another guy, spent a few weeks jerking me around about it, asking me to visit then hustling me off when I did so she could go hook up with him, and ended up ripping out my heart and turning me into the cold, cynical, hateful son of a bitch I am now.

    Hope it goes better for you!

    It's so weird too, man. Because I have never really been into the whole relationship business. I'm normally more into causal type things. This girl was just so different. I don't know what's going to happen with it. Obviously, at this exact moment, I'd like things to keep going. But who knows? Just sucks to feel this way.
    "The dude abides. I don't know about you, but I take comfort in that. It's good knowin' he's out there. The Dude. Takin' her easy for all us sinners."
  • soulsingingsoulsinging Posts: 13,202
    milarso wrote:
    soulsinging wrote:
    I did something similar to that... started dating this girl at work through spring and summer knowing she was heading off to college in the fall. It was supposed to just be a fun fling for a few months and it was, but I also got kinda attached to her and vice versa. We didn't intend to keep things going, but once she left we both wanted to see each other so I went to visit a few times and things were awesome.

    Then she met another guy, spent a few weeks jerking me around about it, asking me to visit then hustling me off when I did so she could go hook up with him, and ended up ripping out my heart and turning me into the cold, cynical, hateful son of a bitch I am now.

    Hope it goes better for you!

    It's so weird too, man. Because I have never really been into the whole relationship business. I'm normally more into causal type things. This girl was just so different. I don't know what's going to happen with it. Obviously, at this exact moment, I'd like things to keep going. But who knows? Just sucks to feel this way.

    Yeah, the tension and uncertainty was unpleasant. But it could be worse. A lot worse. And if you spend your time dwelling on the uncertainty or missing them, and not enough on the fact that they're awesome and you're into them, you risk hastening a painful end as I did.
  • PJGARDENPJGARDEN Posts: 1,484
    Sorry to hear that :( She is coming back after the summer right? My advice would be to just try to be a friend. Talk to her when you can and go see her if you can. Don't put any pressure on yourself to maintain a relationship. If things are still going well when she gets back, you two can pick up where you left off. If this girl is different from other girls, you will have no problem starting things back up again. Good Luck!!
  • Given to...Given to... Wyoming Posts: 4,997
    Mmmm summer camp counselor... ;)

    She will not only be on your mind, but will no doubt be on the minds of numerous other youngsters.

    How does she feel about the separation? Sure fire way to find out "wus up", tell her you are applying for a job at the camp too.
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  • PoncierPoncier Posts: 17,424
    Is it a band camp?
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  • milarsomilarso Posts: 1,280
    Given to... wrote:
    Mmmm summer camp counselor... ;)

    She will not only be on your mind, but will no doubt be on the minds of numerous other youngsters.

    How does she feel about the separation? Sure fire way to find out "wus up", tell her you are applying for a job at the camp too.

    Haha- She's not a counselor, she's like an administrator. She hired all the counselors. And she wanted me to come up, she told me she would hire me to work there with her. But it wouldn't have worked out for me, because I have a dog, and couldn't bring her (my dog) with me.
    "The dude abides. I don't know about you, but I take comfort in that. It's good knowin' he's out there. The Dude. Takin' her easy for all us sinners."
  • milarsomilarso Posts: 1,280
    PJGARDEN wrote:
    Sorry to hear that :( She is coming back after the summer right? My advice would be to just try to be a friend. Talk to her when you can and go see her if you can. Don't put any pressure on yourself to maintain a relationship. If things are still going well when she gets back, you two can pick up where you left off. If this girl is different from other girls, you will have no problem starting things back up again. Good Luck!!

    I'm trying not to put any pressure on myself or her to make this some kind of commitment. I am trying really hard to tell myself to just ride it out and see what happens when she comes home. It's just hard, because I got kind of into a routine with her, and now it's ending. It's one of those things where you know what you are doing is the right thing, but it still makes you feel shitty.
    "The dude abides. I don't know about you, but I take comfort in that. It's good knowin' he's out there. The Dude. Takin' her easy for all us sinners."
  • mickeyratmickeyrat Posts: 42,320
    milarso wrote:
    PJGARDEN wrote:
    Sorry to hear that :( She is coming back after the summer right? My advice would be to just try to be a friend. Talk to her when you can and go see her if you can. Don't put any pressure on yourself to maintain a relationship. If things are still going well when she gets back, you two can pick up where you left off. If this girl is different from other girls, you will have no problem starting things back up again. Good Luck!!

    I'm trying not to put any pressure on myself or her to make this some kind of commitment. I am trying really hard to tell myself to just ride it out and see what happens when she comes home. It's just hard, because I got kind of into a routine with her, and now it's ending. It's one of those things where you know what you are doing is the right thing, but it still makes you feel shitty.
    Cases like this , doing the right thing IS a shitty feeling.
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  • WobbieWobbie Posts: 30,687
    Summer jobs...........goddam, you're all making me feel old! :shock:
    If I had known then what I know now...

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