All I can be is me
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"If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.... Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.... Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.... Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.... I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.... I may be your spouse, your parent, your offsping, your friend, or your colleague... If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right -- for me... To put up with me is the first step to understanding me... Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness... And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.... " (Excerpted from Please Understand Me II by DavidKeirsey)
"If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.... Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.... Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.... Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.... I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.... I may be your spouse, your parent, your offsping, your friend, or your colleague... If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right -- for me... To put up with me is the first step to understanding me... Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness... And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.... " (Excerpted from Please Understand Me II by DavidKeirsey)
If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they'll kill you.
Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.
-Oscar Wilde
Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.
-Oscar Wilde
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I don't see myself as getting hostile when others don't see eye to eye with me. I just state how things seem from my present perspective and weigh it against everyone else's thoughts coupled with the manner in which they choose to present them to me. If that wasn't the case, my purpose for being here would no longer exist. I'm here to learn, share, raise awareness, test my own belief's and prejudices. I'm not here to simply tell others how life 'really' is...I'm open to the crazy idea that I might just be wrong...not know it all...not have all the answers just yet. I don't push my 'reality' as the only one possible. I listen and keep changing.
Man is least himself when he talks in his own person. Give him a mask, and he will tell you the truth.
-Oscar Wilde
it all comes down to understanding why the other person feels that way.