Ahh. The Joys of Dating Again and The Questioning it Brings

RockinInCanada

Well recently I have met this new woman (blind date type of thing) and we have been on three dates I guess.

First was just a meet-up, something very casual without any pressure. The second was for drinks one night and the most recent was doing something together that involved some outdoors stuff.

I have been away from the scene for well six years now beacuse of my previous non-single status as to say. So I am just trying garner some advice from people who have been in the dating scene recently on if I am going in the right direction. After each date I have received a large hug from this person and in between dates we do not see each other we have talked on the phone for hours. After the most recent date I received a rather nice hug again from her with a promise for her to call me that evening. Anyway she never did, just wondering from a ladies point of view if I should give her a call or just wait this out. Seemed like everything was okay, I know she is not a very forward person so the hugs seem great for now.

Just been so long out of the loop that I am trying to get a feel of where I may stand.

SPEEDY MCCREADY

Rockin'InCanada wrote:

Well recently I have met this new woman (blind date type of thing) and we have been on three dates I guess.

First was just a meet-up, something very casual without any pressure. The second was for drinks one night and the most recent was doing something together that involved some outdoors stuff.

I have been away from the scene for well six years now beacuse of my previous non-single status as to say. So I am just trying garner some advice from people who have been in the dating scene recently on if I am going in the right direction. After each date I have received a large hug from this person and in between dates we do not see each other we have talked on the phone for hours. After the most recent date I received a rather nice hug again from her with a promise for her to call me that evening. Anyway she never did, just wondering from a ladies point of view if I should give her a call or just wait this out. Seemed like everything was okay, I know she is not a very forward person so the hugs seem great for now.

Just been so long out of the loop that I am trying to get a feel of where I may stand.

wait for her to call.....

and why date just one girl at a time???

i say...."date as many girls as you can"

but what the fuck do i know???? hehehehe

Heineken Helen

nothing wrong with giving her a call rockin

it's only when you call three times a day that calling is wrong

it all sounds good though... but... just hugs??? :oops:

mfc2006

i say call her. maybe she just forgot or something...no biggie. you've been on 3 dates, right? you have nothing to lose by calling her. maybe just give a ring & make plans to hang out this week??

of course, i could be way off...it's been a few years since i've been single. but, if it were me, i'd call her & wouldn't even ask her why she didn't call.

decides2dream

mfc2006 wrote:

i say call her. maybe she just forgot or something...no biggie. you've been on 3 dates, right? you have nothing to lose by calling her. maybe just give a ring & make plans to hang out this week??

of course, i could be way off...it's been a few years since i've been single. but, if it were me, i'd call her & wouldn't even ask her why she didn't call.

exactly.

i will say, i would not know the first thing about dating today...at all....i've not been on a real date with someone new in 20+ years. :shock: however, rusty memory or not, i always believe in following your own thoughts and desires. so if you want to call, call...if you don't, then don't. just don't overthink things, beahve as you wish, enjoy and don't play games. well only play fun games, but i think those ome after 3 dates.

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Sounds to me like it's going well. I think the most important thing is to be sincere. As others have said, don't overthink things or play games. If you want to call her, call her. Also, I agree with not even mentioning that she didn't call you (as long as it doesn't happen all the time). You wouldn't want to make her feel like dating is more about obligations than fun. This from a woman who's currently in the dating scene...

supersonicyears

I hate to say this but I will. You're the guy why aren't you calling her??

norm

whatever you do, don't do this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0PUrNwvvBk

mfc2006

norm wrote:

whatever you do, don't do this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0PUrNwvvBk

hahaha!! classic scene!

Whizbang

norm wrote:

whatever you do, don't do this

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u0PUrNwvvBk

loves it!


Seriously, call her if you want.....

but I do agree, why date only one? have fun dating a few people.

CreedDisease

Man, just be yourself....if you want to call, and it feels right, then call.... It's just my opinion, but when it is right between two people, it's effortless... you don't have to think, or overanalyze, don't have to play games, all you have to do is be yourself, and enjoy how alive you feel inside... it should be mutual, you should both not be able to wait to see each other again...

flywallyfly

She's not gonna call. She's just not that into you.

Just kidding, someone had to use that stupid line. She is probably wondering just like you about why YOU havent called...so call her, nothing to lose by doing it.

kevinbeetle

3 dates and 3 hugs, one nice hug = no interest from her. sorry to burst your bubble, but the second time out there should have been at least a kiss a the cheek. im not sure what a 'nice hug' means, but if her loins do not feel the warmth of yours, and the hug is cheek to cheek, you just have a good friendship now. it sounds like you like this girl, so if there is a fourth date, you need to pull the trigger and see wtf is going on. if she's into you, she will call. dont sound desparate. girls dont forget to call you.

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kevinbeetle wrote:

3 dates and 3 hugs, one nice hug = no interest from her. sorry to burst your bubble, but the second time out there should have been at least a kiss a the cheek. im not sure what a 'nice hug' means, but if her loins do not feel the warmth of yours, and the hug is cheek to cheek, you just have a good friendship now. it sounds like you like this girl, so if there is a fourth date, you need to pull the trigger and see wtf is going on.

This is exactly the kind of attitude that makes me hate dating. :(