am I wrong...

CHANGEinWAVES

To let my soon to be ex husband know about my Grandmother's failing health?
I texted him today about her recent condition (she has MRSA and is in an isolation unit) and I haven't heard from him at all. I thought since he and I were together for 10 yrs and our families knew of each other dating back to the early 1900's (they were both from the ukraine and lived here in the same area) he'd want to know and possibly pass it along to his mom.

I guess if I don't hear from him I should no longer let him know how things progress?

sweet adeline

thats what happens when people break up.

decides2dream

I guess if I don't hear from him I should no longer let him know how things progress?




i'd say yes here.


you were not wrong to let him know, but if he doesn't respond, pretty much signifies lack of interest, so why bother? i mean, in all honesty....i've known my husband off and on for over 20 years...and yet, i feel zero close connection to his family. i don't dislike them or anything, but there's no bond, etc.....so while sure i would probably be polite about it, i also wouldn't care if he let me know about his family if we were not together. so unless there is a close, shared tie...i personally don't see the point.

Who Princess

I think it was appropriate to let him know. Considering the amount of time that you were together and the fact that your families knew (of) each other, plus I'd assume he'd want to know just for her sake, apart from you. It's up to him to act on it. He doesn't have to respond to you necessarily. He could just tell his mother and they could deal with it independently.

I know when people split up it makes a lot of things awkward but you were all still a family for many years.

CHANGEinWAVES

sweet adeline wrote:

thats what happens when people break up.

I understand that, but 2 of his family members have gotten ill and passed since our separation, and he has let me know. I guess we're closer to the end of this now than we were then.

Keiran

sweet adeline wrote:

thats what happens when people break up.

This is truth! You aren't family anymore. And as abrasive as that sounds, reality is very harsh. It's what happens in the aftermath of divorce.

When love dies, the depth to which the tendrils of devastation and ruin extend throughout our lives is unimaginable. Reaching and touching innocent victims who once knew caring but are now outcast due to no fault of their own.

Focus on your grandmother and your family. And best wishes to all of you in these difficult times.

Gary Carter

sweet adeline wrote:

thats what happens when people break up.

yes thats true but its also the nice thing to do when the families have known each other for 100+. so much for being a nice and caring person :roll:. brandi i'd still let him know how shes doing just so he doesnt say oh you didnt tell me and my family was surprised by the loss. hope your grandma gets better, thoughts are with you

Who Princess

metsfan wrote:

sweet adeline wrote:

thats what happens when people break up.

yes thats true but its also the nice thing to do when the families have known each other for 100+. so much for being a nice and caring person :roll:. brandi i'd still let him know how shes doing just so he doesnt say oh you didnt tell me and my family was surprised by the loss. hope your grandma gets better, thoughts are with you

I agree. It also happens that texts can be deleted unintentionally and sometimes mine are delayed. I don't know why but I get them a day or 2 later. :?

I also hope your grandmother is better soon.