Women.. question for you..

LikeAnOcean
LikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
edited April 2009 in All Encompassing Trip
Do you like to be chased?

Seriously.

I keep giving up on women because I'm doing all the work. They agree to meet me out, but I drop them after a few dates because they've shown no sign of wanting to make plans or ask ME when I'm available.

Do guys have to do all the work, or are these particular girls just not that interested?
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  • illegal pants
    illegal pants Posts: 13,471
    hell yes

    just worked for me :!:
    wah
  • ZiggyStar
    ZiggyStar Posts: 14,328
    I think they're not that interested....maybe. If they were keen, they'd be ringing you too.

    I chased my bf....totally cracked onto him....10 years later we're still together.
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  • ECM
    ECM Posts: 1,687
    god I want to respond, though I know the backlash if I do :D
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  • «¤tîg®ê§§¤»
    «¤tîg®ê§§¤» Posts: 5,137
    women like being chased, but only if they like you back, otherwise its basically stalking :lol:
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  • ZiggyStar
    ZiggyStar Posts: 14,328
    «¤tîg®ê§§¤» wrote:
    women like being chased, but only if they like you back, otherwise its basically stalking :lol:

    THAT is very very true!!!
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  • justam
    justam Posts: 21,415
    «¤tîg®ê§§¤» wrote:
    women like being chased, but only if they like you back, otherwise its basically stalking :lol:

    Right.

    I'd say it another way just to be clear: women like the enthusiasm of being chased when they like you, but it can be a problem if you're trying to chase them and they DON'T like you.

    I'd say the best way to know whether or not you're on the right side of the line is to think about whether she tends to say "yes" to your requests to see her or whether she says "no."
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  • PearlOfAGirl
    PearlOfAGirl Posts: 15,993
    justam wrote:
    «¤tîg®ê§§¤» wrote:
    women like being chased, but only if they like you back, otherwise its basically stalking :lol:

    Right.

    I'd say it another way just to be clear: women like the enthusiasm of being chased when they like you, but it can be a problem if you're trying to chase them and they DON'T like you.

    I'd say the best way to know whether or not you're on the right side of the line is to think about whether she tends to say "yes" to your requests to see her or whether she says "no."
    Yes!! So true :mrgreen:

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  • CHANGEinWAVES
    CHANGEinWAVES Posts: 10,169
    «¤tîg®ê§§¤» wrote:
    women like being chased, but only if they like you back, otherwise its basically stalking :lol:
    That about sums it up.:D
    When you are tying her up and putting her in the trunk you've gone too far, unless of course it's role play ;)
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  • soulsinging
    soulsinging Posts: 13,202
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    Do you like to be chased?

    Seriously.

    I keep giving up on women because I'm doing all the work. They agree to meet me out, but I drop them after a few dates because they've shown no sign of wanting to make plans or ask ME when I'm available.

    Do guys have to do all the work, or are these particular girls just not that interested?

    You have to do all the work. What you need to understand is the sense of entitlement attractive young women have. Whether or not they're interested in you is irrelevant, because you are only of interest to them insofar as you give them something to do on the weekend and make them feel hot and their friends feel jealous. No guy she sees has any claim on her, you are all just guys she's keeping on deck for the day she decides to settle. Wait until they hit 30 or so and their friends are all having kids and her biological clock starts ticking. Then you'll find women that start to pull their weight in a relationship and call you with ideas for the weekend. Until then, she has no need to call you because she can just accept the date with the former quarterback and ride him until she's walking funny... no need to limit herself by appearing too interested in any one guy.
  • Motha Judson
    Motha Judson Posts: 104
    soulsinging wrote:
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    Do you like to be chased?

    Seriously.

    I keep giving up on women because I'm doing all the work. They agree to meet me out, but I drop them after a few dates because they've shown no sign of wanting to make plans or ask ME when I'm available.

    Do guys have to do all the work, or are these particular girls just not that interested?

    You have to do all the work. What you need to understand is the sense of entitlement attractive young women have. Whether or not they're interested in you is irrelevant, because you are only of interest to them insofar as you give them something to do on the weekend and make them feel hot and their friends feel jealous. No guy she sees has any claim on her, you are all just guys she's keeping on deck for the day she decides to settle. Wait until they hit 30 or so and their friends are all having kids and her biological clock starts ticking. Then you'll find women that start to pull their weight in a relationship and call you with ideas for the weekend. Until then, she has no need to call you because she can just accept the date with the former quarterback and ride him until she's walking funny... no need to limit herself by appearing too interested in any one guy.

    I may not agree with you on TMT, but you are so fucking spot on with this post its unreal. :D
  • TheDecline13
    TheDecline13 Posts: 990
    Evil Closet Monkey wrote:
    god I want to respond, though I know the backlash if I do :D

    DO IT!!
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  • Phantom Pain
    Phantom Pain Posts: 9,876
    soulsinging wrote:
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    Do you like to be chased?

    Seriously.

    I keep giving up on women because I'm doing all the work. They agree to meet me out, but I drop them after a few dates because they've shown no sign of wanting to make plans or ask ME when I'm available.

    Do guys have to do all the work, or are these particular girls just not that interested?

    You have to do all the work. What you need to understand is the sense of entitlement attractive young women have. Whether or not they're interested in you is irrelevant, because you are only of interest to them insofar as you give them something to do on the weekend and make them feel hot and their friends feel jealous. No guy she sees has any claim on her, you are all just guys she's keeping on deck for the day she decides to settle. Wait until they hit 30 or so and their friends are all having kids and her biological clock starts ticking. Then you'll find women that start to pull their weight in a relationship and call you with ideas for the weekend. Until then, she has no need to call you because she can just accept the date with the former quarterback and ride him until she's walking funny... no need to limit herself by appearing too interested in any one guy.

    Wow...Dead On ! Great post
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  • decides2dream
    decides2dream Posts: 14,977
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    Do you like to be chased?

    Seriously.

    I keep giving up on women because I'm doing all the work. They agree to meet me out, but I drop them after a few dates because they've shown no sign of wanting to make plans or ask ME when I'm available.

    Do guys have to do all the work, or are these particular girls just not that interested?


    of course! :mrgreen:
    everyone likes to be persued, desired.
    however, when a girl/woman really likes a guy he doesn't have to do ALL the work...so for this particular girl just have to say, she's just not that into you. early on in the beginnings of a relationship many women may 'expect' more 'work' on the males behalf in their persuit, makes them feel desired, etc.....but if she also desires you, she'll at least meet you halfway, and/or also surprise you on occasion. if you are doing everything, yes....she's just going through the motions. she may like you, but not that much, thus the lack of effort. i think it's pretty obvious if a woman, or a man, is truly interested. they ACT interested - by their behavior, how they react to you, how they present themselves to you....intrested in what you have to say, smiling, responses, body language, etc.
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  • WildChildRose
    WildChildRose Posts: 568
    Effort definitely counts for something.
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  • InHiding19
    InHiding19 Posts: 2,385
    Its really not fair it is way more difficult for attractive men to find attractive women they like.
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  • LikeAnOcean
    LikeAnOcean Posts: 7,718
    soulsinging wrote:
    LikeAnOcean wrote:
    Wait until they hit 30 or so and their friends are all having kids and her biological clock starts ticking. Then you'll find women that start to pull their weight in a relationship and call you with ideas for the weekend. Until then, she has no need to call you because she can just accept the date with the former quarterback and ride him until she's walking funny... no need to limit herself by appearing too interested in any one guy.
    Well that just answered my question. She's either a pill or not that interested. :)
  • patrickredeyes
    patrickredeyes Posts: 8,834
    It a waste when your chasing the wrong one.
  • norm
    norm Posts: 31,146
    chase you? is this the Serengeti? are you gazelles?

    i've asked you out...that means i'm interested....i'm not a bengal tiger....i will not jump through hoops...people really need to get out of high school :roll:
  • _
    _ Posts: 6,657
    Depends on how you define "chased".
  • OneTooFree
    OneTooFree Posts: 265
    i stop being interested in a woman if i don't feel the interest being reciprocated. i'll call her and ask to go out at first, but if i'm doing all the work in terms of setting up/planning our dates that's not the type of woman i want to be in a relationship with

    i'm looking for someone who wants to be with me as much as i want to be with them

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