People who are always smiling

kenny olav

Do you know people like this? Some of my co-workers are like this, all of them female. And it's not fake smiling. They just have a genuinely cheerful disposition, ALL OF THE TIME. I don't mind it (I would mind it if it were fake) but I don't get it. I'm not an unhappy person, but my expression is typically blank unless something affects my mood. Are some people born with the "happy gene" or something??

Stone Is God

If they were I must have been at the back of the line for that.

Heineken Helen

I don't think I know anyone like that I'm like you and sometimes I try to make myself smile and it feels like my face is gonna crack or something if I don't mean it

I do like smiley happy people though... cos I do actually feed off them... it's usually contagious.

decides2dream

Kenny Olav wrote:

Do you know people like this? Some of my co-workers are like this, all of them female. And it's not fake smiling. They just have a genuinely cheerful disposition, ALL OF TIME. I don't mind it (I would mind it if it were fake) but I don't get it. I'm not an unhappy person, but my expression is typically blank unless something affects my mood. Are some people born with the "happy gene" or something??

in some sense, i think so. i don't know if there is A gene, but i do believe there has been some causal link to this....and that some people are genetically predispositioned to being positive in their outlook, whereas others are more disposed to negativity. of course, it is also part of environment, culture, upbringing...but to some degree in any case, we are predisposed to such.


i don't know many people like that, but the few that i do..i agree, completely genuine. and no, they don't have any more of gifted life than the next person...they just genuinely see the good before the bad, and manage to be content. even with our predispositions, it Is possible to at least alter our outlooks, if not change them completely. like nything else, it's not easy to change things that aren't natural to us...but ceetainly possible, and worthy. a 'positive attitude' and generally being a 'happy person' has been linked many times to... a longer, healthier, happier life. sounds good!

mfc2006

i know some people like that...they kinda freak me out

Fahka

i think some people smile alot just to have something to do.. Ive been told im smiley, but thats just because i tend to think alot of different things are humorous But you forizzle, you gotta rock the complacent/not here face ONCE in a blue moon...

DeLukin

It's the smiley ones that you have to look out for...

dharma69

Huh. I opened this thread thinking that it was about Nancy Pelosi.

milarso

I love smiling. Smiling's my favorite.

PJGARDEN

I think I'm like this. My friends ask me all the time why I'm so happy all the time but I just tell them I don't have anything to be upset about. I'm alive, I'm healthy, I'm happy.

CreedDisease

PJGARDEN wrote:

I think I'm like this. My friends ask me all the time why I'm so happy all the time but I just tell them I don't have anything to be upset about. I'm alive, I'm healthy, I'm happy.

exactly

pearljgirl2010

I have the WORST fake smile...it's soooooo obvious! I am generally a happy person, but am not a constant-smiler.

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Kenny Olav wrote:

Do you know people like this? Some of my co-workers are like this, all of them female. And it's not fake smiling. They just have a genuinely cheerful disposition, ALL OF THE TIME. I don't mind it (I would mind it if it were fake) but I don't get it. I'm not an unhappy person, but my expression is typically blank unless something affects my mood. Are some people born with the "happy gene" or something??

I don't usually like - or at least don't relate to - people who are either fake smiley or always happy. I think I'm generally a pretty pissy/pessimistic person. And yet, I just realized I might fall into the category of people you're describing, especially at work. But it's not that I'm happy or fake; I'm just friendly. I think it's important to have a warm, friendly work environment.

your move now

the problem i have is i apparently dont smile... not that im depressed or anything just off in my own little world most of the time. People who smile all the time are fine. provided they arent constantly asking you why you aren;t smiling.

Heineken Helen

your_move_now wrote:

the problem i have is i apparently dont smile... not that im depressed or anything just off in my own little world most of the time. People who smile all the time are fine. provided they arent constantly asking you why you aren;t smiling.

same here... and I'm happy in my own little world but then someone will come up and say 'cheer up love' :shock: even though I may have been thinking about beer or rugby or Pearl Jam or something like that. I dunno how I look so miserable when I'm usually happy

FoxyMop

I smile a lot, though not all the time. I think I generally give off a positive, happy vibe. Life's too short to be negative

Stella

I am smiley. that is what i blame my wrinkles on. too much smiling. But friendly smiling, not smiling assassin smiley.

adropinthepark

I am one of those, at least out in public.
When people ask why I look so cheery, I have NO idea what to say. I just smile a lot, plus I find soooooo many things in life funny - from corny to morbid, sarcastic and cynical. That definitely helps keep a smile on my face.
Though, the not so light and fluffy stuff tends to shock people who don't know me. I think that's 'cause my smile is genuine and who could be so freakin' happy about thinking of disemboweling another???

Yellow Ledbelly

I have known smileys who I thought were mental defectives and they gave me the creeps, but I have known others who I could tell were generally cheerful people. My grandpa always said "you might as well laugh as to cry" and I kind of try to live by that -- or I remind myself of that a lot -- but it is hard for me as my dad's side of the familiy is generally a hot-tempered bunch and likes to raise hell. I kind of fall in the middle of that -- which might make some folks think I am a mental defective -- but I am quite a hell raiser myself more of the time. As for smiling all the time...no I do not, not that much at all actually, which doesn't mean I am unhappy but just that I am not that cheerful of a person. I've got quite a frown -- wrinkle up my forehead and all that crap -- and mom has always said I am going to have deep furrows up there if I don't stop acting that way

decides2dream

adropinthepark wrote:

I am one of those, at least out in public.
When people ask why I look so cheery, I have NO idea what to say. I just smile a lot, plus I find soooooo many things in life funny - from corny to morbid, sarcastic and cynical. That definitely helps keep a smile on my face.
Though, the not so light and fluffy stuff tends to shock people who don't know me. I think that's 'cause my smile is genuine and who could be so freakin' happy about thinking of disemboweling another???

you are!
and it's funny, i'd not expected it getting to know you here first. not that you don't come off as a friendly person, just not so smiley.


i am not smiley. i am a generally happy person, relatively friendly....but overall, i am pretty reserved and polite with people i don't know. i also can be very insular while on my own....so if i do smile, it's just my own thoughts....but i think overall i am just blank-faced most of the time. however, i must look approachable b/c total strangers come up and talk to me ALL the time....always have my whole life!

inmytree

Kenny Olav wrote:

Do you know people like this? Some of my co-workers are like this, all of them female. And it's not fake smiling. They just have a genuinely cheerful disposition, ALL OF THE TIME. I don't mind it (I would mind it if it were fake) but I don't get it. I'm not an unhappy person, but my expression is typically blank unless something affects my mood. Are some people born with the "happy gene" or something??

perhaps it's not them....perhaps it's you...maybe your sweet goodness brings smiles to their faces...you, lady killer, you....

chiquimonkey

i think i'm one of the smiley people. the other day i went into the coffee shop by my house to get some beans, and the lady at the counter said 'you are so cheery'. i was like huh? lol and she went on saying that i'm always smiling. i felt like saying 'well i'm frowning on the inside bitch', but i actually was in a good mood the guy who does deliveries at work says the same thing, he says he looks forward to dropping stuff off with me because my smile is contagious

it's not anything i purposely do, and i'm a pretty moody person. maybe it's a subconscious thing to keep myself level and on an up beat. who knows!

decides2dream wrote:

however, i must look approachable b/c total strangers come up and talk to me ALL the time....always have my whole life!

this always happens to me too! the running joke in my family is that i was a priest in a past life because everyone insists on confessing everything to me. even if i have no idea who they are lol

SPEEDY MCCREADY

im always smiling....

actually.............im usually laughing my ass off..................

Yellow Ledbelly

chiquimonkey wrote:

i think i'm one of the smiley people. the other day i went into the coffee shop by my house to get some beans, and the lady at the counter said 'you are so cheery'. i was like huh? lol and she went on saying that i'm always smiling. i felt like saying 'well i'm frowning on the inside bitch', but i actually was in a good mood the guy who does deliveries at work says the same thing, he says he looks forward to dropping stuff off with me because my smile is contagious

it's not anything i purposely do, and i'm a pretty moody person. maybe it's a subconscious thing to keep myself level and on an up beat. who knows!

decides2dream wrote:

however, i must look approachable b/c total strangers come up and talk to me ALL the time....always have my whole life!

this always happens to me too! the running joke in my family is that i was a priest in a past life because everyone insists on confessing everything to me. even if i have no idea who they are lol

I too have always gotten a lot of strangers striking up conversations with me for some reason. I know I don't look that friendly. Last year at Bonnaroo the other two dudes I went with were amazed at how many people picked me out to talk to and basically no one said anything to them. I didn't mind it at 'Roo, but I had just as soon be left along in my day-to-day life

LOV2ROCK

That's because they are the one's who are walking around with the rabbit pearl doing it's job! :oops: :shock:

decides2dream

chiquimonkey wrote:

i think i'm one of the smiley people. the other day i went into the coffee shop by my house to get some beans, and the lady at the counter said 'you are so cheery'. i was like huh? lol and she went on saying that i'm always smiling. i felt like saying 'well i'm frowning on the inside bitch', but i actually was in a good mood the guy who does deliveries at work says the same thing, he says he looks forward to dropping stuff off with me because my smile is contagious

it's not anything i purposely do, and i'm a pretty moody person. maybe it's a subconscious thing to keep myself level and on an up beat. who knows!

decides2dream wrote:

however, i must look approachable b/c total strangers come up and talk to me ALL the time....always have my whole life!

this always happens to me too! the running joke in my family is that i was a priest in a past life because everyone insists on confessing everything to me. even if i have no idea who they are lol

i am almost always smiley to people in stores, to delivery guys at work too, etc...i think it's just an auto-pilot thing for me, be polite and cheerful to those who help you out.


and seriously, EVERYone tell s me their shit, whether i want to know or not! :P


however, i think truly smiley people almost never look pissed or down, etc. when i a reaslly cranky and tire...it shows. big-time. i know it, everyone knows it. no matter how nice i may be, my face gives away how i feel inside, and that ain't pretty then! i know this clearly now, after a particularly grueling week last october, working over 100 hours in 7 days. :shock: yea, i was not smiley!

kenny olav

Wilco - How to Fight Loneliness


How to fight loneliness
Smile all the time
Shine you teeth til meaningless
Sharpen them with lies

And whatevers going down
Will follow you around
Thats how you fight loneliness
You laugh at every joke
Drag your blanket blindly
Fill your heart with smoke
And the first thing that you want
Will be the last thing you ever need
Thats how you fight it

Just smile all the time
Just smile all the time
Just smile all the time
Just smile all the time

chiquimonkey

decides2dream wrote:

however, i think truly smiley people almost never look pissed or down, etc. when i a reaslly cranky and tire...it shows. big-time. i know it, everyone knows it. no matter how nice i may be, my face gives away how i feel inside, and that ain't pretty then! i know this clearly now, after a particularly grueling week last october, working over 100 hours in 7 days. :shock: yea, i was not smiley!

yeah i guess i'm a smiley, i usually am smiling. but i also have the worst poker face in the world. if i'm really upset about something, there is no hiding it! and if someone is irritating me i have the worst way of keeping it to myself lol

bee_boy

Kenny Olav wrote:

Some of my co-workers are like this, all of them female. And it's not fake smiling.

I'm assuming they have a VERY satisfying sex life

decides2dream

chiquimonkey wrote:

decides2dream wrote:

however, i think truly smiley people almost never look pissed or down, etc. when i a reaslly cranky and tire...it shows. big-time. i know it, everyone knows it. no matter how nice i may be, my face gives away how i feel inside, and that ain't pretty then! i know this clearly now, after a particularly grueling week last october, working over 100 hours in 7 days. :shock: yea, i was not smiley!

yeah i guess i'm a smiley, i usually am smiling. but i also have the worst poker face in the world. if i'm really upset about something, there is no hiding it! and if someone is irritating me i have the worst way of keeping it to myself lol

exactly.


my closest colleague is a smiley person, truly genuine too. and even if she is in a shit mood, she somehow manages to remain smiley, always looks content and calm....it is a very rare thing to see her at all down-trodden. it truly is a gift in a sense.