sense of humor

decides2dream

is one of those things people mention first in being 'important' in looking for a partner (and i too believe it's sooo important)....people always go on about enjoying funny people, etc. also, people will comment how someone doesn't have a sense of humor, but really...while i know there truly ARE those rare few with no humor ....it really is just having a DIFFERENT sense of humor. even culturally, what is acceptible or unacceptible to find humor in, what people laugh at or are appalled at....varies so much.


i was just talking about this with my husband the other night, b/c even as much as we make each other laugh, purposely and often by accident :P....we we're looking at previews for movies and was commenting how good something looked, something i thought looked like shit and he joked 'well it's clearly not made for you.' which is true, oftentimes humor is directed at a specific gender, tho sure...lots of it can translate over. i just thought of it again now, seeing there's something about mary being discussed.


so really.....HOW does one figure out how to find that elusive person with the RIGHT sense of humor, or enough of it? and how do you appreciate, or not, that others have different sense of humor from you? i just think how many times ive been in stiches over something, and clearly not too many else thought it was funny...and then, vice versa. comedic movies and talk radio are probably where my husband and i differ most and yet we can laugh our asses off about life events or an offhand comment...or sue, just doing something utterly stupid.

anyhoo...i know i am rambling ....but i just find it fascinating how different we all can be for something so universal as humor..........

AmentsChick

I only read the first sentence...sorry. But, a sense of humor is HHHHHHHHHUUUUUUGE to me. It comes second only to "non-murderer".

chiquimonkey

i'm lucky everybody i love and is close to me are just as warped as me :P haha

it's an interesting thing to think about though, i'll have to ponder it more when i'm not at work (fucking big ass PJ banner on the top of the page, be damned lol)

JonnyPistachio

Sense of humor is probably the #1 thing for me too. Laughing and smiling is huge. After all, laughing is a universal language.

norm

AmentsChick wrote:

I only read the first sentence...sorry. But, a sense of humor is HHHHHHHHHUUUUUUGE to me. It comes second only to "non-murderer".

decides2dream

JonnyPistachio wrote:

Sense of humor is probably the #1 thing for me too. Laughing and smiling is huge. After all, laughing is a universal language.

absolutely.
that's the point...are we just magically drawn to those with similar sensibilities? even on this board, differing ages, genders, nationalities......sometimes clash, sometimes all laugh hysterically together, and sure, sometimes at each other. it just interests me.


chica...yea.......i find the same. my one sister and i, in particular, soooo warped and on the same page. she's also great for not 'getting' the joke, or being gullable...which is always wickedly fun. or as i said, my husband and i laugh SO much together.......but then with certain movies, he'll be in tears or i will...but the other will not. haha. certain friends like that too, and yet there are other people i care a lot about and i realize, our humor...NOT the same, or missing something, and sure...the relationship never grows as close. it really is fascinating to think about. at least to me. and sure, humor, itself, shouldn't be planned/thought out - unless you're a stand-up comic, then it's your job....just happens, quite naturally to be the most satisfying/comfortable. i guess like most things, the best happens when you're not even trying!

soulsinging

I believe that all people that claim sense of humor is their #1 desired trait are liars.

That said, to get on with someone, I think you need at least some agreement on what lines are to be crossed and what aren't. Style of humor is less important I think. I have a friend whose style of humor is similar to mine, but she is much more PC and I know if we were to attempt to date, I would inevitably outrage her with my inappropriate humor. It's all about what you're willing to laugh at, not as much about how the joke is told.

Heineken Helen

the bf and I generally have a similar sense of humour... BUT there are some things he finds funny and I'm just like :? ehh ok... and vice versa... but we learned that pretty early on. His friends also possess that 'other' sense of humour that I don't get so I think some senses of humour are regional... e.g. where I'm living now, I don't get many of the jokes made here but they usually get mine... maybe I'm just stupid :oops:

soulsinging

A related question... why is it funny when people get hurt? I'm not disapproving, I'm just curious. One of those stupid home video shows came on after my fav sitcom reruns, and all the videos are people doing stupid and painful things. But even within the videos... this baby uses a hammer and hits its dad, who is in pain, and the baby laughs. It's too young for social programming to have kicked in... why is that innate in us?

libragirl

If they find the same things that are funny too me funny it's all good..If they think mistreating animals or some sadist shit is funny that is not cool. It's as simple as that for me..lol..If people don't take themselves too seriously it's attractive to me.

Motha Judson

I haven't met a girl who had the same sense of humor as me..........I guess they can't handle it.

Brain of J.Lo

My husband and I have nearly the exact same sense of humor. We are so similar in that way that it's almost scary. I've found that I tend to have more in common with guys where my sense of humor is concerned, though.

I am skeptical when I hear someone say that sense of humor is the most important thing in finding a mate, but for me it was pretty much the entire reason I initially became interested in my husband. We have the relatively unique experience of having met online -- and on Synergy, not on a dating site where we were looking for potential mates, or getting matched up with similar people. (Hell, I was engaged... :oops: ) Because our interactions for the first six months of knowing each other were through text alone, his sense of humor truly was the main thing drawing me to him. (I was also really into his intelligence and we have an incredible amount of similar interests, but we spent so much of that time just laughing about god knows what.) I barely knew what he looked like until we met, but I already knew he was the funniest person I'd ever known.

kenny olav

the marmosets made you laugh, didn't they?

Thorns2010

Kenny Olav wrote:

the marmosets made you laugh, didn't they?

NO!

Actually they freaked me out a little bit!

kenny olav

Thorns2010 wrote:

Kenny Olav wrote:

the marmosets made you laugh, didn't they?

NO!

Actually they freaked me out a little bit!

well, that made me laugh!!


how about these guys?

Thorns2010

Kenny Olav wrote:

Thorns2010 wrote:

Kenny Olav wrote:

the marmosets made you laugh, didn't they?

NO!

Actually they freaked me out a little bit!

well, that made me laugh!!


how about these guys?

We have a wiener!!!

wolfbear

Paul and I laugh at everything, no PC in our family. Maybe that is the clue, just seeing the good or funny side of life? There is definitely a difference between being funny and just laughing because something is not funny, just odd or unexpected. I'm not sure what it is, but having someone who shares the same laughs is wonderful and indeed a great part of a relationship.

SPEEDY MCCREADY

i take life way to serious to care whether a person has a sense of humor......

chiquimonkey

Kenny Olav wrote:

how about these guys?

i LOVE those lol

i think it's important to share similar senses of humor. there are other points of compatibility that are more important, but humor is right up there....especially when life deals you some crap, having someone bring levity to your life can make all the difference.

soulsinging

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

i take life way to serious to care whether a person has a sense of humor......

Poster collector?

SPEEDY MCCREADY

soulsinging wrote:

SPEEDY MCCREADY wrote:

i take life way to serious to care whether a person has a sense of humor......

Poster collector?

hehehehehe...........

i was scared my post was going to go unnoticed......