i have NEVER. . .

decides2dream

run into an ex-boyfried.....EVER.

i see all these threads that mention exes....running into them, hanging out with them, etc. i literally have not even SEEN an ex after the fact......nor even run into a guy who was a casual fling, nada. my first love yea...i purposely avoided people/places for a while after our split, made sure he'd not be around b/c it didn't end well, took it hard, etc.....but anyone else, never made any special effort to avoid. and it does kinda amaze me b/c i live not very far from where i grew up, so you'd think at some point i'd bump into one. sure, one major BF lived in bermuda/england.....and some flings were on holiday, etc....but yea, the bulk of the guys should be around somewhere. bizarre?

anyone else the same? or any other bizarre incidents of things/occurances you've never had, think odd.......

tybird

It's been years since I have run into any formers.......I hardly ever run into people I know and haven't seen in years. :twisted:

decides2dream

tybird wrote:

It's been years since I have run into any formers.......I hardly ever run into people I know and haven't seen in years. :twisted:

but you HAVE, at some point anyway. it's never happened with me and i am starting to think it may be a bit odd. then again, the contact some people keep with exes i think is odd....so maybe it isn't so odd that i haven't. hahaha. i don't run into too many people from my past period, but i do run into a lot of my former students. one just became waiter at our fave italian place! THAT was odd, and awkward....hahaha. firstly, to realize he's old enough to serve alcohol - ack! and secondly, him seeing me drink, and a few.....hahahahaha. mostly i run into them in the supermarket ringing up my groceries. i hope one day i don't ever end up like the character in wit....having a former student give me quite an invasive exam...and also diagnosing me with cancer! :shock: anyhoo......the awkward elevator thread got me thinking about it. i think it would be kinda cool to run into my first love one day. dunno, maybe not. hahaha. of course, i'd want to look good at the time.

Drowned Out

Haven't you been with hubby since the stone age? Not very surprising in that case :P

CHANGEinWAVES

I thought this was going to be a game of ...I have never

Heineken Helen

Hmm... I don't think I have either which is quite strange... well even when I lived at home, most of the guys I went out with were from out of town... and Dublin's quite a big small town... I've a couple of exes in Paris and London too so I guess it's kinda understandable.

tybird

decides2dream wrote:

tybird wrote:

It's been years since I have run into any formers.......I hardly ever run into people I know and haven't seen in years. :twisted:

but you HAVE, at some point anyway. it's never happened with me and i am starting to think it may be a bit odd. then again, the contact some people keep with exes i think is odd....so maybe it isn't so odd that i haven't. hahaha. i don't run into too many people from my past period, but i do run into a lot of my former students. one just became waiter at our fave italian place! THAT was odd, and awkward....hahaha. firstly, to realize he's old enough to serve alcohol - ack! and secondly, him seeing me drink, and a few.....hahahahaha. mostly i run into them in the supermarket ringing up my groceries. i hope one day i don't ever end up like the character in wit....having a former student give me quite an invasive exam...and also diagnosing me with cancer! :shock: anyhoo......the awkward elevator thread got me thinking about it. i think it would be kinda cool to run into my first love one day. dunno, maybe not. hahaha. of course, i'd want to look good at the time.

I'm thinking it has happened maybe four times over the last 25 years or so.....none since probably 2001

Flagg

I almost never run into people from high school and there were 950 people in my graduating class!

I run into one ex girlfriend all the time because she is also my wife's best friend. We dated for years in high school and college and knew each other since we were little. But it eventually evolved into a brother/sister kind of thing and we are good friends now and it would have never worked out. She introduced me to my future, now current wife of almost 13 years so go figure.

I did meet up the other day with a buddy from high school that I hadn't seen in years.

Other than that, I run into almost no one.

decides2dream

Drowned Out wrote:

Haven't you been with hubby since the stone age? Not very surprising in that case :P

nice. :P
um, if you mean haven't i been married a good long time, yes....very true. however, i DID have quite a few BFs before him, and yes after/during our time together....we weren't *exclusive* for the entirety of our relationship. i WAS in college, went abroad a long while, etc. and even if we have been together since the 'stone age' :evil: the point is, even before then...or at ANY point...i've never run into an ex! i think it's a bit odd, that's all...... :P


tybird....4x is still 4x more than me. i only had one 'bad split'.....and really, how 'bad' can it be at 17, so really...it might be cool. hahahaha.



flagg - you married an exGFs friend? not to get too 'personal'....but if you were intimate, yikes! hahahahaha. i almost didn't date my husband b/c he had a 'thing' with an old GF of mine....and i always disliked how many people, espe HS/college-age....seemingly swapped BFs/GFs....just seems, weird/freaky to me. i don't want a close friend of mine knowing/experiencing my husband's goods, ya know? oooohhhhhh, and now i see....it didn't last. hmmmmmm, interesting. altho i guess once it got bro/sis-like...it was OK she introduced you to your current wife. either way, this one woman seems to have a lot of power over your love-life. haha.

joint in a tree

the only time i ran into an ex bf was at one of the Jones Beach shows in 2000. We'd broken up sometime around '98, after a 3 year relationship, and it was actually good to see him, especially at a PJ show. I think i even introduced him to my boyfriend at the time, who is now my husband.
We chatted for a bit, then went our separate ways. Certain songs during that show definitely brought me back a bit.
Damn, that was a LONG time ago.

decides2dream

joint in a tree wrote:

the only time i ran into an ex bf was at one of the Jones Beach shows in 2000. We'd broken up sometime around '98, after a 3 year relationship, and it was actually good to see him, especially at a PJ show. I think i even introduced him to my boyfriend at the time, who is now my husband.
We chatted for a bit, then went our separate ways. Certain songs during that show definitely brought me back a bit.
Damn, that was a LONG time ago.

a fellow long islander!
sadly, i wasn't at that show. believe it or not, i wasn't *into* pj back then! :shock: i was a late bloomer.....:P



anyhoo.....nice story! i think that's the "perfect" run into an ex story. well that or a passionate one-night affair if he's still hot. hahaha. no, seriously...that's just the kinda thing i think would be cool.

Drowned Out

decides2dream wrote:

Drowned Out wrote:

Haven't you been with hubby since the stone age? Not very surprising in that case :P

nice. :P
um, if you mean haven't i been married a good long time, yes....very true. however, i DID have quite a few BFs before him, and yes after/during our time together....we weren't *exclusive* for the entirety of our relationship. i WAS in college, went abroad a long while, etc. and even if we have been together since the 'stone age' :evil: the point is, even before then...or at ANY point...i've never run into an ex! i think it's a bit odd, that's all...... :P

quite a few, huh? hmmm :P
Sorry, lil spunky today.
That IS odd...I used to run into the first girl I was serious with fricking EVERYWHERE...it sucked, cause I was still really into her. Always ruined my night to have to see her with her new bf. I think I'm old n jaded enough now to not care about running into any of them...in fact, I can't think of one that I wouldn't WANT to run into....(over? :twisted: )

Flagg

decides2dream wrote:

Drowned Out wrote:

Haven't you been with hubby since the stone age? Not very surprising in that case :P

nice. :P
um, if you mean haven't i been married a good long time, yes....very true. however, i DID have quite a few BFs before him, and yes after/during our time together....we weren't *exclusive* for the entirety of our relationship. i WAS in college, went abroad a long while, etc. and even if we have been together since the 'stone age' :evil: the point is, even before then...or at ANY point...i've never run into an ex! i think it's a bit odd, that's all...... :P


tybird....4x is still 4x more than me. i only had one 'bad split'.....and really, how 'bad' can it be at 17, so really...it might be cool. hahahaha.



flagg - you married an exGFs friend? not to get too 'personal'....but if you were intimate, yikes! hahahahaha. i almost didn't date my husband b/c he had a 'thing' with an old GF of mine....and i always disliked how many people, espe HS/college-age....seemingly swapped BFs/GFs....just seems, weird/freaky to me. i don't want a close friend of mine knowing/experiencing my husband's goods, ya know? oooohhhhhh, and now i see....it didn't last. hmmmmmm, interesting. altho i guess once it got bro/sis-like...it was OK she introduced you to your current wife. either way, this one woman seems to have a lot of power over your love-life. haha.

Yeah, I did, but there was a space of a couple of years between dating the old girlfriend (still a friend) and the one who I wound up marrying, so it wasn't awkward at all. Still isn't. My friend (her name is Jamie) is married too and has her own life and family and we all get along really well. And I do consider her more of a sister now than anything. I have known her since we were 5.

decides2dream

Drowned Out wrote:

quite a few, huh? hmmm :P
Sorry, lil spunky today.
That IS odd...I used to run into the first girl I was serious with fricking EVERYWHERE...it sucked, cause I was still really into her. Always ruined my night to have to see her with her new bf. I think I'm old n jaded enough now to not care about running into any of them...in fact, I can't think of one that I wouldn't WANT to run into....(over? :twisted: )

just what the world needs...yet another jaded man. :?
and yea...i thin it would be cool to run into one or two of em. and that english guy - scary thought! - he was/is 10 years older than me....absolutely gorgeous....i wonder what he looks like now, at 50?! :shock: hahahahaha.

Flagg wrote:

Yeah, I did, but there was a space of a couple of years between dating the old girlfriend (still a friend) and the one who I wound up marrying, so it wasn't awkward at all. Still isn't. My friend (her name is Jamie) is married too and has her own life and family and we all get along really well. And I do consider her more of a sister now than anything. I have known her since we were 5.

none the less...the initial thought for me anyway.....would be this chick has seen (and possibly experienced) my BFs/husbands.....well, ya know. :oops: hahahahaha. obviously, i got over it too. married almost 17 years now, yikes.....and i have NO idea what happened to that chick anyway, we were never close friends...probably also why i was able to get past it. and yea, i was 18 when i had my 'first date' with my husband, so sure....bit more immature thinking back then.

Snaggletooth

decides2dream wrote:

run into an ex-boyfried.....EVER.

i see all these threads that mention exes....running into them, hanging out with them, etc. i literally have not even SEEN an ex after the fact......nor even run into a guy who was a casual fling, nada. my first love yea...i purposely avoided people/places for a while after our split, made sure he'd not be around b/c it didn't end well, took it hard, etc.....but anyone else, never made any special effort to avoid. and it does kinda amaze me b/c i live not very far from where i grew up, so you'd think at some point i'd bump into one. sure, one major BF lived in bermuda/england.....and some flings were on holiday, etc....but yea, the bulk of the guys should be around somewhere. bizarre?

anyone else the same? or any other bizarre incidents of things/occurances you've never had, think odd.......

I think you should stop a minute and think about this. Do some deep reflecting. These people are trying to tell you something.

blackredyellow

decides2dream wrote:

tybird wrote:

It's been years since I have run into any formers.......I hardly ever run into people I know and haven't seen in years. :twisted:

but you HAVE, at some point anyway. it's never happened with me and i am starting to think it may be a bit odd. then again, the contact some people keep with exes i think is odd....so maybe it isn't so odd that i haven't. hahaha. i

Maybe there weren't really any exes...

Maybe your past relationship memories will someday unravel into a montage like in "A Beautiful Mind" when we learned that all of the the places that John Nash visited for his secret government assignment were really rundown old vacant buildings.

I'm just saying....

justam

decides2dream wrote:

run into an ex-boyfried.....EVER.

i see all these threads that mention exes....running into them, hanging out with them, etc. i literally have not even SEEN an ex after the fact......nor even run into a guy who was a casual fling, nada. my first love yea...i purposely avoided people/places for a while after our split, made sure he'd not be around b/c it didn't end well, took it hard, etc.....but anyone else, never made any special effort to avoid. and it does kinda amaze me b/c i live not very far from where i grew up, so you'd think at some point i'd bump into one. sure, one major BF lived in bermuda/england.....and some flings were on holiday, etc....but yea, the bulk of the guys should be around somewhere. bizarre?

anyone else the same? or any other bizarre incidents of things/occurances you've never had, think odd.......

I don't have too many ex-boyfriends AND I'll probably never run into them anyway because I live so far from the West Coast. It's nice to be so comfortably far away!! :geek:

decides2dream

justam wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

run into an ex-boyfried.....EVER.

i see all these threads that mention exes....running into them, hanging out with them, etc. i literally have not even SEEN an ex after the fact......nor even run into a guy who was a casual fling, nada. my first love yea...i purposely avoided people/places for a while after our split, made sure he'd not be around b/c it didn't end well, took it hard, etc.....but anyone else, never made any special effort to avoid. and it does kinda amaze me b/c i live not very far from where i grew up, so you'd think at some point i'd bump into one. sure, one major BF lived in bermuda/england.....and some flings were on holiday, etc....but yea, the bulk of the guys should be around somewhere. bizarre?

anyone else the same? or any other bizarre incidents of things/occurances you've never had, think odd.......

I don't have too many ex-boyfriends AND I'll probably never run into them anyway because I live so far from the West Coast. It's nice to be so comfortably far away!! :geek:

hahahaha...cool. i guess reading so much shit on this board, i was feeling odd. but as drowned out so kindly pointed out ...yea, i am a bit long outta the dating scen and all. i guess the youngins would definitely run into exes more...altho like i said, even WHEN i was a youngin myself, it just never happened. granted, a few BFs and a few flings occurred overseas...but yea, i did have a few local BFs, and still nada. never really thought about it much, nor cared...not much for living in the past...but just so many threads about exes, just got me thinkin'. always a dangerous thing.


now, i can't think of ANYthing except live pj in 2009!!!

justam

Heatherj43

For me, its just the opposite. I run into everyone I have ever dated all the time. I can be 100 miles from home and still run into one of them!
I cannot think of one guy I dated who I haven't run into. Also, I spot them. Like, I think most people wouldn't have noticed that so-and-so was there, but not me.
Once I was about 50 miles north of where I live. I was on Lake Huron to see "The Tall Ships". There were lots of people up and down the shore line, over the entire 50 miles. I chose to go north, but could have seen them closer to home. I mean there were like one million people in all over the entire coast line.
We decided to go home and had to walk through a crowd. All of a sudden some girl says, "Hi, Heather". I look and there is this girl with an ex-boyfriend of mine.
I was with my current boyfriend. I don't know this girl, but obviously she knows me. My ex didn't see me, so I just laughed and said to him, "Geez, they let anyone come here, eh?" We talked a little small talk and I went on my way.
What's even worse is my exes run into each other a lot!!
They take the time to tell me about it too! One time I walked into this coffee shop and my ex-husband and 2 ex-boyfriends were all sitting together!
And its not like I had a billion exes. I had long term, over 6 years, relatioinships with all 3 that were sitting together.
I later asked one of them what they were talking about. He said it wasn't about me. Odd, yes! Possible, yes!

BrinkofForever

decides2dream wrote:

anyone else the same? or any other bizarre incidents of things/occurances you've never had, think odd.......

I've never tripped over a sleeping llama while juggling a can of Red Bull, a Stanley Cup Trophy and a roll of duct tape.
Nope, has never happened to me even once.