sense of humor
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is one of those things people mention first in being 'important' in looking for a partner (and i too believe it's sooo important)....people always go on about enjoying funny people, etc. also, people will comment how someone doesn't have a sense of humor, but really...while i know there truly ARE those rare few with no humor 
....it really is just having a DIFFERENT sense of humor. even culturally, what is acceptible or unacceptible to find humor in, what people laugh at or are appalled at....varies so much.
i was just talking about this with my husband the other night, b/c even as much as we make each other laugh, purposely and often by accident :P....we we're looking at previews for movies and was commenting how good something looked, something i thought looked like shit and he joked 'well it's clearly not made for you.' which is true, oftentimes humor is directed at a specific gender, tho sure...lots of it can translate over. i just thought of it again now, seeing there's something about mary being discussed.
so really.....HOW does one figure out how to find that elusive person with the RIGHT sense of humor, or enough of it? and how do you appreciate, or not, that others have different sense of humor from you? i just think how many times ive been in stiches over something, and clearly not too many else thought it was funny...and then, vice versa. comedic movies and talk radio are probably where my husband and i differ most and yet we can laugh our asses off about life events or an offhand comment...or sue, just doing something utterly stupid.
anyhoo...i know i am rambling
....but i just find it fascinating how different we all can be for something so universal as humor..........
....it really is just having a DIFFERENT sense of humor. even culturally, what is acceptible or unacceptible to find humor in, what people laugh at or are appalled at....varies so much.i was just talking about this with my husband the other night, b/c even as much as we make each other laugh, purposely and often by accident :P....we we're looking at previews for movies and was commenting how good something looked, something i thought looked like shit and he joked 'well it's clearly not made for you.' which is true, oftentimes humor is directed at a specific gender, tho sure...lots of it can translate over. i just thought of it again now, seeing there's something about mary being discussed.
so really.....HOW does one figure out how to find that elusive person with the RIGHT sense of humor, or enough of it? and how do you appreciate, or not, that others have different sense of humor from you? i just think how many times ive been in stiches over something, and clearly not too many else thought it was funny...and then, vice versa. comedic movies and talk radio are probably where my husband and i differ most and yet we can laugh our asses off about life events or an offhand comment...or sue, just doing something utterly stupid.
anyhoo...i know i am rambling
....but i just find it fascinating how different we all can be for something so universal as humor.......... Stay with me...
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I am myself like you somehow
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it's an interesting thing to think about though, i'll have to ponder it more when i'm not at work (fucking big ass PJ banner on the top of the page, be damned lol)
absolutely.
that's the point...are we just magically drawn to those with similar sensibilities? even on this board, differing ages, genders, nationalities......sometimes clash, sometimes all laugh hysterically together, and sure, sometimes at each other.
chica...yea.......i find the same. my one sister and i, in particular, soooo warped and on the same page. she's also great for not 'getting' the joke, or being gullable...which is always wickedly fun. or as i said, my husband and i laugh SO much together.......but then with certain movies, he'll be in tears or i will...but the other will not. haha. certain friends like that too, and yet there are other people i care a lot about and i realize, our humor...NOT the same, or missing something, and sure...the relationship never grows as close. it really is fascinating to think about. at least to me. and sure, humor, itself, shouldn't be planned/thought out - unless you're a stand-up comic, then it's your job....just happens, quite naturally to be the most satisfying/comfortable. i guess like most things, the best happens when you're not even trying!
Let's just breathe...
I am myself like you somehow
That said, to get on with someone, I think you need at least some agreement on what lines are to be crossed and what aren't. Style of humor is less important I think. I have a friend whose style of humor is similar to mine, but she is much more PC and I know if we were to attempt to date, I would inevitably outrage her with my inappropriate humor. It's all about what you're willing to laugh at, not as much about how the joke is told.
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I am skeptical when I hear someone say that sense of humor is the most important thing in finding a mate, but for me it was pretty much the entire reason I initially became interested in my husband. We have the relatively unique experience of having met online -- and on Synergy, not on a dating site where we were looking for potential mates, or getting matched up with similar people. (Hell, I was engaged... :oops: ) Because our interactions for the first six months of knowing each other were through text alone, his sense of humor truly was the main thing drawing me to him. (I was also really into his intelligence and we have an incredible amount of similar interests, but we spent so much of that time just laughing about god knows what.) I barely knew what he looked like until we met, but I already knew he was the funniest person I'd ever known.
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i think it's important to share similar senses of humor. there are other points of compatibility that are more important, but humor is right up there....especially when life deals you some crap, having someone bring levity to your life can make all the difference.
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i heard you and your husband share the same sense of humour.... well you had to... as you dont have one...
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