this is the right thing... right?

CHANGEinWAVES

My ex left everything in the house for me to 'deal with' before he filed for bankruptcy. I asked him many times if he wanted anything... He said no.

Now as I go through things I'm finding photos of his childhood and his father (who passed away when he was 19). I was planning on mailing them to him. I think it's the right thing to do but he hasn't once responded to a call text or email in the past 2 months and they have all been 'need to know' things nothing unimportant. I guess the bitter side of me is getting to me... But I did love his dad and feel keeping these photos would be wrong. I guess I answered my own question.

so what would be your thoughts on the matter anyhow?

vduboise

I would keep them. Someday he would want them and would blame you when its gone. If you have room for it, hold on to it until his attitude comes around-

Wilds

Send them to him.

Thorns2010

I'd say for right now just hang on to them since he doesn't seem to want to talk to you. And in time, hopefully he'll come around and be glad that you hung on to them for him.

pearljgirl2010

I would hold on to them for now...definitely do not get rid of them...those are things than can't be replaced.

DinghyDog

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CreedDisease

Send them to him....If you are moving on, he's moving on, and things are bitter, then there are a couple of ways this can go down... 1) you never send them to him (and he should have them), or, 2) it looks like a desperate way to get back in his life later, and will be difficult to hear from you... If nothing else, maybe this nice qesture will make everything you both are going through a bit more smooth? I don't know everything that is going on and I made a bunch of assumptions...

CHANGEinWAVES

I guess I could address them to his mother and say something like 'I thought these should stay in your family' ... I am not one to trash photos, but I also don't want to come across as trying to reconnect with him. I had never thought of holding them for him, that's a possibility though I'd fear something would happen to them then he'd come wanting them and I'd be to blame.

At first when all this happened he had mentioned wanting to scan ALL our photos so he'd have a copy, but that was before he fell off the face of the earth.

PearlOfAGirl

I'd hold on to them until he decided to come pick them up...

justam

If you are still on good terms with his mother, send them to her. That way, you won't have to carry them around and yet you won't be guilty of throwing them away either.